De**** Posted 9 hours ago Author 4 hours ago, libertybelle369 said: Same energy as on regular dating apps. It’s means to an end for many have already objectified and don’t know how to connect otherwise Very true 😩
De**** Posted 9 hours ago Author 4 hours ago, kev508 said: Unfortunately “50 Shades of Grey” Ang the internet have combined to make entering the kink community a maze of predators and scammers. Any vetting process that does not involve real discussion about the sub’s limits, interests, desires and safety is a red flag as is a Dom/me that does not discuss safety, their training/experience and specialties is a red flag. Some of these people are out to exploit other’s personal info for monetary gain while others see the kink community as a hunting ground for women who like wild sex play. I myself am a switch, but my first experiences were as a sub. Subs often begin by thinking about what they’d like to try and that’s what predatory fake Doms try to take advantage of. A real Dom/me know the mental and aspects of D/s play are truly what make an experience. The ***/pleasure mix is a tool to unlock our deeper vulnerability and inner needs/desires that allow a sun to let go and really get those endorphins firing during play. And a real Dom/me will provide proper aftercare. These thing require real conversation that can begin with “what are you into” but must go deeper before play happen. 50 shades of bullshit brought the community into mainstream awareness, and with it a bunch of horny guys (and some predatory women) seeing an opportunity to prey upon women who don’t know quite what they should expect from a prospective Dom/me. Online platforms make it harder for the community the weed these people out (many change profiles or pr names often) so sadly your experience really has become a rite of passage. Really appreciate your comment here thank you and yes the 50 Shades of Grey phenomenon. You are right though, these conversations have to go deeper purely for safety reasons. It’s a shame a lot of people don’t recognise that and value its importance
De**** Posted 9 hours ago Author 5 hours ago, H0neyBadger said: I think there is allot of men who con the label to get there needs and interests met. I’ve talked with a few people dipping their toes or just looking for friends here and mentioned that. Thank you for this post as I have learned a couple things that are fantastic tools to improve me. I would appreciate DM conversation about my profile if you’re up for it. You’re welcome and I’m glad this was helpful to you. We are all learning from each other and honestly being able to share my experiences and have people engage is what keeps me on this app - even when at times I feel like 😭
De**** Posted 9 hours ago Author 5 hours ago, clear_spring said: I have the reverse experience of alot of submissive simply listing acts and kinks of things they want done to them. Not realising d/s is in many ways a very committed relationship. Aftercare and consent are absolutely things to discuss. Also consent to discuss and disclose links. At a munch its a red flag to immediately talk about hunting for a sub/dom or talk about kinks straightaway. Very true, wasn’t sure that doms experience this too so a good counter perspective, thank you
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