Role: TeddyBear

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Please, share associations, experiences, suggestions, riffs, scenes, fantasies around a Role called:

TeddyBear

Seeds:
• comfy, snuggly, cuddly
• present, attentive, witness,
• accepting, nonjudgmental, nonegoic
• reflective, wise, ***less
• intimate companion

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What is nonegoic?

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3 hours ago, DanteReign said:

What is nonegoic?

Its a little simplistic of a definition so forgive me, but basically it would mean without ego but in the clinical sense, and not the commonly used, like, someone big-headed might be said to have a huge ego. 

 I'd guess in this instance it means lack of awareness of self, so you become the teddybear, you believe it..it IS your identity.

 

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The kink is to be that teddy bear: a cuddler, a listener, of service, a witness to and participant in the intimacies unfolding in the sanctuary.

Personally, i draw from two diverse roles (that work in the same medium): the hospice volunteer, and the psychedelic sitter. Both involve being present, attentive, of service, and not injecting ego into the story.

It is not a sub role, exactly. There is no “***ordinant” to “sub”. There’s some Zen skill at play here.

The teddy bear comes from a place of somatic needs. I’m experimenting with in play, and wonder, is the teddy bear a known, lessor form, of the relationship with a good girl? I imagine the relationship a girl has with her bear, the secrets it wisely listens to, the warm comforts it enjoys..

The comfort and caring is the daylight feature. In the shadow, how many girls want to (or have) humped their cuddly trustworthy teddy, with fantasy overlays. As a bdsm archetype, the Teddy is attentive, comforting, undemanding, present, accommodating. A TeddyBear with a cock. What a nice gift for a very good girl.

Odd that ‘teddy’ doesn’t have a feminine counterpart. There is no “SarahBear” to draw from, tho men enjoy plush toys too.

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11 hours ago, DanteReign said:

What is nonegoic?

Non ego-ic bubbles up endlessly from a lifetime of exploring dharma. My best techniques for experiencing that state involve stopping or displacing the constant language chatter of the “I” that lives with the rest of us in here ;)

In the archetype of the TeddyBear, it might mean to be fully involved in the story of the teddy’s beloved, without need or plan or want or dialog (allowing of course for that language which serves the beloved).