Autism/ADHD and BDSM

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1 minute ago, Aman94 said:

I have autism so I just assume I never have no partner to play with. Hence single and have been for a long time

I'm autistic and actually happier single 😂

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2 minutes ago, aporianoctis87 said:

I'm autistic and actually happier single 😂

I’m happy I just miss physical touch from a female. At the end of the day my body naturally want that enough though 😊

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I also dislike the feeling ware I feel ladies aren’t attracted to me

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10 minutes ago, Aman94 said:

I also dislike the feeling ware I feel ladies aren’t attracted to me

It’ll get better bud I went through a similar phase tbh and it’s never great but things have changed a lot over recent years etc I mean il be honest everyone I talk too just wants my butt they’ve never told me I’m handsome or anything but I do find too people are more reserved with compliments now

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27 minutes ago, aporianoctis87 said:

Structured chaos is still structure 😉 Enjoy your playdate!

Thank you praying I don’t fall over again 😂

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I had a sub that had ADHD and PTSD I was able to come to PTSD night terrors by forcing him to sleep on me and keeping him calm. The ADHD was very hard to go between the dynamic and the power exchange and I never had this when I was a do matrix years ago, it’s very difficult to make them succeed when you’re fighting against us lack of ability to multitask

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21 minutes ago, Dancinginthefires said:

I had a sub that had ADHD and PTSD I was able to come to PTSD night terrors by forcing him to sleep on me and keeping him calm. The ADHD was very hard to go between the dynamic and the power exchange and I never had this when I was a do matrix years ago, it’s very difficult to make them succeed when you’re fighting against us lack of ability to multitask

So do you think structured intimacy in terms of bedtime cuddles would help them emotionally regulate?

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15 minutes ago, aporianoctis87 said:

So do you think structured intimacy in terms of bedtime cuddles would help them emotionally regulate?

Do to the lack of intimacy in his relationships he was never told about his night terrors by anyone. So he’s never done caretaking with somebody where they can feel it.. at first I would just put my hand on his thigh and my feeling and my touch would calm him but the only time I got a full night sleep with him is if he pressed up against me and wrapped himself around me that seemed to calm everything and he would have a better day, but he would fight me on doing that sometimes he didn’t want to admit that he needed it

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13 minutes ago, Dancinginthefires said:

Do to the lack of intimacy in his relationships he was never told about his night terrors by anyone. So he’s never done caretaking with somebody where they can feel it.. at first I would just put my hand on his thigh and my feeling and my touch would calm him but the only time I got a full night sleep with him is if he pressed up against me and wrapped himself around me that seemed to calm everything and he would have a better day, but he would fight me on doing that sometimes he didn’t want to admit that he needed it

Do you think that if he had been more accepting of his needs that the night terrors could of been reduced if there was structured bedtime intimacy, kind of a prevention rather than you soothing him? Xx

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I’m autistic and I have no girlfriend just yet !

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5 hours ago, aporianoctis87 said:

Do you think that if he had been more accepting of his needs that the night terrors could of been reduced if there was structured bedtime intimacy, kind of a prevention rather than you soothing him? Xx

Yes I didn’t have full-time access to him because he was in the arranged jewish marriage no sex . I’ve never done training while texting is very difficult trying to create the dynamic. Sometimes it was great sometimes we had to start over again.

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I am autistic, my submissive is ADHD.

We communicate clearly and ensure the other feels safe, in a judgement free environment. We have patience and understanding for the others quirks and even encourage them in positive ways.

Going into the dynamic we put everything on the table and took time to understand each other on some fundamental levels then built into what we have with short term goals.

It's been extremely healthy and safe for both of us in our lifestyle dynamic.

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Monday at 11:51 AM, justin267 said:

How the hell do you survive 😂 I mean I’m a sub because of it because I love the Cahos 😂

Autistic with unmedicated severe ADHD and I’m a sub because it calms me it quiets my brain. The autism parts loves trying to feel where he’s going to be next, what is he going to have or do. Especially being restrained and or sensory deprivation. Not sure what it is about or why I just know I’m at peace, it takes Dom I fully trust though.

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Im autistic and have adhd, getting told what to do in explicit terms makes my brain calm down so much and lets me be more present in the situation (getting tied up while this is all happening heightens that) cause it lays out the exact scenario for my autistic brain but also then being a bit of a brat feels like the adhd side pushing back but in a controlled way still. I feel like my neurodivergence and kink go hand in hand. I thrive on explicitly defining intimacy expectations too which is so much more accepted when we’re also discussing kink limits vs vanilla relationships

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I need the structure, otherwise my brain wreaks havoc on me. Me trying to have a relationship with a “normie” who doesn’t understand adhd and how it affects the brain processes is just begging for trouble.

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hello dear, I would like to connect if you don't mind

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I really wish I could’ve found this thread before I let my submissive go. Thank you for the subject.

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3 hours ago, Dancinginthefires said:

I really wish I could’ve found this thread before I let my submissive go. Thank you for the subject.

Awww this comment is so sad and makes me so happy at the same time. It seems like every understands subs need structure (NDs specifically) but nobody has understood why, I do strongly believe it is a tool for emotional regulation xx

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1 hour ago, aporianoctis87 said:

Awww this comment is so sad and makes me so happy at the same time. It seems like every understands subs need structure (NDs specifically) but nobody has understood why, I do strongly believe it is a tool for emotional regulation xx

I agree, but he had PTSD and ADHD not to mention a wife that didn’t give him sex and arrange marriage. I was trying the best I can if I was able to live with him I could’ve helped him. I just wish I knew more about it before I started it.

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3 minutes ago, Dancinginthefires said:

I agree, but he had PTSD and ADHD not to mention a wife that didn’t give him sex and arrange marriage. I was trying the best I can if I was able to live with him I could’ve helped him. I just wish I knew more about it before I started it.

You won't find any information about structured intimacy as a way of emotionally regulating, it's not been studied (yet) I'm actually doing it for my dissertation thesis next year x

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28 minutes ago, aporianoctis87 said:

You won't find any information about structured intimacy as a way of emotionally regulating, it's not been studied (yet) I'm actually doing it for my dissertation thesis next year x

Please keep in touch. I don’t know how to do that here I would like to read what you’re writing please I am real. I was a real dominant in a dungeon, and now that I’m older, I’m trying to combine my special skill set with realistic satisfaction, and most of these young guys who want me have ADHD

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6 minutes ago, Dancinginthefires said:

Please keep in touch. I don’t know how to do that here I would like to read what you’re writing please I am real. I was a real dominant in a dungeon, and now that I’m older, I’m trying to combine my special skill set with realistic satisfaction, and most of these young guys who want me have ADHD

Ill add you, I can start until September but happy to share when I start x

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Hey I'm new here I'm audihd I love idea of alot of fetishes although I'm looking try new stuff I love the idea of finding someone who is willing to experience and try what ever new kinky ideas I have or add new ideas of there own I'm primarily Dom I'm comfortable being in control but am curious about trying role reversal and looking for friends to give advice as well

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I’m on adderal looking to cum

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To anyone that has adhd or autism and any other "ailments." I've been learning about what might be the cause of most our problems. We in the u.s.a. don't do parasite cleansing like other countries do. They don't have near the issues we do. Nothing to loose, try it. See a doctor that supports the truth and can help with it. I've done it and feel much better. Energy, no more ocd or brain fog. Lost some weight too. Much love and respect.