Popular Post Sn**** Posted Sunday at 06:41 AM Popular Post How do you conquer the holiday woes? When loneliness becomes deafening. When words alone cannot satiate the desire to be touched, held, loved. Demisexuality is tough in a world filled with instant gratification and those who are addicted to it. So what do you do, when you want more?
Da**** Posted Sunday at 10:36 AM I hear you and feel you. Sometimes we just need to offer ourselves extra self love rather than compromising with the window shoppers and tourists.
Or**** Posted Sunday at 10:38 AM Damn!… Recently divorced. And in that Exact Lonely Unfulfilled situation!
el**** Posted Sunday at 11:03 AM Its a sad thing too have an addiction too intimacy when its only achieved through connection.
Ca**** Posted Sunday at 11:10 AM That's when you take the time to deep dive into yourself become as intimate with yourself as you can be as possible that way you can teach your next lover how to do it properly
Sk**** Posted Sunday at 11:39 AM I felt this so hard.... Literally was just talking about this exact thing with my bestfriend... it's super hard especially when you need connection for intimacy & casual hook ups Literally don't cut it. It's why I enjoyed having a female sub when I did. It fulfilled both our needs even while being single still in persuit of my own permanent Dominant Male Partner
Tw**** Posted Sunday at 11:49 AM Keep your ear to the ground. You'll find that person one day. Just don't stop searching.
me**** Posted Sunday at 12:03 PM I guess I can’t relate. I love my own company. I have strong bonds with family and friends. I have never relied on a man (not even my own father), and I’ve embraced life being single. I love the peace being alone brings for me. Now everyone is different. I’m just saying for me I enjoy the holidays because I am not lonely. Plus I have 2 dogs who are 100x more loyal than any man will ever be. Maybe my answer is get a dog. Maybe 2 lol
Vanillaface Posted Sunday at 12:16 PM Sorry to hear about the holiday woes. Have you got friends? Can I assume your work is fun? No mate would ever want to have anything to do with someone who feels sorry for themselves (too much anyway). I speak from personal experience… I’m the same as you, but I’m just so excited about life. Maybe men and women live differently but my epiphany came when I was in bed once with a clingy woman and I just had to get up and go and sleep in the sofa. She would scream and shout “baby” non stop and then dragged me to back to bed. Never again haha
John31 Posted Sunday at 12:31 PM Try to forget. Knowing that it takes a while for me to connect with people, and knowing that most people don't want to wait until I become comfortable with them, I tend to stop putting in as much effort as I once did. I've needed to learn that loneliness doesn't last. The desire for something more will fade with sleep, if only for a little while. I try to remind myself that the vast majority of people go through life alone. It's actually pretty rare for people to find themselves a partner they connect with. I've just got to keep myself distracted with my hobbies.
AKA_Copper Posted Sunday at 12:34 PM I create i life i love outside of kink. People on the internet are flaky, they talk the talk but dont walk the walk, they suggest a social meet but 99% bail. If you create a life that keeps you occupied in things you enjoy, with people you enjoy being around, then it's manageable. Sometimes the itch itches but, I never allow it or others to distract me by allowing it to disrupt my peace or interrupt my life - if a dates been set for a meet, I always have a back up plan so it doesn't affect my mood and is nothing more than disappointment.
Re**** Posted Sunday at 12:41 PM I politely disagree with TwistedTreat69. I'd recommend standing up tall over putting your ear to the ground. You'll be seen and heard better as sound waves travel better through air than dirt or sand. As for instant gratification, this has been the norm for quiteg shome time. Look at it as a filter protecting you from shallow, disposable-minded, selfish souls. And when you want more? Well that's a great opportunity to pause, think and realize YOU are enough just the way you are. That although you may WANT more, you don't NEED more. For reasons stated above. And if you don't want to believe me, at least consider believing Mick Jagger, lead singer of arguably the most iconic, and unarguably the most long-standing bands, of all time.
Daddybrains Posted Sunday at 03:53 PM Focus on what you control. Stay self-aware and maintain your boundaries. Pamper yourself. Start a project that keeps your head busy. If it gets overwhelming, find a support hotline and call or chat there. Holidays are tough for so many of us. You’re not alone in this feeling. You must power through it, in whatever way you can.
sardonicus87 Posted Sunday at 05:50 PM Shit, I would kill just to have literally anyone real to hang out with IRL, as even casual acquaintances (no touching, sex or even friendship). I don't even have that. . I want more than that, but I can't even get that. I do everything I can, on all the websites for all the things (every hobby I have), go to all the munches, go to a café 6 days a week for several hours (they're only open 6 days a week) and even a stanger in line won't acknowledge my presence, say hello and they look at me like I have leprosy, like "ew, why the hell would you talk to someone in person?" And it's not like I have poor hygiene or dress stupidly. . Nobody will get off their fn phones in public, never given a chance, nobody shares my hobbies or interests, everyone's cold and standoffish. . So what I do? Everything for nothing, and I'm about to give up, it's just not worth the massive effort.
si**** Posted Sunday at 05:52 PM No joke you take it over kill the reason n make your own kingdom then concore all
th**** Posted Sunday at 09:39 PM Do I have sat for a long while now thinking about your question Ms. Snugglebugb? First I want to let u know u have my simpathy ma'am. Lonely is a feeling to be respected. It's not thought or at least spoke of very often as such? But the fact is loneliness is among the most powerful feelings we have to battle and can be very distructive and even deadly. It's one that has been a worthy adversary of mine for many years now. And I try to live by "if you can help then why wouldn't you?" And I think I can help, at least a little? So I feel like the topic or the issue you're having is a common one. Very common. Many have either experienced or are still experiencing this same issue. So I'm inclined to think that there's a solution out there to this issue or at least a way to navigate it that makes it a more bearable experience. We have an infinite amount of knowledge at our fingertips. If someone is willing to do the reading and put in the time then the knowledge that can be obtained in helping aid someone in solving a problem is limited to only the amount of effort and time someone is willing to spend on solving it. In theory of course lol. If it was me, I would start with asking good old google lol. And seeing what comes up. Keeping in mind rewording it or changing key words can completely change search results. An hour or two of research and reading goes a long way. I'm very confident Ms. Bug that if nothing else u will better understand the issue and an idea of how to start going about solving it or making it more manageable to deal with? Honestly I would look into why it's a problem to start with? Why do u need that connection first? What are u getting out of that connection that unlocks the physical part for u? Is that the only key to that lock? Is it something mental that u can change within u?...see what I'm saying? There's more answers then u got question luv at your fingertips. Just gotta ask the right questions and put in the time it will take. Anyways I hope this helps and your welcome to message me if u feel u need or want to. And when those moments come where lonely is weighing heavy and it's more then u can carry, reach out to me girl I got your back and we can carry it together! ☺️ Enjoy the rest of your day ma'am
ne**** Posted Sunday at 11:49 PM Man just find someone to have fun with and explore each other’s body
Sa**** Posted yesterday at 02:21 AM I find and go to events hobbies or activities that get me out the house, like dances, classes, or online gaming. Being Demi for me means anyone I have fun with in those spaces make me happy enough to dodge holiday depression
ar**** Posted yesterday at 02:29 AM It's tuff I think sometimes it's easier just crawling into bed and engulf myself with pillows and comforter and just sleep till I have to get up for work again.
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