How is it supposed to go?

[Do****]

What I'm asking is, what is expected of a male submissive when trying to date a dominant woman? If I want to take her out to dinner or to a show, whatever. Is me asking her out or suggesting to meet up. Is that me being too much of anything? Is that me driving out of my lane? Do I need her to make the first move? Curious to what people think.

[Pe****]

If she is really dominant, she will tell you where she like to go and when. You have no saying there.

[pr****]

You have to be picked.

[ey****]

there's literally another thread on this from a couple of days ago which... a lot of Dommes will not make the first move for whatever reason, so it is on you to make a first approach

But basically.... kinda... don't just message everyone who is, or you think is, a Domme. Approach someone who actually interests you and - I'd say - make it clear why you're interested so it doesn't feel like you've sent a copy/paste message

[Do****]

This completely depends on the both of you. Everyone is individual. Talk to her about it. Many would love their sub to take them out and treat them. Some may not. You need to find out how she wants the dynamic to work, but also be sure to share how you would like it to work too. Agree between you. There’s no hard and fast rule for this for all Dommes and subs.

[Mi****]

9 hours ago, eyemblacksheep said:

there's literally another thread on this from a couple of days ago which... a lot of Dommes will not make the first move for whatever reason, so it is on you to make a first approach

But basically.... kinda... don't just message everyone who is, or you think is, a Domme. Approach someone who actually interests you and - I'd say - make it clear why you're interested so it doesn't feel like you've sent a copy/paste message

Yea we do not make the first move. Just because we are Dominant doesn't mean we don't want to be treated like a lady still.

[Mi****]

You miss 100% of the shots you don't take. Don't act timid when you ask her out but if you don't know her on a personal level make sure you get to know her on a personal level first otherwise it's just another sub asking for the same thing other subs request from her.

[li****]

Suggesting to meet is perfectly fine as long as you avoid directive s***ch. That is: Would you like to meet on Friday? Instead of: Let's meet on Friday. It should be obvious that a sub isn't supposed to give commands but somehow most of them struggle with it.

[EmpressKK]

September 5, Peter1860 said:

If she is really dominant, she will tell you where she like to go and when. You have no saying there.

I don't agree with that statement. They may know somewhere really nice that I've never been to. It can be up for discussion. Not all Dommes are they same, and don't all lead by the same rules young man.