About me
Interested in:
I’m looking for:
- Friends
- Kinky Dates
- LTR (relationship)
- Events & Places
- Networking
- NSA (no strings...)
- Swingers
- BDSM Lovers
- Pic Exchange
- Cybersex
Description
I’m 45 and new to this scene, but not new to passion and control. I'm a Pleasure Dom who sees every encounter as a masterpiece of sensation. I thrive on the slow, intense burn of tease, denial, and edging, culminating in Post Orgasm *** and glorious, exhausting multiple orgasms. I want to leave you shaking.
My interests are broad and deep, crossing the line between sensual and intense. I can guide you through the tranquility of Tantric Massage and Cuddling, then flip the switch into deep Role Play or blindfolded Sensory Deprivation. I am equally happy giving and receiving deep oral and anal play.
Physically, I'm a big guy with a warm heart and intense hands. Ready to explore everything from Amateur Videos and Voyeurism to your deepest kinks.
My Favorites: Edging, Orgasm Control, Tantric Massage, Prostate Orgasm, Sex Toys (Wand Massagers are a must!), Role Play.
Limits
, Spit,
My roles & archetype
My kinks & fetishes
I like:
- Erotic Photography (Active)
- Amateur Videos (Active)
- Bondage (Active)
- Cuddling (Active)
- Cunnilingus (Active)
- Doctor Role Play
- Domination (Active)
- Edging (Active)
- Female Ejaculation
- Massage (Active)
- Multiple Orgasms (Active)
- Mutual Masturbation (Active)
- Nipple Play (Active)
- Orgasm Control (Active)
- Post Orgasm Torture (Active)
- Prostate Orgasm (Active)
- Role Play (Active)
- Sensory Deprivation (Active)
- Sex In Bed (Active)
- Sex Toys (Active)
- Squirting
- Tantric Massage (Active)
- Voyeurism (Active)
- Wand Massager (Active)
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Absolutely agree the dynamic is the same whether it's pleasure or ***, I never liked *** so pleasure was the best option. Pushing the sub to new things and new heights of pleasure is an amazing feeling and in some ways is better than actual sex.
I think there are definitely people who use the term pleasure Dom to get attention but I don't think there are many who really are. I only found out the name recently but I've been doing it for years. Through out my life I've always prioritised the womans pleasure but once I started exploring BDSM Read more… I realised there was more to it. I have struggled with finishing myself but this takes the pressure of me so I can enjoy it. The control is exciting and with the sub not knowing where the scene will go. As you said sometimes it's just pushing more and more orgasms until you are a quivering puddle others it's a slow burn to one massive orgasm and other times it's keeping them on the edge for as long as possible. The true sign of a pleasure Dom in my opinion is the aftercare. It's not about jumping in to have your fun it's about holding them letting them calm down and making them feel safe. For me that's where the scene ends sometimes it leads to sex but a lot of times it doesn't.
As a pleasure Dom and having been with a woman who struggles to orgasm it can have two outcomes both are good. Firstly telling someone they aren't allowed to orgasm no matter what can have the effect of pushing them over the edge. The second is giving them permission to relax and just enjoy the Read more… sensations no pressure. The dynamic is more important than an orgasm, you have to build the connection and for some woman they can't orgasm if there isn't a connection. For me it's about getting the woman I'm with into a kind of mediative state sometimes call sub state where they can relax and just experience the pleasure and sensations, if orgasm is the goal then it's no different to sex. If we reach the end without orgasm but with her tingling all over and fully relaxed then I'm happy. For me exploring and finding what a person likes or doesn't, activating every nerve so any small touch brings pleasure is what brings me joy. To me a true pleasure Dom uses control and dominance to enhance the experience, rewarding with pleasure and punishing by removing it. That's my perspective I'm sure everyone has their own opinion.
So, where do we start? The obvious place is the Read more…beginning. I've been married for nearly 20 years, and as with a lot of marriages, the sex was routine and infrequent. I had always had a much higher sex drive than my wife, which had always been frustrating. We decided to spice things up, and we watched some documentaries on the BDSM world and different kinks. I suggested using blindfolds and restraints, which went OK. Neither of us was interested in the *** side of BDSM, so I started buying sensual toys, feathers, brushes, tassels, etc. I then started looking into massage courses, from back massages all the way through to yoni massage. I got some coconut oil and set about giving my wife a full-body massage, including her yoni. As you might expect, the massage went down well. Sex was improving; it was becoming a bit more regular, and we tried new things. Fuelled by the success, I started exploring even more things. I looked at the Dom /Sub relationship. Like a lot of people, I misunderstood how the dynamic works. I thought it was just for controlling people, but thanks to many YouTube videos, I realised I was wrong.
We now move to my awakening. My wife agreed to be restrained and blindfolded; we already knew our boundaries, lots of years together, you learn these things. I started with a massage to relax her, then switched her to lying on her back and started massaging her front, but staying away from her breasts and vulva. As I massaged her thighs every time I got close to the top, she would tense, and when I didn't go any higher, a sigh of disappointment would escape her mouth. It was at this point that a light bulb went off in my head. I didn't like the idea of being dominant and hurting someone; that went against everything I was, but in this moment, I understood the D/S relationship and how it worked. More importantly, I understood how it worked for me. This woman was desperate for me to pleasure her, but I was controlling when that happened, not to punish her, but to heighten the senses and increase the final pleasure. I played this out for nearly 2 hours. After a while, I started touching, then licking, working my way up through the sensation, each time stopping before she came, holding her on the edge for as long as she could take. Then, finally, I could tell I had pushed her as far as I could, so I gave her permission to orgasm. She came 3 times in quick succession until she was a quivering wreck on the bed. I climbed in behind her and cuddled her while she floated down from wherever she had gone.
This was the most amazing moment for both of us. I had just found my purpose, I guess you could say. I wanted to learn more to see what else you can do, how to *** someone with pleasure.
After that night, we tried a few smaller sessions, which I loved. Then came the bombshell: my wife didn't like me being controlling in the bedroom and didn't want to continue exploring. I was devastated. I had just discovered this part of me, and now it had to be put away in a box never to be seen again. That was over 2 years ago. Since then, we have had sex a couple of times, but nothing in the last 18 months.
Fast forward to today, and our relationship is over. I've found a name for what I like, and no box is strong enough to keep it locked up. I want to experiment and learn all about this kink. I want to go to clubs and discuss with other Doms and Subs what they do and find new things to do. Has my kink killed my marriage? No, my marriage was broken way before this; this was just the final straw. All my kinks have done has helped me realise there is more out there to explore, and I want to dive straight in.
So to answer the title, I'm a pleasure dom. I use my dominance to control and heighten my subs' pleasure with the ultimate goal of giving them the most amazing experience I can.
To the other pleasure doms out there, what Is your story? How did you discover it?
What do you like about being a pleasure dom?
Who knows what I am. Read more… I’m enjoying finding out. It’s funny, I wasn’t immediately turned on by impact play, and inflicting *** ect, at least it was never something I thought I would’ve sought out on my own.
Now having done it, it’s quite entertaining and fun to explore the senses of it all, the way a slow drop of hot wax feels on their skin. The effect it has on their body and soul, the way they crave the *** like it’s pleasure in disguise.
The 2 I would create would be one for Pleasure Doms I'm sure there must be more of us out there. One for Dd/lg it seems a bit of an unloved kink.
My interests are broad and deep, crossing the line between sensual and intense. I can guide you through the tranquility of Tantric Massage and Cuddling, then flip the switch into deep Role Play or blindfolded Sensory Deprivation. I am equally happy giving and receiving deep oral and anal play.
Physically, I'm a big guy with a warm heart and intense hands. Ready to explore everything from Amateur Videos and Voyeurism to your deepest kinks.
My Favorites: Edging, Orgasm Control, Tantric Massage, Prostate Orgasm, Sex Toys (Wand Massagers are a must!), Role Play.
