Do you comment… positive or negative?

[Ms****]

Trolls are everywhere. Hiding behind a keyboard.

[Deleted Member]

Im comment are honest if that’s conversation if about photos only comment positive if I like it because I don’t see the point about negative comments specially everyone got own taste

[Vi****]

I always try to interact positively with those that I communicate with, unless otherwise informed, there is enough negativity in the world right now, kink culture should be the opposite and boast positivity

[Sl****]

Who would post negativity in a platform designed to promote inclusion?
I guess beyond the question, I see tons of people who I’ve enjoyed seeing but don’t engage. I love (and endorse) seeing anyone of any age who pursues their desires.

[ch****]

I do not like being negative, it is way to easy to do so. I prefer to improve myself by lifting others that are around me. Most people fail to realize that they never truly see themselves, only reflections. I try to give compliments to people when I see the opportunity to do so.

[Re****]

People are just dicks sometimes. Really, if you have nothing nice to say, why say anything at all, just carry on. The person is probably really insecure and feels the need to put people down to make themselves feel better. It’s shitty.
I like your profile picture 😍😍😍😍 fuck haters 😝

[Ja****]

Yeah I don't understand posting anything negative on here if you look at a pic or you read something someone says and you disagree you just don't answer or involve yourself with them, as far as positive post go if I see somebody post something such as a question or looking to get comments about something then I'll post an open and honest reply or opinion and try to keep it as positive as the honest answer will allow

[Tony-5189]

I'm not going to be an asshole just because I don't like a little or a lot of something but If we're chatting with each other and I disagree with something I'll lyk with respect and hope that you will be the same to me

[kinkymasterandrew]

Commenting on images is only for paid members, and only if there's no filter stopping them; so most probably don't comment. When I do comment, it's positive. I do think of semi-negative comments, like "which of these people are you?" But I only think those things, I don't post them since it wouldn't make anything better.

[Te****]

If I'm not feeling like commenting something positive then I don't comnent. There are real human beings on the otherside who we may not know well enough and whose sensitivities we may be completely unaware of. It's easy really just be nice.

[le****]

Depends on the situation can be both

[la****]

People are so vicious these days. Mad at something or someone. They have unbolted issues and when they start to surface. They lash out at someone that doesn't deserve it. Maybe they have been striking out one comment after another and just wanted a reaction. I'm not giving them an excuse for their actions, but women are very confusing. I personally wouldn't take that route, but it is very disheartening to not be an object of desire for women. I have a great body, and I don't focus on myself in the bedroom. I'm also very open minded, but because I'm on the short side. I get looked over "no pun" all the time. Sorry I made that about myself, but I think you are beautiful, and I hope you can easily disregard his comments

[la****]

One more thing. If I had the chance to meet with you. I would do my best to make any insecurities you may have vanishe while we were together.

[Dr****]

I like to comment if I find the person intriguing or attractive. But I follow the classic rule. If I have nothing good to say, just don’t say it. Just because someone isn’t my cup of tea, doesn’t mean that applies to everyone. Pretty cut and dry to me.

[wb****]

Yesterday at 12:28 PM, leon559420 said:

Depends on the situation can be both

Why do you think commenting in the negative is ever a good thing? With so many people having some sort of insecurity. What makes you so much better than anyone to think that person needs your negative thoughts?
Do you think yourself better than others? If so then why are you on an app looking for a partner? I would think someone who is so perfect they feel bringing others down in anyway could be wanted, needed or productive wouldn’t need a dating app of any kind to find what they are looking for.

[su****]

Interact positive always when I do comment. Nobody wants negative. Im nice and a gentleman. And enjoy seeing other people happy and at their best mentally. Good things always come to good people in time. I am however not above being rude and negative if its necessary. I haven't yet noticed a time that I would be but who knows. Its a crazy world and unexpected things happen.

[JackJonesHull]

I only believe in being positive. Disparaging anyone would be outside of my nature, unless I knew them enough for them to have earned a disparagement.
There's no reason to insult strangers and I don't understand a mind that would.

[Deleted Member]

This is a really fair question, and I think the uncomfortable answer is that behaviour like this usually has very little to do with the person receiving it — and almost everything to do with the person sending it.

 

People who go out of their way to send unsolicited, cruel messages tend to fall into a few overlapping categories:

 

1. Displaced shame or insecurity
   Seeing someone post confidently — or even vulnerably — can trigger unresolved feelings in others about their own body, desirability, or lack of connection. Some people respond to that discomfort by trying to reduce the other person, because it temporarily makes them feel less small themselves.
2. Entitlement combined with anonymity
   Some people genuinely believe their preferences are objective truth rather than personal taste. Online anonymity removes social consequences, so impulses that would normally be filtered out (“this doesn’t need to be said”) get acted on.
3. Control-seeking behaviour
   For certain individuals, especially in sexual or kink-adjacent spaces, cruelty is the point. They aren’t trying to offer feedback or express attraction — they’re testing whether they can provoke an emotional reaction or exert power without consent.
4. Poor emotional regulation
   Most well-adjusted adults feel a fleeting “this isn’t for me” reaction and move on. People who can’t hold their tongue often struggle to tolerate internal discomfort without externalising it.

As for why most people don’t comment negatively:

Because they understand a basic social truth — not everything you think needs to be shared, and silence is often the most respectful response when something doesn’t resonate.

 

Posting images, especially in spaces like this, isn’t an invitation to judgement. It’s an act of participation. The vast majority of people understand that difference instinctively.

 

What happened to you wasn’t honesty, critique, or “constructive feedback.” It was someone choosing to offload something ugly they were carrying, using you as a convenient target.

 

That doesn’t make it hurt less — but it does mean it wasn’t about your body at all.

[Se****]

On 12/26/2025 at 5:04 PM, Gentlemandom47 said:

This is a really fair question, and I think the uncomfortable answer is that behaviour like this usually has very little to do with the person receiving it — and almost everything to do with the person sending it.

 

People who go out of their way to send unsolicited, cruel messages tend to fall into a few overlapping categories:

 

1. Displaced shame or insecurity
   Seeing someone post confidently — or even vulnerably — can trigger unresolved feelings in others about their own body, desirability, or lack of connection. Some people respond to that discomfort by trying to reduce the other person, because it temporarily makes them feel less small themselves.
2. Entitlement combined with anonymity
   Some people genuinely believe their preferences are objective truth rather than personal taste. Online anonymity removes social consequences, so impulses that would normally be filtered out (“this doesn’t need to be said”) get acted on.
3. Control-seeking behaviour
   For certain individuals, especially in sexual or kink-adjacent spaces, cruelty is the point. They aren’t trying to offer feedback or express attraction — they’re testing whether they can provoke an emotional reaction or exert power without consent.
4. Poor emotional regulation
   Most well-adjusted adults feel a fleeting “this isn’t for me” reaction and move on. People who can’t hold their tongue often struggle to tolerate internal discomfort without externalising it.

As for why most people don’t comment negatively:

Because they understand a basic social truth — not everything you think needs to be shared, and silence is often the most respectful response when something doesn’t resonate.

 

Posting images, especially in spaces like this, isn’t an invitation to judgement. It’s an act of participation. The vast majority of people understand that difference instinctively.

 

What happened to you wasn’t honesty, critique, or “constructive feedback.” It was someone choosing to offload something ugly they were carrying, using you as a convenient target.

 

That doesn’t make it hurt less — but it does mean it wasn’t about your body at all.

Thank you for this. I’ve only just had the time to read it properly and I appreciate it very much.

 You raise some interesting and valid points but I like that you rationalised why it wasn’t personal, it helps x