Remote BDSM and Remote Toys 😈

[Jo****]

As technology continues to evolve, so does the way we explore intimacy and kink. For long-distance couples or partners who enjoy control dynamics from afar, remote BDSM especially involving teledildonics (Bluetooth or app-controlled toys) offers exciting, nuanced possibilities.

🔹 How do remote toys enhance or challenge the Dominant/submissive dynamic in long-distance BDSM relationships?

🔹 What are some important boundaries, safety measures, or consent protocols that should be in place when incorporating these technologies?

🔹 Does the digital nature of control (through apps or devices) change the psychological or emotional aspects of power exchange?

🔹 How do latency, tech limitations, or connectivity issues impact the experience—and how do partners adapt?

[Da****]

*** it. Can't wait to hear what this conversation brings.

[Je****]

I've been using over the next Bluetooth toys on my slave for well over 3 years now. We started small with one called the Lush 3. I was skeptical to be honest. They were in AZ and I was in GA at the time, both of us with zero options to meet up any time soon. We were 6 months in and they wanted to try so I figured what the hell right?
Upsides
Easy use. It's point and click, you can do repeated rhythms, floating with means it stays at the intensity you put it at, or just touch the screen at an intensity level and that's what happens and then it stops as soon as you take your finger off.
The little bastard was powerful and it was a full insert. Slide a dildo in after it and you could wedge it on the G-spot.

Downsides
The delay for us was just under a second. So be prepared to watch closely for problems. (My new one was a rescue from *** and it followed me home. So I still has a lot of hidden triggers to suss out)

Conclusion

Once I hit that screen for the first time my inner sadist was hooked. Whether vid from the app or what dis face book time app you use, they can't really see your slight finger movements. So if you wish surprise is definitely on your side. Add in talk, commands and the like? Plus ones like the lush can easily be worn discreetly in public? I've had a ball.

Warning
Vibration will travel through whatever they are stilling on. Say a bench at a bus stop... yeah. Guy gave my partner a funny look. They showed they were on a call with me and he seemed to jump to a more mundane conclusion.

[Jo****]

To those people curious about remote toys : Remote BDSM is a branch where we can have everything similar to traditional BDSM but it lack physical touch.. Remote toys plays an important role in Remote BDSM and helps to overcome physical touch issue to a certain limit ! The toys which i suggest : Lovense,Fallow,Love-Spouse etc.. App+Bluetooth Control enables us to use it from any part of the World by adding each other on the App.. I have been doing this for quite few years and it is fun and exciting ❤️make sure.. with right BDSM partner the experience is Extraordinary 😈

[Do****]

I do this with chastity, locking the cage from afar or locking the keys into a key pod. I feel like for some subbies who crave control and just can’t find anyone to do that for them, having a remote Domme locking them into a cage can give them a day to day feeling of control which meets their need. It can have a huge impact, particularly when they have been craving control for a long time.
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The difficulty is the trust. It needs to be with a Domme who will respond to requests to unlock because need a thorough clean or have got caught in it or have swimming with a child or sports that make it difficult to wear it, or a family situation where need it off. These things happen in life and you need a Domme that not going to decide to be unhelpful and leave you in a pickle.
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There will be those who want to be ***d into it 24/7….. but for those that have lives that need some understanding, make sure you have someone who will look out for you and not cause you significant issues with your loved ones.

[Ropestone]

1 hour ago, DommeDelight said:

I do this with chastity, locking the cage from afar or locking the keys into a key pod. I feel like for some subbies who crave control and just can’t find anyone to do that for them, having a remote Domme locking them into a cage can give them a day to day feeling of control which meets their need. It can have a huge impact, particularly when they have been craving control for a long time.
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The difficulty is the trust. It needs to be with a Domme who will respond to requests to unlock because need a thorough clean or have got caught in it or have swimming with a child or sports that make it difficult to wear it, or a family situation where need it off. These things happen in life and you need a Domme that not going to decide to be unhelpful and leave you in a pickle.
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There will be those who want to be ***d into it 24/7….. but for those that have lives that need some understanding, make sure you have someone who will look out for you and not cause you significant issues with your loved ones.

Wise words indeed, Ma'am

Trust in one's putative key holder is essential. Ideally, they will relish the control, enjoy the power - and transmit that to the caged one.

But be reasonable, also.

Alas! Work inhibits my ability to 'enjoy' (!) Loctober, can only manage a week or so. 

Your chosen 'victims' are privileged, to have their keys held by one such as You x

[Do****]

3 hours ago, Ropestone said:

Wise words indeed, Ma'am

Trust in one's putative key holder is essential. Ideally, they will relish the control, enjoy the power - and transmit that to the caged one.

But be reasonable, also.

Alas! Work inhibits my ability to 'enjoy' (!) Loctober, can only manage a week or so. 

Your chosen 'victims' are privileged, to have their keys held by one such as You x

A flexible Domme will allow intermittent locking to fit life constraints.

[Ropestone]

6 hours ago, DommeDelight said:

A flexible Domme will allow intermittent locking to fit life constraints.

Just a small matter of getting registered on the Qiui app for the Keypod. ***! 😥 x

[Mi****]

Im very interested and excited about this, id love to hear ways or even find someone to teach me im a willing participant.

[TimtheMerciless]

On 10/4/2025 at 12:01 PM, DommeDelight said:

I do this with chastity, locking the cage from afar or locking the keys into a key pod. I feel like for some subbies who crave control and just can’t find anyone to do that for them, having a remote Domme locking them into a cage can give them a day to day feeling of control which meets their need. It can have a huge impact, particularly when they have been craving control for a long time.
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The difficulty is the trust. It needs to be with a Domme who will respond to requests to unlock because need a thorough clean or have got caught in it or have swimming with a child or sports that make it difficult to wear it, or a family situation where need it off. These things happen in life and you need a Domme that not going to decide to be unhelpful and leave you in a pickle.
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There will be those who want to be ***d into it 24/7….. but for those that have lives that need some understanding, make sure you have someone who will look out for you and not cause you significant issues with your loved ones.

I'm unsure about the idea fetish gear under clothes without the domme physically present - because to me walking around alone in a sexualised state is a potentially unconsensual with passers by.  You don't have the dom to do any necessary interaction with third parties who don't know what's going on. 

 

That said I have had some interesting days out with my then domme or sub with hidden from view bondage or distracting devices giving the day a thrilling and  usually hilarious  layer of drama and adventure . 

 

I guess it's a judgement call. But it's interesting that as a Domme you are giving these issues some thought and trying to respond to them with some sensitivity.