Not giving oral. Am i being selfish?

[Mi****]

Get u some fruit roll ups wrap it around his and do yo job

[Ch****]

Honestly that would be a huge issue for me. But if you don’t like it you don’t like it. There’s other things that can be done instead of that which would get me there

[Kr****]

Look everyone has there likes and dislikes. As long as you are up front, that is on them, not you. But if you don't like it because you just aren't good at it. Like you said a mood killer. There are things you can try to get a taste for it. Treat it like blow pop or even better one of those single popsicle. Don't ever let anyone make you feel bad about what you aren't will to do.

[do****]

I’m ok with that.

[im****]

As a woman who enjoys it let me give you an idea. Yes the idea you have in your head about c*m is stopping you. Start slow if you need to when he c*ms on you take some and lick it. More and more till you can stand it but don’t *** yourself to do it. A night you feel adventurous try it. I believe if you want it done to you then you reciprocate that. My ex refused to go down on me with no reason but he didn’t like it but wanted me to blow him all the time. Wasn’t fair so I wouldn’t do it. Now if you find someone who doesn’t want it than great but more than likely try the small steps and see…… never know. Besides doesn’t have to c*m in your mouth.

[Gr****]

If it's not your thing, it's not your thing. Simple as that. The fact that you're still willing to though even though you don't enjoy it, says a lot.
If your biggest adversion is the c*m, whether it be the taste or the texture. Tell him to give you a warning before hand. So he can finish elsewhere.
As for the having a d**k in your mouth, one of the things I've tried for some of the less flattering ones, is wrapping a fruit-rollup around it. That made it vastly much more enjoyable for us both.
 

[my****]

There are some men who do not enjoy receiving oral. Those rare misguided fools might be your ideal partner. It’s not selfish, we all like what we like. Me I enjoy the buffet. I need an all access pass to ride all the rides in the park. When one ride is down for maintenance, others are available. I had a real problem going down on a past girl. There was a body chemistry issue and I could not get past it. Sometimes it goes that way and the relationship didn’t work. The next girl I made a meal of any chance I got.

[Deleted Member]

As a man who hates receiving I wouldn’t say your being selfish or inconsiderate. Not everyone is into the same things, having limits and different things were not exactly into is perfectly normal and fine

[tr****]

Men want their d**k sucked.

If you're in a relationship and you won't do it,who will? Your partner has to go through life without getting his d**k sucked just because he chooses to be with you? Thats a huge ask and an unhappy man.

[ne****]

You don’t like giving oral, do you like receiving? Does your partner feel the same way about Oral? This platform is for kinky people, with due respect, you seems vanilla. And there’s nothing wrong in vanilla sex as well, as far as both of you agree to it and enjoy it. Communication is the key and deliver how you feel about oral to your partner.

[Ti****]

Some of the people on here are obnoxious. She isn’t asking about YOU, so stop taking it so personally and acting attacked because a woman doesn’t want you in her mouth.🙄
Not selfish. There are other ways to stimulate. It’s all about communication. An important part of sex is pleasure for both parties. As long as you are exploring that, communicating, and doing things for your partner’s pleasure, then exactly what that looks like is between you and him.
I am SO sorry for the backlash you must receive and will likely receive in the future. Not liking a sexual act, common or not, is not a good reason for you to be harshly judged.💕

[ch****]

Can ask if you like for a guy to go downom on you if yes he's probably would like the same in return

[wi****]

I’ll put my fingers at work?

[ri****]

My limit comes in with the finishing part. I do not let anyone c*m in my mouth.

[Ba****]

Boundaries are boundaries. If you don’t like something, that’s completely okay. There’s nothing selfish about about not enjoying an activity! Please don’t *** yourself to keep trying, it can make your aversion even worse.

[Ba****]

1 minute ago, BaphBabe said:

Boundaries are boundaries. If you don’t like something, that’s completely okay. There’s nothing selfish about about not enjoying an activity! Please don’t *** yourself to keep trying, it can make your aversion even worse.

Please don’t f0rce yourself* guess you can’t say that.

[mc****]

To me personally it just seems very childish. If you don't want him c*mming in your mouth you can just tell him that. That seems obvious, More than not that just feels like an excuse you've come up with so it sounds like you have a legit reason, but its really not. So is it safe to assume that because you refuse you give oral, that you never ask for oral either? and that being the case, what is foreplay like? Seems like it be way easier to just tell him not to c*m in your mouth.

[ar****]

I can only say for myself that oral giving and receiving is important to me. So a partner who doesn’t want to give me oral would be a non-starter or a reason to look elsewhere.

[Gr****]

3 hours ago, travsteelman said:

Men want their d**k sucked.

If you're in a relationship and you won't do it,who will? Your partner has to go through life without getting his d**k sucked just because he chooses to be with you? Thats a huge ask and an unhappy man.

Not all of us. So speak for yourself. I'm personally not a fan of blowjobs. If my playmate wants to give one, I won't stop them, but I generally could not care less if receive them.

Like everything else it's all a matter of preferences

[en****]

You are NEVER, EVER selfish for having a sexual boundary. It's your body and only you get to decide what you want to do with it.

[en****]

PS, you are not alone - I also find having d**k in my mouth to be a somewhat unpleasant/uncomfortable sensation so I know what you mean.

[Deleted Member]

5 hours ago, neomiami said:

You don’t like giving oral, do you like receiving? Does your partner feel the same way about Oral? This platform is for kinky people, with due respect, you seems vanilla. And there’s nothing wrong in vanilla sex as well, as far as both of you agree to it and enjoy it. Communication is the key and deliver how you feel about oral to your partner.

So not wanting to give a blowjob automatically makes her vanilla? What if she’s a sadist dom who ***s on people, but just won’t give blowjobs? Is she still vanilla then? That was a thoughtless thing to say 🤣

[Deleted Member]

3 hours ago, mcalester982124 said:

To me personally it just seems very childish. If you don't want him c*mming in your mouth you can just tell him that. That seems obvious, More than not that just feels like an excuse you've come up with so it sounds like you have a legit reason, but its really not. So is it safe to assume that because you refuse you give oral, that you never ask for oral either? and that being the case, what is foreplay like? Seems like it be way easier to just tell him not to c*m in your mouth.

It’s wild to me that you just said that oral is the only kind of foreplay you can think of, on a KINK website 🤣 and it doesn’t matter if she asks for oral. Consent means her partner can say no. If her partner likes giving and she likes receiving, then it’s not even comparable. She’s tried lots of things to make it work, which is admirable. So now she gets to say no.

[Si****]

That just means you lean pillow princess, and that’s fine. Not every woman gets off on giving, some prefer to be taken care of, to lay back and be pleased. That doesn’t bother me, because my control doesn’t come from what you give…it comes from how you surrender. As long as you’re honest about what you like and don’t like, I’ll decide how to work with it.

[Yi****]

TRY it when you are really horney and want to get off so bad you will do anything .