Do Doms want dynamics?

[Mn****]

I relate to this. I’ve been played a couple of times. I now have intensive process. I believe every red flag I encounter. I watch videos of what healthy men say healthy men should be like. Oddly enough, some of the thing we as women think are great, are actually red flags in men. That was the most eye opening revaluation. I also follow the author of “burn the haystack “

[Mn****]

I have a vetting list I go through. Any Dom that can get through it or gets angry about it, I know they aren’t going to be a better Dom. They hit the max of their capacity.
For me:
What is your martial arts experience
-What is you military experience
- How many scenes have you run
-What is the munches you attend
- How often are you tested?
-Do you have the paper work on your testing to show me if we met?
-Tell me about a time where you had to take complete accountability
-What is prep for a scene look like?

Additionally, I have rules like
- mister pays for all my gear but I don’t own any of it. It’s his but I don’t use cheap gear either.
-I have a three month mandatory no sex policy, mister has to be a proper match and we have to talk through out dynamic in detail
-mister has to NEVER flip the script on me. He can ever blame for or make me feel like I am being demanding for speaking up for myself. I am demanding. That’s mister’s job.
-mister has to willingly apologize and recognize if he breaks ANY basic BDSM prep, scene or aftercare principles.

These are just basic stuff. Hold potential misters/mistress to a standard of honor.

[Bo****]

There’s someone out there that will value you and give you want you need and desire in a relationship. Don’t beat yourself up.

[Lu****]

18 minutes ago, BoundAndCrowned said:

There’s someone out there that will value you and give you want you need and desire in a relationship. Don’t beat yourself up.

♥️

[Pl****]

If you're having to teach a Dom what an outside of play dynamic looks like you're probably talking to, on the balance of probabilities, someone who likes kinky sex, and almost certainly someone self centred,.....in my experience the scene is what the dynamic plays out through, without a dynamic it's just play, like empty sex.....