Getting over the hump

[Di****]

I'm a straight male, and would consider myself fairly masculine and am attracted to women but am extremely turned on by being dominated and exploring submissive things... Have gotten close to trying being a sub, but terrified I won't like it/handle it like I would like or think i would. Confused out here..

[J-****]

Ride the wave man just be in the moment and stop when you want to

[Av****]

Thats what a switch is my guy. You switch, you do both. Follow curiosity, give your submission to women who earn it, not these bozos claiming you need to worship them on their bios. Build trust, build comfort. Use safe words. Go slow. And if theres shit you dint like hit that safeword and get out of there lol

[Ringo1975]

Yep your a swich mate as said above . Or if your able to go see a pro dom 200 quid for a good one ish and a safe way to try out ur kinks with someone who knows what they are doing happy exploring. Im a swich to

[Tu****]

When the times comes, how will you know? Is someone going to tell you? Take good care of the seeds you sew, they are the key to your future, time to be yourself and enjoy the show.

You will know when you know. Trust me.
Hear your dom, let them guide you, let them help you find your way.

[uy****]

Key word "fairly" lmao

[tw****]

Hot

[ey****]

The first things you got to do is shake off some misconceptions.
That you mention being "straight" and "masculine" almost implies that being submissive would in anyway hamper either of these beliefs about yourself.

But yes. A lot of people find the fantasy doesn't match the reality.  And also just see "being a sub" as "having submissive fantasies" (nothing wrong with that as such) but that does often come across badly.

It's also worth trying to reframe what "being a sub" would look like to you.  And, also, how it benefits the other person

[co****]

Letting go is amazing. At the end of a long long long stressful day try letting your mind be blank and the woman use you as her toy. Mmmmmnnmmmmmmmm its very relaxing.

[po****]

As a straight man myself, I don't view a guy being submissive as "gay" or anything. I just don't like some aspects of submission as much as being in control and teasing my partner. But if you want to lay there as someone's piece of meat? Enjoy it man! Give in and let someone pamper YOU! You deserve it!

[Co****]

Submission or dominance isn't a matter of masculinity or femininity, it's just a matter of are or are not. Same with it being independent of orientation. You can be a straight guy and be dommed by another man if you really wanted that. If you have interest I say explore it, I myself am still learning to seperate what I'm "supposed to be" from what I am. In reality we all live with ourselves so live YOUR life. If you end up not liking it, that's fine, that's why it's good to have it be someone you've learned to trust. Also all the memes in common life about dommy mommies and etc, it's probably a lot more common than we think☠️

[Le****]

If you experience this with someone who understands they can work slowly going at a pace that works for you, it all about connection and communication once you have those things the other person will know you enough to work with you xx

[Deleted Member]

I completely understand, I was lucky to have a wife who was enthusiastic about domineering me in the bedroom. In the beginning I did have extreme anxiety just before climaxing if I was totally ***, however each time it got easier. Good luck, be brave and give it a shot, you got this.

[Da****]

Masculine submission can be about the ability to absorb ***, meet expectations, and willingness to step beyond your comfort zone while still having the stones to communicate boundaries and use safe words.

The issue is with your conception of the word masculinity. The wonderful thing about kink is how it often ***s us to think beyond stereotypes and see people including ourselves in ways we hadn't before. It sounds like you are on that exact journey.

[me****]

Im a switch for a reason. It feels good being in charge, but it feels weirdly good to be ***.

Learn to balance.

[Hezzair]

I think the biggest part of kink is letting go preconceived notions and norms that we have been pigeon-holed into by society, family, church, whomever, and allowing ourselves to become whomever we desire through the exploration of our desires. Whether that is hiring a professional or joining a local kink community and trying to find friends near you to meet up with to explore what you truly want or need,  try not to get hung up on whether or not it is masculine or dominant/submissive, etc.