What’s my Kink and do you guys have it too?

[Ot****]

I’m just gonna focus on your statement about “heard a lot about women being selfish in bed” and get that bullshit out of your mind. Unless the dynamic you’ve agreed upon excludes you getting pleasure (no judgement, it’s A valid question)

[Ot****]

2 minutes ago, OttoTechnika said:

I’m just gonna focus on your statement about “heard a lot about women being selfish in bed” and get that bullshit out of your mind. Unless the dynamic you’ve agreed upon excludes you getting pleasure (no judgement, it’s A valid question)

Err it’s a valid choice. Anyway, unless that’s what you agreed to then you should be getting sexual satisfaction and if you’re not getting it it’s perfectly okay to be demanding.

[Pr****]

You're describing either mutual maturation, if you're okay with the man mistreating too, or a JOI, or jerk off instruction, if he's not. Both in my opinion are really hot, I love both personally - giving and receiving. Its an excellent way to bond sexually without any physical touching 💙

[Si****]

As a Pleasure Dom it’s never about “just sex”
I love to learn a subs kinks and imagination level and use them to the advantage of the session. So sometimes when I know she’s really frisky, I’ll tease her a bit more. Then say “play for Sir” show me how turned on you are. Never taking my eyes off hers.

If i want to take it deeper I tell her to listen to the sound of my voice and follow instructions. If her imagination kicks in and she may even slip to subspace…her hand becomes mine and she’ll feel Sir touching her as it were. how and where to touch, fast/slow, etc etc.

There can be mutual masturbation as well sitting near each other in bed or on a couch or floor

When you are ready for a Dom to touch you again look into Nesting and also tantric/Yoni massage and find a caring partner to take his time to do it.
It’s even fun to just have your sub sit in your lap with back to you and either she masturbates or you play with her (neck kisses nips and bean) and masturbate her.

But yes to have a sub “put on a show” or play for you and get totally spent doing it (especially with a lil edging) is fun for sure.

[Ba****]

Do it!! Super hot. No shame in your game.

[ch****]

Tickles
Licking sucking masters a**
Roleplay in public settings
Wrestling naked
Candles
Ice
Vibration overload
Feeding
Pillow fun
To name a few…

[Ro****]

For men it's sometimes referred to as JOI or jerk off instructions and is often part of remote tease and edging sessions. Don't know if its the same name for women.

[kinkymasterandrew]

I haven't heard of it specifically, but I don't see anything wrong with that kink. Mutual masterbation is very common, so if you don't mind the man also doing stuff to themselves at the same time, you'll probably find many with experience. Submissive men would also be into just watching you get pleasure, but directing you may not scratch their itch much. The voyeurism aspect is also very common. You could also do that virtually with someone and have no pressure to engage with them physically. But you're a lovely woman who wants to do sexy stuff with a guy watching, that'll be fun for most men, so don't worry.

[pr****]

I absolutely have this kink myself and while I’d think your partner would want to have piv after doing this a couple times.

[Br****]

It's actually quite common for both men and women to enjoy this.

Many guys would probably be interested in this, but make sure you set clear boundaries beforehand if you absolutely do not want anything else to happen.

[Da****]

Great points and very common kink specially in this digital age of messaging, apps and video calling 🌸

[To****]

What you’re describing isn’t unusual... Nor usual… Wanting to explore yourself under guidance, without PIV or touch, is a form of trust and surrender

And remember ; this isn’t about anyone else. It’s entirely about your desire and your partner’s willingness. He may enjoy it, he may not...the experience is defined by your connection, not outside expectations

A confident Dom doesn’t just find it hot... he treasures it. Watching, guiding, giving instructions… it’s psychological, controlled, and deeply intimate.

If you’re nervous about bringing it up, don’t be. The right Dom knows how to meet you where you are, play with anticipation, and make every moment feel intense...sometimes the mind alone is the most powerful playground

[so****]

Yes this is very common and a fun way to explore it is virtually to start. It’s called JOI you can Google it. And it can be both encouraging or degrading or both depending on what the specific kink is.

[wo****]

It’s something I did myself in front various size groups many times in various adult clubs when I was younger. Loved it. With an individual woman on a date or in some type of ongoing thing I personally have no interest in mutual masturbation. If it were some chance encounter with a stranger somewhere public, where we wouldn’t even be spending the one night together I would be into it.

I enjoy instructing a woman do it in front of me though. I’m quite into psychological control in general, and doing this has always been received well. I like to add it to other activities though. Public sex or exhibitionism for example. After a spanking is fun and having her talk about the spanking she received while she is masturbating for me is something I’ve done with a sexually conservative woman and a couple of others who were quite shy to do it initially.

About no piv to follow I wouldn’t like it if told that after it’s underway. Without even getting oral to completion during/ after I would pass on the offer. If I knew it was pretty much a certainty I would be ok with that, particularly if the relationship is very new and we talked to help me understand what’s going on for her with the no piv.

[De****]

I would have to say from a man's point of view, wanting to watch a woman masturbating is so common to hardly qualify as a kink. It's literally in almost every str8 porn I've ever seen. Adding the direction element into the mix might be a bit different however

[Si****]

Directing someone to masturbate is hot even from a distance and no visual, so even better if on 🎥 or in person 🔥🔥🔥

[pa****]

Really exciting...to me

[Ma****]

I’m a man. Just turned 26 a few months ago. All guys would be into watching their girl masturbate. But I don’t think most vanilla guys would know how to talk you through it. I’m highly into psychological domination as a pleasure dom. I love knowing what makes my sub tick, what words make her want to rub her thighs together etc. Things like making her hold it in, edging, making her overstim herself or just giving her the pleasure she craves. Guided masturbation is all about guiding her deeper and deeper into her subspace. So my advice to you would be to find a guy who is a pleasure dom. We highly enjoy play like this.

[Oh****]

Sounds like you want to be lead by a dominant partner. For guided masturbation, you need to feel safe and connected with your play partner. But, it can be a very satisfying kink and you your Dom/leader can put little wrinkles in like praise, gentle correction. It can actual open up a world of D/s for you to take as far as you’re willing to go. But, do not stop exploring it.

[Deleted Member]

To be honest as a guy. Thats all I really did with my ex. And I enjoyed it still a virgin and probably will be for awhile

[Un****]

I call that foreplay especially when I am playing the Dom. 😜

[il****]

That would be enough for me. I will no do porn. There is no intimacy in that

[we****]

Yeah i'd say thats definitly a kink sometimes me and a woman will just masturbate infront of each other if we're too tired for sex that night

[lo****]

Safety and honesty

[No****]

Been with a play mate before, and I had her masterbate for me for over an hour before I ever let her touch me or remove my clothes, it was hot.