Do females develop a love for anal?

[Ozone-9068]

Do females develop a love for anal after doing it multiple times? And what’s the best place you had anal before ? 

[Wo****]

Relatively new to anal, been lucky enough to be introduced to it properly and my current partner and I are exploring it together.

[Deleted Member]

Personally I loved it from the first time and still do, but I think it has to be introduced gently for most women (if they’re open to it). Starting with just touching and kissing around and fingers - that kind of thing.

[Deleted Member]

Depends on the person you try it with and it can go both ways, not everyone will develop a love for it and I know more than a few women who hated it. I’ve personally had bad experiences with it so it’s a hard no for me now and any enjoyment I might have developed is now caught up with the emotional damage that comes from a breakdown in trust and a *** of boundaries.

[ey****]

I think this depends on the motivation of the question

So, there's no certainty anyone who is unwilling to try it will, in fact, love it

There's also no certainty anyone who tried it and didn't like it will go on to love it

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I met a lady once in a gangbang whose rule was "unless you're smaller than my butt plug, no anal" - and that sums up a problem that a lot of guys generally try to ram their cock up there without any real anal training first - so it ends up being ***ful and an off-putting experience.

 

[Wo****]

On 8/12/2020 at 12:25 AM, Kinky_kat said:

Depends on the person you try it with and it can go both ways, not everyone will develop a love for it and I know more than a few women who hated it. I’ve personally had bad experiences with it so it’s a hard no for me now and any enjoyment I might have developed is now caught up with the emotional damage that comes from a breakdown in trust and a *** of boundaries.

It can be overcome though.

I was anally rap'ed at 17 so it was a huge deal for me.

Trust, time and lots of talking were involved.

[Tropicwolf]

Absolutely

[mu****]

Do you have any experience and what are you actually trying to understand just the pleasure part or technical stuff too?

[mu****]

Sadly most men watch porn and think you just shove it in or put lube and just shove it in. Pornstars almost fast for a day so there aren’t any accidents.
Personally in my opinion if you can’t deal with the poop you shouldn’t be doing it. There are actually a lot of people who enjoy and are comfortable with accidents happening.
Douching is actually not very healthy, so it’s not fair to expect your partner to do that.
Please read up all that you can on it and use your instincts to weed out the crap.

I know in the uk you get a lube that helps the anal muscles relax but that increases the chances of a 💩 accident.

This has too be super consensual and cannot happen “in the heat of the moment”, someone did that too me once and got kicked in his gut, sadly didn’t feel like shoving something up his arse so he knew how it felt.

Scientifically speaking if you do everything right there is a chance of it being enjoyable. Start slow, have your foreplay, have your foreplay with anus, rimming (with tongue and finger) (take care of hygiene), let her know how erotic you find it. Start with only one finger with a lot of lube. If you can’t do this much honestly you probably shouldn’t be have anal with the person. FYI a lot of men enjoy this as well straight men too, you might be better with her if can understand it yourself 1st.
I read somewhere it can feel like poop is coming out, that would be a very difficult sensation for your partner to deal with if you can’t do the above.
If you can make her feel comfortable then she will have the mind space to control her rectum muscles which will make it easy for you both. Let her know she has agency over her own body.

[yo****]

I do! Now to find a man that likes to lick it and get my body open and ready for him😋

[ey****]

4 hours ago, mumbai482 said:

Pornstars almost fast for a day so there aren’t any accidents.

Generally, they don't.

In fact - the one time there was someone who was fasting so not to have an accident DID have an accident (and then feinted later) 

In porn it's generally a douche or an enema.  It's also... well... mess is edited out.

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7 hours ago, eyemblacksheep said:

 

In porn it's generally a douche or an enema.  It's also... well... mess is edited out.

Yes totally, real life, the place we live is totally different to porn, there is mess I'm afraid. It's part and parcel of anal but it can be soooo much fun 😋

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8 hours ago, eyemblacksheep said:

Generally, they don't.

In fact - the one time there was someone who was fasting so not to have an accident DID have an accident (and then feinted later) 

In porn it's generally a douche or an enema.  It's also... well... mess is edited out.

I was looking to hookup with a guy who insisted I’d have to have an enema each time. Er, nope! I do find that side of it makes me a little nervous, I admit. I tend to control my food beforehand.

[Deleted Member]

I feel, for me, the desire for it comes in cycles. Could there, indeed, be a physiological cycle for this as there is for vaginal sex? Or even oral for that matter (as there are times I fixate on that need also)? As for a “best” experience so far, it was with my current partner and because we agreed there would be no vag sex on the menu that weekend but really wanted each other to cum loudly so we were all about everything else in all the ways possible.

[ho****]

It took a few times of going for it and lubing the fuck up, but I fucking LOVE anal. Sometimes you just have to try again. Not right away, but after you've talked with your partner and whatnot.

[st****]

For me it’s a love hate relationship lol

[ey****]

On 8/12/2020 at 7:07 AM, Curvykate said:

I was looking to hookup with a guy who insisted I’d have to have an enema each time. Er, nope! I do find that side of it makes me a little nervous, I admit. I tend to control my food beforehand.

Actually, yeah. Controlling food is a big part of things which makes a difference.   Certainly avoiding spicy, rich or meat-heavy dishes helps.

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I personally douche.  I know it is harmful too often - but then I also, what, it's usually only once for every couple of months for me.    And also, while I have avoided serious accidents - douching can make things worse I remember once on a way to a dungeon I suddenly had to dive into a pub and use their bathroom as the douche had unsettled something

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3 hours ago, eyemblacksheep said:

Actually, yeah. Controlling food is a big part of things which makes a difference.   Certainly avoiding spicy, rich or meat-heavy dishes helps.

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I personally douche.  I know it is harmful too often - but then I also, what, it's usually only once for every couple of months for me.    And also, while I have avoided serious accidents - douching can make things worse I remember once on a way to a dungeon I suddenly had to dive into a pub and use their bathroom as the douche had unsettled something

I think I will stick to controlling food! 😳

[Ki****]

I LOVE IT

[Deleted Member]

ABSOLUTELY 😍😍😍

[Deleted Member]

ABSOLUTELY 😍😍😍 my fave thing ever!!

[Deleted Member]

Absolutely.  But it all comes down to personal preference, taking things slow and most of all... trust!  And not everyone is going to grow to like it.

 

I have had partners in the past who were interested but our experiences were at times good and other times very bad.  And the very bad created trust issues that rendered it an impossibility.

 

While single, I explored with toys and learned how to control the "clench" effect and relax properly.  My current partner was interested but had never had a partner willing to try, so we gave it a go.  And it was amazing.

 

But one thing I must stress above all else... just because it is good one day doesn't mean it is good anytime.  Regardless of how well things go, the body needs time to recover.  I won't dare do it two days in a row regardless of how good it is because it always seems to make me sore on the second occasion if enough time hasn't passed between sessions.

[Be****]

I did once the guy figured out I need clitoral stimulation. Then it was fun!

[Deleted Member]

I’ve not done full anal (as in I haven’t experienced a cock up my ass (yet)) but I love having a dildo up my ass. It feels amazing to me, especially when I have a cock or dildo in my pussy too/wand on my clit.   I’m dying to experience anal fully. 

[stillstanding]

I will give my ass to my dom as requested but I know that it will not always feel the  same way for me.  At first I was hesitant, maybe because of who it is I wanted to work up to being able to take all of him in. Then it became almost natural and I can't get him deep enough inside of me.

That being said, there is a recovery period for afterwards. 

I learned from auntie Oprah as a ***ager that douching removes too many necessary bacterias, so I don't douche anally either.   I don't eat meats or spicy foods or drink coffee at least 24 hours before anal.  I'd take it easy on fruits or vegies (fiber) as well.