New Dynamic

[BS****]

I will make this short.
When my wife and I met, we had an intense D/S relationship for a long time. Things happened and it died off.
Fast forward to now. We are in a good place so we both decided to let the other pursue their fantasies.
Hers is other women and mine are young black females.
She has been cultivating her girlfriend for a few weeks, and I will be involved in that occasionally.
I have also been cultivating a young black female, and she expressed she wanted a Dom. I agreed.

This initially caused a rift, because my wife and I had stopped and I was giving this new girl what she had stopped getting.

Long story short. This opened the door for a lot of communication and now the dynamic has changed.
My sub cannot get anything that she has not had first.
I have given up control over things to my wife so that she can train me to be the dom she needs (she directs her own discipline), and at the same time she is training my sub on how to be submissive to me.
My wife is in charge of discipline if my sub requires it and will also administer it if necessary. Or direct me in the application of the discipline.

The sub calls her mistress and me daddy.
Tomorrow is the first date for just my sub and I.
We hope to share the entire journey with everyone here, both within this app and also elsewhere.

Are there any other couples here with experience of anything similar?

[Pr****]

You lost me at the use of the word cultivating.

[va****]

Hey you might want to rethink saying cultivating in general but "cultivating a black female" sounds very very wrong. You might want to change that.

[BS****]

No way to edit and was not aware tree of the negative connotations of the word cultivated. It’s an appropriate word. Relationships are like gardens. They are cultivated. You sow into it. It starts to grow. There is a return on the initial input. Things become symbiotic.

I appreciate the warning and will refrain from the use of that word in the future but do feel it wasn’t inappropriate in any way.

[Sa****]

What a crock of fantasy without any credible facts

[Da****]

I had a feeling commenters would get hung up on that word lol

I don't have a similar experience, but it sounds like your wife has switched a little, and it sounds like you're both happily working through it.

So right on!

[my****]

4 hours ago, BSLDomCPL said:

No way to edit and was not aware tree of the negative connotations of the word cultivated. It’s an appropriate word. Relationships are like gardens. They are cultivated. You sow into it. It starts to grow. There is a return on the initial input. Things become symbiotic.

I appreciate the warning and will refrain from the use of that word in the future but do feel it wasn’t inappropriate in any way.

You can ask the mods to make a change such as adding cultivating a relationship with said black female. Though given the context of your post her race isn’t relevant.

That said, I have acted as a Dom to couples in the past. She would receive tasks in order to submit to her husband. It never worked for me. Someone always gets hurt. Either the girl finds out she wants the total package, the guy didn’t know as much as I thought he knew or I decided I wanted the whole package.

I feel like you might be setting yourself up to be left out. But that will be for you to figure out, I wish you luck.

[Je****]

I have to admit that the word "cultivated" gave me an "ick" feeling at first, but after hearing it explained, I kind of like it!

[Th****]

13 hours ago, BSLDomCPL said:

No way to edit and was not aware tree of the negative connotations of the word cultivated. It’s an appropriate word. Relationships are like gardens. They are cultivated. You sow into it. It starts to grow. There is a return on the initial input. Things become symbiotic.

I appreciate the warning and will refrain from the use of that word in the future but do feel it wasn’t inappropriate in any way.

Using the word cultivate in conjunction with black female coming from a white dude is just wrong and highly inappropriate.

I get your sentiment but the combination of words is just … pointing to something else than you are trying to (I hope)

[BS****]

13 hours ago, SamanthaScapa said:

What a crock of fantasy without any credible facts

What kind of facts do you need???? My wife is here. She can be found through my page. Ask her anything.
And so is my sub. All members here.
This is reality. All happening.
So. What facts are you looking for?

[BS****]

9 hours ago, mythicalman said:

You can ask the mods to make a change such as adding cultivating a relationship with said black female. Though given the context of your post her race isn’t relevant.

That said, I have acted as a Dom to couples in the past. She would receive tasks in order to submit to her husband. It never worked for me. Someone always gets hurt. Either the girl finds out she wants the total package, the guy didn’t know as much as I thought he knew or I decided I wanted the whole package.

I feel like you might be setting yourself up to be left out. But that will be for you to figure out, I wish you luck.

I’m not ashamed of what I said. And I’m not setting myself up to be left out. We are actually a 4 way dynamic but the other female has not entered the scene here yet.
She’s curious and is just the unicorn for the moment.
My wife and I are solid and quite happy with the way things are.
We communicate everything up front.
She is helping me expand and I am helping her.
Your situation as dom to couples is the opposite here.
We are dom together to one sub.
I just realized my wife knew more about some things than I do and she does more research.
So allowing her to guide me is helping a lot.
She will not always be as involved as things progress.
But believe me when I say all parties involved are quite happy an there is a lot of communication up front that never leaves anything to chance.