How To Spot A Scam

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Just now, Don_Cassanova said:

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Since it’s censored, I will just say another form of social media

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Another thing too is that when they say they're in one place and they give you a phone number for a totally different area code.

[De****]

main reason why I keep my face pics private. Im afraid one of these will just use my pics

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@west-chicago809452
No that is not necessarily mean that they're scammers if they have a different area code.
For example I live in Michigan but I have a Nevada area code because I kept my phone number from where I used to live.
So that is not a scam just because I have a different area code but definitely something to look out for.
And just be aware

[Fr****]

...I'm in tx with a phx area code...and one pic... I feel attacked right now haha

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14 minutes ago, AthenaSophia said:

@west-chicago809452
No that is not necessarily mean that they're scammers if they have a different area code.
For example I live in Michigan but I have a Nevada area code because I kept my phone number from where I used to live.
So that is not a scam just because I have a different area code but definitely something to look out for.
And just be aware

Yes but I have found on the profile, they say they're from chicago, but have a california phone number and keep up with the.Oh, i'm local in chicago.I'm just saying it's something I came about

[Simpledaze]

Or how about this one: Youve had a couple conversations back and forth and they want to meet up but they don't have any *** for gas. I try to be courteous however if conversation is going well and we decide to meet I tell people straight up in the very beginning I will not send *** for gas, I will not buy any type of card nor will I cashapp you until after the first time we meet face to face...

[to****]

The easiest way is just image search on Google. You’ll know immediately if they are for sure. Sometimes the images slip through the cracks but eventually they will send one that Google finds.

[CopperKnob]

Oh, well, I guess I'm a scammer then as both 5 and 6 apply to me.
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I wonder though, should having your Gmail account as your username be number 7 or an add on to number 4?

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38 minutes ago, Simpledaze said:

Or how about this one: Youve had a couple conversations back and forth and they want to meet up but they don't have any *** for gas. I try to be courteous however if conversation is going well and we decide to meet I tell people straight up in the very beginning I will not send *** for gas, I will not buy any type of card nor will I cashapp you until after the first time we meet face to face...

Haha that sh*t just happened 😂

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12 hours ago, seanamcclaryatgmale said:

1). They have only have one pic and the they are new to the site.
2). There is little to no description of who they are what they want.
3). They have not filled out the survey to see if they are sub or Dom.
4). When contact is made they want to go to another platform.
5). Their description is some sappy piece saying they are looking for true love. Remember this is a kink/fetish dating site.
6). They are not actually in the city that is attached to their profile.

only one of these is vaguely a sign

1) yes, can potentially be - but if a guy signed up to a site and started eagerly contacting people - he wouldn't be a scammer, just over eager.  Same can be said in some cases with women

2) folk can still be finding their feet

3) Honestly, f**k that survey  

4) OK, yes - that is vaguely the sign, those running a grift know their time is limited so want to get the person off site : though as some guys have put in the thread, they'd be keen to have more direct ways to connect with someone

5) kink/fetish doesn't equate an absence of love

6) If it is waaaaay out, yes.  Particularly another country, or if this is someone conveniently coming to your city.  However... some people pick a vague area for their privacy, and even people who do not do this - fet loosely randomises you for privacy.   Right now my profile says I am in Sunderland. I did not set this. I am not in Sunderland.  It is not far from me.  But not where I live. 

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14 minutes ago, CopperKnob said:

I wonder though, should having your Gmail account as your username be number 7 or an add on to number 4?

to me that is a MASSIVE red flag, because it is a deliberate attempt to side step rules, which in itself suggests the person has no respect for rules or boundaries and should be avoided. 

[CopperKnob]

14 minutes ago, eyemblacksheep said:

to me that is a MASSIVE red flag, because it is a deliberate attempt to side step rules, which in itself suggests the person has no respect for rules or boundaries and should be avoided. 

The irony was not lost! Just as glaring as that flag 🤣

[Mi****]

I dont use my real location because of safety reason. I had some subs stalking me and that was enough for me. I tell them in the conversation that is not my real area but near by. In the End a Videochat is a answer.

[Mi****]

Generally an account with a “NAME-1234” username formula is a fake. These typically also have the other flags that the original poster described. Also reverse image search is your friend. And remember, if it looks to be good to be true, it’s false. Perv responsibly my friends.

[ey****]

for some actual scam spotting advice (aimed at men - even though women are the biggest target of dating scams)

A lot hinges here on whether they contact you or if you are browsing profiles.

If they contact you.... if it seems too good to be true, it probably is.  Scammers tend to move fast so will often over promise quite quickly - and yes, knowing they're on borrowed time attempt to get you off site.   If they ask what you're looking for, they will nearly always try to bend to fit that.  You could tell them you're only looking for someone local, and they will say they are relocating or travel for work - if you're looking for a Mistress they'll offer to be yours off the bat - so on, so forth.  It'll be too perfect too quickly and a bit like thirsty men, will otherwise have little in the means of effort to get to know you.  

Typically, *** would come up quite quickly, and to a degree it doesn't matter if they are legit or a scam, it's not permitted on this site.   Though some have been experimenting over dragging things out a little longer, but similar applies.   

There are a range of different ways this can play, whether it is an "insert coins to continue" or assorted variances.  Some include "you book the dungeon and I will play with you" but they provide a link to a specific dungeon (it doesn't exist), "Buy this collar/starter kit/whatever" which again, a link to a specific retailer (sometimes people think, oh, so even if it doesn't work out I'll still have the item - you won't it's not coming, retailer doesn't exist.... though I suspect in some cases they may now be sending stuff but at an insane mark up) or "you need to buy a membership/dungeon pass" or if someone is masquerading as a sub "you need to buy me out of my contract" 

Some of these scams work because they SOUND plausible.  Like if you're talking with someone and you agree to play in a dungeon, someone has to pay the hire.  And that yes, some kink clubs operate as private member clubs so you need to buy a membership (though these are typically about £5-£20 per year.) 

Sometimes people get scammed because someone will offer what summounts to a "Pro Domme" (or "Pro sub") session for considerably below the going rate - and that sometimes the mark falls for it ironically somewhat with their own dishonesty, that they indirectly feel they're pulling a fast one

Now.... when browsing profiles the main reason guys end up getting scammers reply is that they're not selective enough in who they message.   Like, if someone has a newly created account and is clearly finding their feet too many guys will try to get in there before other guys and it's just a total shitshow - because *if* it's a scammer then yes she'll reply - and if it's NOT a scammer this can be quite off-putting and overwhelming.  

But in general, yeah if it's stolen pics then it's likely a scam, but these days it's easy enough to just create an AI profile pic.  In itself not a hallmark since people have been using different enhancements or filters to photos for yonks.   Like, if someone has a basic profile then how do you know you're interested? If someone has a filled out profile then there's a big line between "too good to be true" and "believeable but true" - of course, believeable profiles tend to be clearer on what they want and don't want 

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11 minutes ago, MisterUp said:

Generally an account with a “NAME-1234” username formula is a fake.

there are 7 people (all men) in this thread with the formula

it's a default suggestion on here.  

[Mi****]

19 minutes ago, eyemblacksheep said:

there are 7 people (all men) in this thread with the formula

it's a default suggestion on here.  

Thanks for the recap.

[Do****]

12 hours ago, ConnorGorden123 said:

Really feel like I hit it off with a Misstress but after a few exchanges she asked if I had a what’s app. Is that a red flag? Sad if it is but I’d rather know.

I wouldn’t say so. I move people into WhatsApp at some point before meeting, to get to see them in the real world with a real phone no etc

[du****]

What about the ones that has filters set to only get messages from a certain group of people? Legit or scam?

[Ma****]

5 hours ago, eyemblacksheep said:

only one of these is vaguely a sign

1) yes, can potentially be - but if a guy signed up to a site and started eagerly contacting people - he wouldn't be a scammer, just over eager.  Same can be said in some cases with women

2) folk can still be finding their feet

3) Honestly, f**k that survey  

4) OK, yes - that is vaguely the sign, those running a grift know their time is limited so want to get the person off site : though as some guys have put in the thread, they'd be keen to have more direct ways to connect with someone

5) kink/fetish doesn't equate an absence of love

6) If it is waaaaay out, yes.  Particularly another country, or if this is someone conveniently coming to your city.  However... some people pick a vague area for their privacy, and even people who do not do this - fet loosely randomises you for privacy.   Right now my profile says I am in Sunderland. I did not set this. I am not in Sunderland.  It is not far from me.  But not where I live. 

Let’s not forget this is a kink/fetish dating site and not match. com.

And yes my username is there for those who are not paying for the site can reach me

[ha****]

Another is, when there are gorgeous model photos, who would never be on a website because they don't need to be!! If you are that hot, you don't need help with dating etc.

[Da****]

7 hours ago, west-chicago809452 said:

Another thing too is that when they say they're in one place and they give you a phone number for a totally different area code.

I live in North Carolina but I still have a number from Ft worth, Texas. So this is not always the case. I do let them know why I still have my number, if I find someone worth giving it out to. This site is definitely full of bs accounts.

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14 hours ago, ConnorGorden123 said:

Really feel like I hit it off with a Misstress but after a few exchanges she asked if I had a what’s app. Is that a red flag? Sad if it is but I’d rather know.

scammers, for some reason, tend not to go for whatsapp

kik and ***am more common - a lot often will mention 'hangouts' even though it doesn't exist any more if they're following an old script.

I guess a lot of the context could be in how the conversation was prior to this