Not giving oral. Am i being selfish?

[Ce****]

A lot of cucks and thirsty alpha males here. If shes not I to pleasing me in any way that I need... its an extremely hard pass.

[Ca****]

No you aren't being selfish, and you are upfront about it , I wouldn't worry about it

[le****]

Ive never gotten to go down on a man before so i wouldnt know

[sl****]

You have every right to say no on any of these things FET s like to do( don’t let anyone tell u different. But it seems to me the last time someone didn’t want to give oral was HIGH SCHOOL.

[df****]

You are not being selfish. Everyone has limits. This just happens to be yours.

[57****]

Maybe oral on a girl might be different..

[gr****]

My question for people is if the receiver really enjoys oral is that person supposed to just not ever get oral ever again? ….. in my opinion I would say yes they just don’t ever get to have oral again. There are a lot of fantasy’s I have that just cuz I want them doesn’t mean I’ll ever beable to have them if single n on able to find a partner I would just have to deal I wouldn’t go *** some1. Now on the other hand if it’s such a big deal to that person I feel like some compromise should beable to be found like trying to do it on special occasions or find or letting him use a prostitute

[Co****]

Understanding that this is an important activity for many, but not all, men - your reluctance will reduce your pool of interested partners. However, you usually need just one good match.

You are looking for a compatible match. It’s no more selfish to avoid oral sex if that is a turn-off than to refuse to date someone looking for a Domme when your orientation is submissive.

[mc****]

Friday at 05:21 AM, goldenretrievergf said:

It’s wild to me that you just said that oral is the only kind of foreplay you can think of, on a KINK website 🤣 and it doesn’t matter if she asks for oral. Consent means her partner can say no. If her partner likes giving and she likes receiving, then it’s not even comparable. She’s tried lots of things to make it work, which is admirable. So now she gets to say no.

it's wild to me that you just made up some shit and said that i said it. and it really blows my mind that you have so little going on in your life that you spend time not only scrolling through answers to a question someone asks, but then trolling those answers by making up shit and replying to your own made up bullshit as if i actually said it, and you didn't just make it up. thats wild.

[Ne****]

Yesterday at 03:09 PM, StoneProtector said:

It’s not tho. There will always be things we don’t like. That’s fine to not desire or want them, but you can’t also be mad if someone returns the issue of well if your not wanting to do that then neither will I. You can’t imply something is okay and agreed upon then revoke it without you doing the work of communicating it or finding alternatives. She is essentially saying I’m not okay with it but I don’t want to do anything about it, which will lead to resentment build up and relationship to fall apart. Meanwhile the other person maybe completely unaware.

You're missing several points, though. It isn't a tit for tat situation. I enjoy blue and dislike pink; partner enjoys pink and dislikes blue. So, compromise engaging in the colour one dislikes In a healthy relationship is Superb. Forcing oneself/being expected to/forcing partner (of any kind) to regularly engage in a colour they truly dislike and then psychologically (errantly, toxicly, abusively) punishing them by withholding an activity [which YOU VIEW as holding similar weight- newsflash, they don't; only similar as anatomical counterpart acts] is Not the same thing, and there is more at play here than that.

[Su****]

Thursday at 11:51 PM, cherryville791495 said:

Can ask if you like for a guy to go downom on you if yes he's probably would like the same in return

So never had a guy go down on me and don’t expect them to

[su****]

As a sub, if your couple is a bit sadistic, it will be double fun for him, and you shall enjoy being "***d" (consensually) that way... Try it ;-)

[Deleted Member]

20 hours ago, mcalester982124 said:

it's wild to me that you just made up some shit and said that i said it. and it really blows my mind that you have so little going on in your life that you spend time not only scrolling through answers to a question someone asks, but then trolling those answers by making up shit and replying to your own made up bullshit as if i actually said it, and you didn't just make it up. thats wild.

Says the guy scrolling through answers and trolling people 🤣 you said if neither of them is getting oral, then what’s foreplay like? Which made me think you couldn’t think of anything else 🤣 whatever. I don’t care and I don’t know why you’re so mad. Go take a cold shower or something and chill out bro.

[un****]

I always say it to "that" girl.. if you don't suck your man's c**k, somebody else will.

[un****]

I respect you and your decision though

[Deleted Member]

So I love going down on my partner and don’t always expect it in return. That being said my previous partner rarely did and made me feel undesirable. Would ask a couple times and would say they weren’t in the mood or just wanted to move on to sex

[mc****]

11 hours ago, goldenretrievergf said:

Says the guy scrolling through answers and trolling people 🤣 you said if neither of them is getting oral, then what’s foreplay like? Which made me think you couldn’t think of anything else 🤣 whatever. I don’t care and I don’t know why you’re so mad. Go take a cold shower or something and chill out bro.

i answered question and was notified that someone responded to that answer. whole different situation, not that i should expect you to understand that or even admit it if you did. i hate trolls and im blocking you now. good bye.

[Re****]

You should not do anything that you don't want to. Nobody should pressure you to do something you shouldn't want to. Anything else is a consent issue and you have no reason to feel bad about not doing things you don't want to.

[Re****]

Sunday at 06:49 PM, Celticpride711 said:

A lot of cucks and thirsty alpha males here. If shes not I to pleasing me in any way that I need... its an extremely hard pass.

Nobody who cares about "alpha males" is one. Nobody who thinks their desire is more important than their sub's well being is a Dom.

[el****]

It’s not selfish. It’s selfish if he chose you and is making a problem out of it. He knew you didn’t like sucking dick when he met you.

[ja****]

If you do not enjoy it and it is a turn off then you should not be doing it, at least not regularly. I would suggest finding ways that could be a bit of a middle ground, find ways to still show that you desire him. Perhaps you could used the tip of your tongue and tease his cock from the outside. If he makes you feel bad for not giving him bjs then that would be a red flag on his part. Communicate and discuss ways you can both show that desire and affection in ways you both enjoy.

[Deleted Member]

It’s definitely a hard one, I really love giving oral as I know they enjoy it which gives me please. So I guess maybe yes I should expect it in return for the same reason?!

[Deleted Member]

F**k being selfish. It is your body and your choice. If you don’t like it, don’t do it. Don’t feel pressured to do something that you don’t want to do. Not everyone likes the same thing. Let him find a woman who enjoys it. You listed it as a limit on your profile. I am sure you also tell the guy in chat. If he agrees to meet you than he also agreed to the limit.


If any man tries to convince you in chat, block him. If he whines and complains in person, leave. If he tries to *** you in person, call the cops. Safety first.
 

[Do****]

Selfish and very in my book, especially if you expect this man to be loyal to you. It would be different if you wasn’t asking a bunch of men you don’t know on a KINK website but you asked and I’m a real Dom so I can’t play pretend like the rest in here. You selfish because you’re in a relationship and you’re expecting him to be faithful to you. I can say more but you asked us not to be a**holes.

[su****]

I’m not a HUGE fan of getting BJs myself because i got unlucky all my life with girls who have made the mistake of scratching with teeth. And that HURTS! Never gotten a mind blowing BJ. Ah well..