Ghthis Posted January 11, 2018 Posted January 11, 2018 ive been with my vanilla(ish) girlfriend 3 years or so. We have done some play but barely scratched the service of what I’d like. Would I be being realistic if I was to think over time I could normalise kinks and push the boundaries or would that make me a bad person. To be clear I don’t want actually *** her everything would have to be concensuel but I’d like to slowly push her limits to something a little kinkier . I think the fundamental problem is that although I do enjoy being a dom I’d love it if from time to time She would tie me down ;thrash me till I cryed and pegged me... or something like that but seeing me imascualted like that would be a big turn off for her.
Switchymishie Posted January 11, 2018 Posted January 11, 2018 Yeah probably won't happen unless she's secretly a sadist. Have you tried talking to her?
Ghthis Posted January 11, 2018 Author Posted January 11, 2018 Yea I thought as much! I’ve brought it up a couple of times but it always get laughed off. if I can get her start with a light bit of one or the other and see how she feels about it or if I suggest toy shopping - she likes those things individually so I don’t imagine she would object hah. But you’re probably not far from root of the issue and I just need to talk to her about it and then move on from there don’t I.
ey**** Posted January 11, 2018 Posted January 11, 2018 talking about it is always a good step. some things might take time to evolve and some things might be totally off her limits for one reason or another, so you'll have to learn to respect that also.
Submissiveman2u Posted January 20, 2018 Posted January 20, 2018 Slowly slowly catch a Mistress take your time don't scare her...
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