What is normal?

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21 hours ago, Curvykate said:

I feel somewhat uncomfortable with this positioning of vanilla and kinky on opposite sides. 

I protect my vanilla side closely Kate, a huge part of who I am so no this is not about "sides" as such just how those sides view themselves and others 😊

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3 hours ago, Donnykinkster said:

I protect my vanilla side closely Kate, a huge part of who I am so no this is not about "sides" as such just how those sides view themselves and others 😊

Sorry Donny, I was referring more to the theme of some of the comments than your OP. I do find that if I respond strongly to something now, I have to look a little more closely to figure out why.

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5 hours ago, Thebian said:

I believe it does Kate, granted we empathise with one another and find commonalities in many ways. 

Yes I agree, I think the more that society ostracises a community the tighter that community grows.

We develop our own jargon to discuss things that is a form of code, cockney rhyming slang came about in pretty much the same way.

A common and shared experience can only help us to relate to one another. We can always use more understanding.

You describe so well how much the community benefits us. I’ve found it invaluable in recent months.

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On 9/1/2020 at 12:59 PM, Thebian said:

@Donnykinkster @Stellina

I just had a thought, if "not normal" is negative try this;

I am ABnormal,

That means the rest of society is Cnormal at best.

We are the cream. 

Just because society defines something as normal doesn't mean it's actually a virtue.

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On 8/30/2020 at 3:11 PM, Donnykinkster said:

A question I've mulled over for many years, and one I believe has much to do with life experience and perception. Normal to a prisoner serving 40 years is the routine of prison life yet to most of us that same routine would be anything but normal so perception and environment play a huge part in what one may judge as normal. 

 

No for me there is no standardised normal as it were but when kink/bdsm is mentioned amongst especially vanilla folk,  the word normal becomes something powerful, and in some cases our abnormality as they would think of us is ignorance in its purest form. Yet I ask you this, are we abnormal, are we the ones who have it all wrong or is it in fact the other way round? Are we the normal ones and is it they the vanillas who are abnormal.

 

We as a race are controlled, regulated, brainwashed if you like to live a certain way, with certain conditions placed upon our behaviour. This conditioning has been going on for thousands of years, repeatedly impressed upon us in all forms, media be it tv in the modern age or propaganda, the great games of Rome to keep the masses happy or even as far back as the Egyptians and their view that the pharaohs were living God's and should be respected as such, always rules, regulation and conditioning. Smoke and mirrors, propaganda and even downright lies over all those years to control and train the masses, a way to evolve apparently, a way to become civilised. A way I think to make us forget what we were pre civilisation, ***s who acted as such. 

 

The vanillas today have been conditioned, the inner memory, instinct of what they truly are still there but buried deep, society's job accomplished, the memory of the anìmal they once were sufficiently suppressed to be almost completely extinguished. For me all that happens is memory suppression, conditioning.

 

What if I were to say we just have better memories than they do, we remember, we feel the truth of the ***s we are. What if we are just instinctive creatures truly connected with our ancestors, not those of 100 or 200 years but those of 20,000 years and beyond. What if that is all we are? Merely those whose instinct still overrides the conditioning society has tried to *** upon us? Then surely if that were true it is us kinksters who are the normal ones and the vanillas who are in fact abnormal, we just remember the truth more than they and with us society has still much work to do 😊😊.

If all agree, everything goes.

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What is "normal" ? It seems to me the weirder you are, the more you fit in. On that basis then weird is normal.

If weird is normal, then if you are normal you are weird, so in order to be normal you have to be weird, which makes you normal all over again. Which is weird.

It's a never ending cycle. 😁

 

If that's not working for you try this one;

1. An idealistic state of being that remains as such. Because the idea of such a state varies from being to being and any set standard is nonetheless someone elses idea of what it is this condition warrants satisfactory confirmation of being amongst the confirmed members of such class, by the individuals code.

2. Normal is about as concrete as the idea of "love". The meaning is constantly evolved to suit the momentary desires and/or needs of a single person, or group of people.

3. A tool of conformity.

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I think that at least in regards to kink and really sex in general "normal" is kind of a veneer pulled over the eyes of the populace in a number of countries. It all has to do with the kind of prudish nature imposed by the cultures in those nations. England and the US have the Puritans (largely) to thank for the warped idea most in the US and England (and I specify England, because Wales, Scotland, Northern Ireland, and the Republic of Ireland were not impacted in the same way and they have completely different cultural backgrounds) have about sex in general - that it's something to be ashamed of or that it shouldn't be discussed. On the other hand I have some friends from northern and eastern Europe and from the Mediterranean and Latin America - and this stigma regarding sex doesn't really exist there. People are open about sex and they're not surprised if you mention that you have a particular inclination. Hell northern and eastern Europeans are actually pretty blunt about these things - they don't dance around the subject like many tend to. And while I can't speak for all Latinos, but Mexicanos and Chicanos (that's Mexican-Americans) love innuendos. So I think the real question isn't what is "normal", it's why are we in the US, England, Japan, etc. clinging to ancient history and letting it control our cultures? Why do we continue to propagate a culture based on segregation and repression. Nearly every cultural and social problem facing the US today can be linked to the impact Puritanism and a lack of true separation in church and state. I think a lot of these dystopian novels are correct in many ways - we as a people are without freedom and most of us don't even realize it. 

 

VIVE LA RESISTANCE! 

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Isn't be comfortable the way every one are? 

This is normal inside the perspective of each one