When does the drive fade.

[Deleted Member]

I'm a 66 year old male, who still gets hornyband needs sex. My wife is 64 and has no interest in sex or any form of intimacy other than hold hands once in a while. Whenever I bring it up she says we are old and arnt suppuse to be doing that.
Does the female sex drive really end after the change?
Am I really a pervert because the female body still makes me hard?
Do other older men have the same problem and if so what do you do about it?
I dont want to cheat on our marriage, but im craving to touch, feel, kick, lick, suck, and everything else to a gorgous female body.

[AKA_Copper]

You know, your ending statement would have read so much better if you had written, "and everything else to my wife's *gorgeous body"
It's a tell.
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Sex drive can diminish for a number of reasons, hormonal changes, medications, unmet needs in other ways eg doing the lions share of physical/emotional labour.
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Perhaps think about how you behave within your marriage generally, not just sexually

[Ne****]

8 minutes ago, CopperKnob said:

You know, your ending statement would have read so much better if you had written, "and everything else to my wife's *gorgeous body"
It's a tell.
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Sex drive can diminish for a number of reasons, hormonal changes, medications, unmet needs in other ways eg doing the lions share of physical/emotional labour.
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Perhaps think about how you behave within your marriage generally, not just sexually

..almost as if there's other issues aside from a man being sexually satisfied.. hmm

[ch****]

65 isn't old these days! No, you're not a pervert (unless you're chasing very young skirt, or making a nuisance of yourself in public🤔), and yes women's sexual desires do change after The Change (just gone through it myself, it's a bitch), but no two women are the same, either before or after the menopause. My libido has been at a pretty low ebb for about a year, but I'm happy to say it's making a comeback. If your wife *wants* to be more active, she could always see if her doctor is willing to prescribe testosterone, but of course there are side effects to be aware of.
You're lucky you still get hard to be honest. About 10 years ago, I dated a guy in his 50s, and while he had no difficulty getting it up, keeping it up was a real problem.

[Deleted Member]

48 and still kicking. Hope to be kicking at 98 and playing.

[Bl****]

Most post menopausal women should be on HRT. That's why she's like that, her test level is zero

[ey****]

Some women (and some men) do have a much reduced, sometimes to zero, sex drive as getting older

this is something which can be helped with stuff like HRT in women - but there still has to be the want/desire to get in the mood.  Like anything, if your drive hasn't diminished - tell her, talk with her and even if she is like "no, not interested" then you may be able to arrange something with some with her consent, avoiding cheating. 

[Su****]

I’ve been going through the change for almost 20yrs, still have the flushes., never been on hrt. Though a bit younger than your wife I still have sexual desires and long may it last

[De****]

I think what often gets misunderstood is that lack of sex drive isn’t always just physical. A lot of times sex in long term marriage dries up due to lack of connection and intimacy. Keeping the spark alive isn’t just about sex. Are there ways you can connect physically and mentally to her? That might be what is missing in the equation. Of course it may be just hormone based. I would suggest going to a marital therapist to discuss this because it’s neither normal nor abnormal to not want sex later in life. It’s really more about what works for you two.