Rope Bunny

[Ma****]

I'm scared of being tied up when you are tied up you loose all ability to get away or protect yourself

[Sy****]

2 hours ago, Matchpop101 said:

I'm scared of being tied up when you are tied up you loose all ability to get away or protect yourself

I understand where you're coming from but don't scared the woman. I've never been tied up either but also want to try so I'm looking for answers too. Not to be scared though

[Ct****]

3 hours ago, Matchpop101 said:

I'm scared of being tied up when you are tied up you loose all ability to get away or protect yourself

Kinda the whole point.

[fr****]

Get yourself plenty of Ropes. The Not have its will knot have it…!!

[Ki****]

Find someone that you trust, 1st and foremost.

[Vi****]

Bring the safety scissors ✂️

[Fr****]

Besttt part of a bonding partner is being able to hang out and talk while practicing knots. Find new knots the sub likes and practice them, with clothes, getting comfortable and laughing in a non sex setting will help be more comfortable once it is. Easier to learn what each other likes and boundaries. Plus just a good bonding experience. In two ways haha

[Ma****]

Yeah I agree with you I do feel like it would be fun to be tied up with someone I trust doing it but trust being the key word here I'm not sure I would let just anyone do it

[do****]

Use someone like me to intro as my knots are occasionally shoelace like….

Unless I’m feeling hardcore and do my double bow! 😛

[hy****]

F@rced orgasms are the best orgasms, from the look of it mind blowing

[Be****]

I’d recommend getting familiar with the knots and safety practices. Are you interested in self tie? Check out Tasha.t_shibari. She’s fabulous.

[MD****]

Do it for the first time with someone you trust and feel safe with. Talk about it openly first. Set boundaries if you feel it's necessary and communicate during. Exploring new things is wonderful!

[Me****]

Use the right rope, don't use anything thinner than your finger. It can cause rope burn in the worst places, and thinner rope has a tendency to give rope burn quicker.

[xr****]

So there is a website called fetlife (they have local events you can normally find classes that are in person and are really educational for new people just getting into rope

[vi****]

Practice with anything g you want if it pleasures me, but respect words stop or no,

[Rh****]

On 11/12/2025 at 9:11 PM, raahhhbin said:

What advice would you give to someone who has never been tied up before but very much interested?

Hi raahhhbin, I've been a bondage / rope bottom for most of my life and here is what I would suggest.

1. See if there is a shibari studio close to you. Look for classes, rope jams or socials in your area. The studio I attend offers many beginner classes and what is call Rope Jams or socials. It is a good way to meet others and begin making relationships. 

2. Learn about consent. Many use FRIES. FRIES is an acronym that stands for the following. 

F - Freely Given. Consent should be a voluntary choice without ***, manipulation or pressure. This is not possible under the influence of any substance.
R - Reversible. Anyone can change their mind and withdrawal consent at any point even after initially agreeing.
I - Informed. All parties must have all the necessary information about what they are agreeing to
E - Enthusiastic - Consent should be an enthusiastic "yes" without hesitation or uncertainly. 
S - Specific; Agreeing to one type of activity does not mean you consented to another

3. Research the risks. Rope bondage is considered edge play. You may be harmed or worse. Nerve damage can happen and last a long time if forever.

4. Start reading books and watching youtube. There are a lot of resources out there to help you learn. While you want to be tied, it is helpful to learn the basics so that you and your rigger are able to communicate.

5. Speaking of communication - learn to communicate both verbally and non-verbally. Being tied changes the chemistry in your body and many subs/bottoms/bunnies cannot verbally communicate when asked questions. Common safe words used are green, yellow, red.

6. Go slow finding a rigger / top can take time. While you don't need to be on the same skill level, you should be on the same page on risk, communication and goals. 

7. Go slow with the ties. Try self tying to get used to the sensation of being bound and what it does to you. 

For me, being bound is like hitting the reset button on my nervous system. I sometimes need to sleep an entire day after a rope scene. 

Use moments to learn your mind and body and how it reacts. Pay attention to little quirks so you can share with your rigger. (When I hit subspace I start to cricket. It's a soothing response but can be confused with other things.) Let your rigger know about any injuries so they are aware and can adjust. (I've had a shoulder dislocation so my rigger needs to modify her ties). 

Learn what your body and mind needs afterward too. Aftercare is very important. Some people need to be held while others don't. Some need to be wrapped in a blanket while others don't. Explore and learn about yourself so you get the care you need. (Riggers need care too).

one last thing before I leave you to your thoughts ... trauma and emotions. Be aware that being bound can bring things up out of the blue without warning. This is not to scare you but instead inform so you know. Personally I've had some very big feelings while being bound and afterwards. A few came out of nowhere but my rigger was there to support me. We paused the scene while I had my moment. With her support I was able to move through it and it was a wonderful experience. 

There is so much more to this but this should give you a few things to think about. I wish you well in your journey as it's a fabulous one to be on. If you have any more questions feel free to reach out. I will do my best to answer.

Edited November 19 by Rhuie