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6 minutes ago, S_1888 said:

The very fact that the Man is asking for advice suggests to me that he's a thinker and not a rash impulsive put his foot in it kinda guy but is indeed genuinely wanting to make her feelings/comfort level a priority... nobody else see it that way?

I agree with @S_1888, just don’t do anything that would compromise her status. If you see her in person just say, “hi, remember me?”
There will either be recognition there or not. You don’t have to bring up the kink site. If she thinks about it for a moment say “I’m _____, we’d chatted for a while, a while back…” and if her response isn’t one of gladness, then you need to walk away.

S_****

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People that say it's harassment and stalking 😭🤣 because he recognised her in her work?? He didn't hide in her bushes and follow her to said work it's a chance encounter...is he supposed to say " oh shit I recognise that lady I better find a New (her work place) can't have people thinking it's harassment
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Yeah, that’s ridiculous. The limit is different for everybody, but wanting to reconnect with somebody who did not ever tell you ‘no’ is a natural thing. As long as he’s not a weirdo about it and keeps kink and sex out of the conversation until a time that’s appropriate, and that’s only if she a) recognizes him and b) wants to talk with him again.
The threshold is the answer ‘no’. If she doesn’t seem interested or says she isn’t interested to leave her alone. Bottom line.
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12 minutes ago, S_1888 said:
People that say it's harassment and stalking 😭🤣 because he recognised her in her work?? He didn't hide in her bushes and follow her to said work it's a chance encounter...is he supposed to say " oh shit I recognise that lady I better find a New (her work place) can't have people thinking it's harassment

There are different kinds of harassment and stalking. The one you described is the movie version abs very obvious. The one we’re worried about here is quieter and just as harmful. She deserves to feel safe and respected at work without being approached by someone she cut off contact with. Flirting with her after that, while showing up at her job, is creepy AF.

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4 minutes ago, HappyFatLady said:

There are different kinds of harassment and stalking. The one you described is the movie version abs very obvious. The one we’re worried about here is quieter and just as harmful. She deserves to feel safe and respected at work without being approached by someone she cut off contact with. Flirting with her after that, while showing up at her job, is creepy AF.

He didn't know she worked there until the chance encounter so how is it creepy? I agree he shouldn't mention kink app at her work because that does cross a line however y'all saying he shouldn't even be in her work atall...HE DIDN'T KNOW she worked there until he randomly saw her... are we all as people to stop 🛑 going into coffee shops that have a member of staff we spoke to tinder once etc
..am I crazy here

co****

co****

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Wow! I never expected accusations of me being a stalker or creep by asking some advice. Lots of very judgemental people here. I am asking advice out of respect to her. I have not mentioned anything out of respect for her. I see her almost daily because she started a job at this distribution company I have to visit with my work. When she first started I thought she looked familiar but didn't really pay too much attention. Because no contact is really necessary I go in sign some forms for receiving and can leave. After a few times of coming in SHE is the one who started engaging in conversation asking about me. After we started regular conversations is when I made the connection I know her.
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2 minutes ago, conative312 said:
Wow! I never expected accusations of me being a stalker or creep by asking some advice. Lots of very judgemental people here. I am asking advice out of respect to her. I have not mentioned anything out of respect for her. I see her almost daily because she started a job at this distribution company I have to visit with my work. When she first started I thought she looked familiar but didn't really pay too much attention. Because no contact is really necessary I go in sign some forms for receiving and can leave. After a few times of coming in SHE is the one who started engaging in conversation asking about me. After we started regular conversations is when I made the connection I know her.

What!!! You sign forms

...omg creepo, cease this toxic behaviour at once you mad toxic Man 🤣😆

CopperKnob

CopperKnob

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42 minutes ago, S_1888 said:

How do you know that is the case? Do you have a crystal ball 🔮 and can see into the future? Man asks woman "fancy getting a coffee sometime" she says no he says no problem and finds another wherever she works for a bit until his pride is restored or he doesn't make it awkward and laughs it off

We make educated guesses based upon life experience. Theres a very small amount of people who are able to take rejection well.
@ThaliaV is correct in her observation above, there's a theme within these comments and a very good reason why that's the case.

S_****

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4 minutes ago, conative312 said:
Wow! I never expected accusations of me being a stalker or creep by asking some advice. Lots of very judgemental people here. I am asking advice out of respect to her. I have not mentioned anything out of respect for her. I see her almost daily because she started a job at this distribution company I have to visit with my work. When she first started I thought she looked familiar but didn't really pay too much attention. Because no contact is really necessary I go in sign some forms for receiving and can leave. After a few times of coming in SHE is the one who started engaging in conversation asking about me. After we started regular conversations is when I made the connection I know her.

I reckon you have come across a straight up dude... you have a few options now, I always think if it's meant to be it'll be..a random encounter like this could be nothing but it could Also be everything.. I'll leave it with you

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10 minutes ago, conative312 said:
Wow! I never expected accusations of me being a stalker or creep by asking some advice. Lots of very judgemental people here. I am asking advice out of respect to her. I have not mentioned anything out of respect for her. I see her almost daily because she started a job at this distribution company I have to visit with my work. When she first started I thought she looked familiar but didn't really pay too much attention. Because no contact is really necessary I go in sign some forms for receiving and can leave. After a few times of coming in SHE is the one who started engaging in conversation asking about me. After we started regular conversations is when I made the connection I know her.

If nobody else does, I appreciate that you attempting to show her genuine respect. 🫡

Ch****

Ch****

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There's no reason to lable this as harassment or stalking...we're sure you're a thoughtful, cerebral, friendly guy. But the facts as you present them all lead to "dont do it" as it's likely only self serving. The maybes dont help: maybe she's being chatty and flirty because it's her job to be nice (Barista, bartender, etc). Maybe she deactivated without establishing outside contact because the chat wasnt as good as you'd hoped. We've had plenty of friendly/flirty chats with people we dont want to meet. And she can't "block" a customer...even if you just asked her out without even mentioning your history (which you DEFINITELY dont do at work...you bring it up at a first date and expect weirdness/maybe short date), you in every scenario should be ready to give up that place of business. She's keeping it professional; so should you. Write a screenplay about this and let Hollywood present the improbably happy ending to the path you want to take.
Lo****

Lo****

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Don't mention it, if she deleted and didn't mention it it's for a reason, maybe personal maybe not, it's her decision, but it is a possibility that she recognizes you and decides not to mention it on purpose, if you say it that could lead to awkwardness or maybe even her looking into changing to another job, no one wants to have to work with people who not only know personal stuff they are keeping private but also mentions it
Ha****

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1 hour ago, conative312 said:
Wow! I never expected accusations of me being a stalker or creep by asking some advice. Lots of very judgemental people here. I am asking advice out of respect to her. I have not mentioned anything out of respect for her. I see her almost daily because she started a job at this distribution company I have to visit with my work. When she first started I thought she looked familiar but didn't really pay too much attention. Because no contact is really necessary I go in sign some forms for receiving and can leave. After a few times of coming in SHE is the one who started engaging in conversation asking about me. After we started regular conversations is when I made the connection I know her.

I stand by what I said. Leave her alone.

Sw****

Sw****

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She deactivated for a reason. If she wanted you to know her she would have given you her contact number before doing so. She is not interested in you and approaching her at her job will most likely lead to management asking you to leave or them calling the police.
Th****

Th****

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I would let it be. Do not say anything. If she ever says something first you may say something. There are reasons for her choices. Respect them.
Bl****

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3 hours ago, HappyFatLady said:

There are different kinds of harassment and stalking. The one you described is the movie version abs very obvious. The one we’re worried about here is quieter and just as harmful. She deserves to feel safe and respected at work without being approached by someone she cut off contact with. Flirting with her after that, while showing up at her job, is creepy AF.

I didn’t read him saying he went to her job to stalk her. He mentioned that he noticed her at a place he already frequented, and she happens to work there. They’ve conversed and have “flirted” which doesn’t mean anything when it comes to employee”customer relations. She could just be nice to get him to spend more *** if this place sells products.

I do agree that he shouldn’t mention the website, or even that they’ve been chatting on a dating site. I’d just abstain from interacting with her unless it’s absolutely impossible to do so at this workplace, and then I’d keep it strictly customer/worker.

Gr****

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The general rule is STFU about it in public until you and that person have pre-existing permissions.
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Especially at places like work that is usually a hard pass because the lifestyle shouldn't potentially effect their livelihood.
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Posted
4 hours ago, S_1888 said:

The very fact that the Man is asking for advice suggests to me that he's a thinker and not a rash impulsive put his foot in it kinda guy but is indeed genuinely wanting to make her feelings/comfort level a priority... nobody else see it that way?

Do you not see that whatever his intentions are don't matter when he's a stranger hitting on her in her workplace based on him associating her with a kink profile she either deactivated or blocked him on?

 

Creeps don't always know they're being creepy. The writing is on the wall. 

bo****

bo****

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Leave it be. The harder you chase the faster they run. Have you ever noticed the woman you kinda ignore and don’t really want come at you the hardest?
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I have seen a couple of parents from my kids school and neighbors on a few sites I visit. I wait for their move then I am sure to cross no lines
co****

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5 minutes ago, SilentEyes said:
If she wanted to talk to you, she would.

She does talk to me, see my previous comment

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