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How do you prepare for a play session that is 4 or more hours long. Also how do you signal that you need a break for the bathroom or water/food?

it depends on what activities are being included in the play time.   

4 hours shouldn't be too long to need a food break, but having fluids to hand is a good idea

Plan breaks in the play session. I often play for eight hours or more, but factor in tea and lunch breaaks or simple 're-sets' where they return from subspace and are capable of rational thought once more. Obviously safewords are valid throughout so an 'Amber' (pause) or similar safeword/safe signal is always available for momentary breaks.
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Hell 4 hours. I’m to old. Communication. I use the traffic light safe word system so she can just call amber and we can sort those needs out.
When i find someone i plan on the 4 hours being a minimum and sometimes want the play to go for 48 hours

ok, so you're starting here was a starting point of not having a play partner - and wanting to start on a 4 hour minimum, with a view of sometimes having longer.

I think there's bits where you've got to dial back a little bit

My assumption had been that you were regularly doing 1-2 hours and wanted to do longer.

So to rewind.    The idea of longer play sessions is nice. But you need to master the basics first.  Like, as you're down as submissive - the workload placed onto someone into doing long haul sessions also is a case of... do they have the time, energy and enthusiasm for it?

Like, do a 10 minute scene in a club or at home. Do something with no fixed length to get into the vibe of it.    

48 hours of play could be a typical weekend for me. For me, the key is to actively plan play (ahead of time) that includes lower energy power dynamics. Being tied up while someone makes your meals. Experimenting with plugs or cockwarming while watching a movie. Free use dynamics during 10-12 hour stretches of sleep. Mutual shower care as a form of intimacy. Personally, 48 hours straight of impact play, or uncomfortable posing, or overstimulation would be a horrible experience, but when it is broken up by significant stretches of lower, more anticipatory play, it can keep me in that subspace for days.

Stock the fridge with comfort foods. Have comfortable clothes to change into between harsher scenes. Clear your schedule. Have lots of toys on standby. And have an agreed upon plan going in—with low effort backups ready if someone needs to tap out. As always, it comes down to communication and expectations
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