Does size matter. Honest answers only please

[Ja****]

I honestly don’t care about size. Even before my girlfriend came out as trans I haven’t actually had a penis in my pussy. Just fingers and mouth, and that’s fine for me. And while I saw myself as straight prior, I’ve come to realize, it’s personality that matters to me, not size, looks, or even gender. Send me photos, whatever. Appearance doesn’t turn me on, the idea of someone wanting me for me does. I’m not monogamous, but I am loyal. I want real relationships, not passing flings. I’m still with my trans girlfriend and quite happy. I know she’s willing to add to our dynamic and I am too, but we want others who are looking for a lasting relationship.

[Se****]

One other thing, for me, I love having a connection with the women I play with, on some level, first before anything happens..My orgasms are greater, then just meeting random women to get laid..

[TI****]

I am not a lady obviously… but I have dealt with this in my past. I had to do a lot of soul-searching and read a lot of books to figure out what my problem was in those relationships. It had nothing to do with the quality of sex or the size of my cock. It had to do with the fact that women don’t want someone in their lives as a man that is a yes man or a nice guy that says I’ll give you anything you want baby. All the time subconsciously they want to be told no sometimes and they want you to lead. So until I decided to start leading and not put up with the tantrums and the BS, I was pushed aside because apparently I was not entertaining enough. I don’t know if that helps or not but there you go.😎

[Ro****]

1 uur geleden, Churvin said:

Ty. I agree its not everything. But same time Ive also been dumped for that reason... So it does seem it is something... like can a woman really be expected to never be tempted if she is not being totally fullfilled in that way (poor word choice lol) Can oral make up for it on its own? I just wanna know who is telling the truth VS who isnjust telling us what they think we want to hear... Do woman crave deeper pentrative sex if they are not getting it currently? Will this always tempt them type thing?

If I’m totally honest, if my date turns out to have a pencil, then it is a reason to friendzone that person instead. I won’t tell them it is because of their narrow dick, no need to be unfriendly. I just say I have noticed I have friendzoned you.

[ba****]

Learn how to eat pussy like a master. I have 1 FWB who has a small dick but he’s a master with his mouth and hands. I don’t think anything less of him.
1 FWB has a pretty big dick and I feel some *** during vaginal sex and anal is nearly impossible.
Another FWB is average and anal is perfect 👌🏻
Everyone is different and I treat all of them equally. Valuable in their own wonderful ways.

Confidence in yourself is attractive. If a woman leaves you for superficial things like dick size, then she’s not worthy of your heartache. You deserve better, believe it. Believing it will help you attract better people.

[Ch****]

Ty all very much. Its like we all say one thing but do another sometimes... I dont value myself based on this at all, more or less ***ed women do. I asked if women do bc in my experiences it seemed to matter...I also notice people no longer connect and relationships seem more transactional than ever... My family made it hard for me and theb girls cheating on me didnt help matters at all! I value all your opinions

[Deleted Member]

I feel bad saying size matters, because it's not something you have control over... but from a purely sexual point of view, it does make a difference. To me anyway. Some women may think differently. But, that said, I don't date based on dick size. If your personality is horrible, I don't care what you're packing. If you're an amazing person and are a bit on the smaller size, you work with what you have. Your personality is going to win.

[Qu****]

Size means little to most. Adaptability and creativity is where things start. I've went down on women who've later told me that I gave them the best orgasm they've ever even though no penetration happened. They even had their partners incorporate some of my tricks. I've also seen women orgasm with no vaginal contact at all.

[De****]

It’s not a one size fits all question. (Pun intended). For some it may, and others it may not. You need to find someone that accepts you for who you are. IMO a penis is only as attractive as the person it’s attached to (mind, heart, not body).

[Ri****]

Hi I have had small guys and big guys. Sometimes the big ones are lazy and don't know how to use there dick. I would say as long as your willing to put in the work either with your dick, mouth, hand or toys as long as I get to cum too I'm good. As far as the cheating goes I don't believe in monogamy so I can't answer that. I say keep doing what your doing keep learning. You'll be good.😄

[Deleted Member]

Size matters 🤭

[Ib****]

Average sized here, so I dunno if my 2 cents count, but my personal experience is knowing how to eat pussy and tune into your partner's needs is more important.

[ch****]

Bro I agree with the ladies. Whatever your lacking in one area make sure you rock the others. I've been fortunate to have been with bi-sexual woman who weren't a afraid to coach me. Listen to your woman. If she's smart she will give you the keys to the castle. The more you listen the more they will tell you. My future wife has told me I eat pussy better than any woman she's even been with.

[ja****]

19 hours ago, RoodHapje said:

If I’m totally honest, if my date turns out to have a pencil, then it is a reason to friendzone that person instead. I won’t tell them it is because of their narrow dick, no need to be unfriendly. I just say I have noticed I have friendzoned you.

But is it pencil d*ck or giant d*ck there's no in between

[Ir****]

Become a master of eating p*ssy, in my experience, women give me more feedback on that than my d*ck size. And become genuine and honest and caring. The real ones will come around on that. Keep you head up bro! I’m pulling for you!

[Mr****]

There are some very good responses to your question.

I'll continue with rowing the "size isn't everything" boat because, well, look at it like this: there are three routes to infidelity:

1) The "trouble in paradise" route: this is the one where emotional infidelity leads to physical infidelity, because many people view sex as highly personal and exposed. This has a feedback loop: being emotionally exposed to a person makes them often times feel more fuckable. Complicated: the issue is not guaranteed to go away or get worse just because other things improve OR get worse.
2) The "lying to you" route: this is the one where things are good but the girl likes you TOO much and is (knowingly or unknowingly) poly-leaning. (Also, some people just enjoy novel sex.) So, she does her thing but fails to tell you because she "doesn't want to hurt you." Avoid, not because she's "bad" but because she lacks the foresight to see how this can be problematic without prior discussion.
3) the "lying to themselves" route: I say "themselves" because the gender of the other is utterly irrelevant here. They have novel sex-leaning tendencies and refuse to acknowledge this. It can be for personal, social, religious, etc. reasons, but the fact is that they believe themselves superior to their physiology and libido. Avoid, not because they're bad but because they lack the introspection to understand themselves even that far.

End of the day, it's all about communication. If you are seeking fidelity and clarity, those lines of communication need to stay open *and you need to be quite firm about it*. Not mean, not evil, but quite firm. Hard boundary: as in, express that the implication of such is a deal breaker even if you're "at the altar." Negotiation is negotiation, compromise is compromise, self-sacrifice is self-sacrifice; but all of that must be deliberate and consciously decided on.
Never sacrifice *you*—not fully, at least, and certainly never when you don't have the absolute faith in your partner that they will keep you safe if you fall into such a state. Big dicks mean exactly dick without big dick energy to match.

[on****]

When the size topic comes up I say “My d*ck is small, but it sure is skinny!”

It depends who you bang. I have a homie with a micropenis. Like it’s smaller than a thumb when fully erect. You know what his biggest frustration is? He can’t jerk off like other dudes and can’t use male sex toys like Flesh Light. I got him one for his birthday that’s said “For when you grow up”. He thought it was fucking hilarious.

He’s been banging a girl who is a friend of mine, and she says it’s phenomenal. She dry humps his dick and cums 12 times in a row.

He is not even shy about it. He tells girls that yeah, it’s tiny, but here are then things that worked for others blah blah blah.

And, obviously, his oral game is on point, hands do magic and he is good with toys.

Being sad about it does nothing of value.

[Po****]

Churin,
I believe that you need to see with the eyes you were given and actually look in the mirror and tell us one true fact about yourself. And then tell us one thing that makes you unique, and finally tell us one thing that no one else knows about you not even family. Now I know you are wondering why I asked these 3 questions and the answer is very simple you now have a chance to learn 3 new facts about the people who are here for you in our great little community full of so many people and we are all here to support one another during trying times and all of us have had a similar experience we can share with you and possibly give you some tips to help make yourself feel comfortable and confident in everything you do. I'm confident that you will come to understand the real you before you know it and hopefully when we all talk again we can all talk and see WHT else we've learned about us as a person. And man any girl that has ever told you size matters doesn't understand that, "its not the size of your boat, but the motion of your ocean". So use your vessel to the best set of currents and rock all their worlds. And FYI, some of us girls even enjoy when the guys bigger and more or less we want to feel how rough you can actually be so we know how far we will push our limits.

[fr****]

Love your self before you can love another .... there isnt another YOU ... and after loving yourself a new confidence will rise ,,,, grow your confidence that's the key

[li****]

I must agree with the others ever one has there own talent to bring to the table. You just need to work what you got. It does not matter as long as you get a woman to have an orgasm she will not forget. How you get her there dose not matter. Use your fingers hot the spot make her so wet she will not notice. Good luck

[Deleted Member]

Just that saying "my family made it hard for me"... please heal your inner child as without it ull find it hard to move on and be happy. And when I say happy I mean u creating happiness yourself for you. Counselling can really help and working on yourself. My ex was an average size and he wasn't good at taking directions. His way of eating pussy made me feel he wasn't that interested in any of it etc. We broke up and I met a guy who was also average in size but my god the way he ate pussy was just on different level plus he made me squirt which I thought I can't do. Having a dick big or small isn't all that. Most guys with big dicks think it's enough but they don't realise uve to work on angles, try positions and have your eating game right. Without it ure just a guy with a big dick. Also personality. Idk if uve the most beautiful dick but if uve personality of a donkey then good luck and thanks

[Ju****]

I get rejected quite often after they see mine 👀 sometimes I wish it was a little smaller 😂

[Na****]

I think size matters from the women that I’ve met, if it’s small it’s a disappointment, and many women will not want to hurt your feelings by saying it’s great/ok,but on the other side of the coin , my ex used to say it could do with being an inch shorter, while used to annoy me, you can’t help what you were given, just compromise by being good with your hands or mouth

[sh****]

Depending on preferences to be honest some girls see big as a turn on others just find it ***ful i like to think im a happy medium

[Ni****]

Yes and no. Some are size queens and others like a happy medium. It's all about preferences. The bottom line is that the average "portal" depth is between 4-5 inches during arousal. The other factor to account for is the more fat in the pelvis area above require more length for desired and comfortable penetration depth. It still all boils down to BMI of the individuals and preference. 😃