Why Feel Guilty About Pleasure?

[Deleted Member]

I feel experiencing your kinks is a way to integrate what your personality is ***ly seeking in non-sexual, day to day interactions. In other words, it’s healthy and liberating.

[Gl****]

I agree. Often what we long to integrate most is those experiences we have had that didn’t feel safe (either physically or emotionally). That is why, I believe, that kink works best when we actually feel safe and cared for. When parts of us that don’t feel able to be expressed or seen in real life feel met during kink we get the double pleasure whammy of both sex and thus deep longing for integration.

[Deleted Member]

This is getting a few likes so I just want to add: experiencing your kinks CONSENSUALLY that is! That’s all :)

[lo****]

This made me feel better about my kink. Its really embarrasing, but it doesn't hurt anybody. No one knows and every person I talk to consents

[OT****]

That’s a good way to put it - integration of something I’m seeking in my non-sexual persona.