Does anyone like brat taming anymore?

[ki****]

I've noticed that not a lot of men enjoy brat taming. I flirt by being bratty and "rude" with dominant men, but they take it personally and grow irritated with me. Should I preface that I'm just teasing, or use more emotes so they know I'm not an asshole and it's just foreplay for me? 😭😭

[TimberTara]

If you have to act that way enough for yourself, it’s not the right connection

[Ki****]

I love that, in fact didnt know this was a thing lol. Its just my personality but most definitely very few out there that can handle it

[bi****]

It depends on how big of a brat. If you are a non stop brat and dont ever give in, which I've had, no thanks. A little brattiness doesn't hurt though

[Cu****]

It's a them issue and not you, you don't need to change a single thing about yourself. Continue to defy, the right one will know what to do with you.

[Tw****]

Depends on the brat. You've got to learn to play within your Doms limitations. If you don't, well it would be like a Dom testing your hard limits. Respect goes both ways; I have taken bratty comments to heart; but luckily my sub could read me well and made the effort to repair it.

[BruiseWayne]

IDK if you're doing this or not, but you shouldn't be rude to a Dom you haven't taken the time to establish a connection with first. I notice a lot of brats think it's perfectly okay to just be aggressively insulting, challenging, and difficult right off the bat, and not all of us like that to be perfectly honest. Maybe some do, but I know I personally would respond very negatively to it. So if that's what's going on here, maybe hold off on all that kind of behavior in the beginning, establish you're not an asshole first, make friends, get to know them a little, show them what you're like when you're NOT a brat, then you can start in with all the 'bratty' behavior. Otherwise it's hard to tell if a total stranger is just being playful or if they're actually an asshole, lol.

Edited 1 hour ago by BruiseWayne
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[Ho****]

So it depends..

If you tell me you want to session it before being rude I'll understand what is going on.

But if you just jump into being rude, I'll just move on with my life.

Fake rude, and actually a rude person are getting hard to distinguish.

[Ka****]

A lot of 'doms' especially here arent doms. They gives themselves labels they havent earned or even, in most case, researched. They think because they have the male genitalia theyre a dom. You'll find their 'punishments' or even 'funishments' are just s*x. Theyve no imagination to come up with a consequence and no power to en*** a consequence if you push back... Im very bratty, in rope I'll grab the rope or be sassy and the tops I play with think its hilarious and get creative with poking me so it tickles, tying tighter (safely) to create ***, moving knots to pressure points etc. I dare say get to events and meet people cause most 'doms' online are just boys who cant get laid on tinder and think it'll be easier in kink space :)

[BlondageDoll]

I used to have the same problem. I'd brat to get a guy's attention but the attention always turned negative because they were irritated by the bratting. Even so called "brat-tamers".

So I spoke to friends in the community on both side of the D/s slash and discovered what they were irtitated about was the disregard for consent.

Bratting was considered a play style to be acted out between two consenting partners in a dynamic. After they had both negotiated that they both liked bratting and taming. So for me to brat on a guy at an event that I wasn't in a dynamic with was a *** of consent because I had not pre negotiated if I had permission to act out that kink or behaviour.  Consent is key. Just as a stranger shouldn't spank you without permission so they shouldn't brat at you.

 

[Vi****]

If it's your partner or your dom then they should know. If you're doing this with men before kinks have been established and you're on the same page, yeah, you're going to just come off as an asshole. It's totally context dependent.

[Ka****]

*enf0rc3 a consequence
*create p@!n

[ki****]

4 minutes ago, HoneyBadgr said:

So it depends..

If you tell me you want to session it before being rude I'll understand what is going on.

But if you just jump into being rude, I'll just move on with my life.

Fake rude, and actually a rude person are getting hard to distinguish.

I try not to be insulting or degrading right off the bat. I usually just say something sarcastic, but I understand tone is hard to decipher over text. 😵‍💫

[Ho****]

It sounds like you’re doing this through text rather than face to face - the tricky thing with that is context - it’s nigh on impossible to guarantee correct interpretation through a text - so maybe more emotes or a picture of you making a face to correspond your meaning? That might help

[BruiseWayne]

Just now, BlondageDoll said:

Bratting was considered a play style to be acted out between two consenting partners in a dynamic.

Exactly this.

 

Alot of 'brats' don't seem to understand that though. They think calling themselves that is a free pass to just be rude and insulting to anyone who crosses their paths, and often they try to use it as a convenient ass covering mechanism for shit behavior on top of all that. 

[BruiseWayne]

1 minute ago, kingofpeach said:

 

I try not to be insulting or degrading right off the bat. I usually just say something sarcastic, but I understand tone is hard to decipher over text. 😵‍💫

It's not the tone really even. It's how are you supposed to know a total stranger isn't just being an asshole to you or not. That's the problem, lol. 

 

Like @BlondageDoll pointed out, it's actually a playstyle agreed upon by two consenting parties. Not a free pass for someone to just be rude and insulting to anyone they feel like. 

[Cu****]

6 minutes ago, Kaserai said:

A lot of 'doms' especially here arent doms. They gives themselves labels they havent earned or even, in most case, researched. They think because they have the male genitalia theyre a dom. You'll find their 'punishments' or even 'funishments' are just s*x. Theyve no imagination to come up with a consequence and no power to en*** a consequence if you push back... Im very bratty, in rope I'll grab the rope or be sassy and the tops I play with think its hilarious and get creative with poking me so it tickles, tying tighter (safely) to create ***, moving knots to pressure points etc. I dare say get to events and meet people cause most 'doms' online are just boys who cant get laid on tinder and think it'll be easier in kink space :)

I wanted to say this in so many words, part of the reason why I just made a new account after so many years was to get away from that kind of online behavior. A true Dom has to have a sense of awareness, understanding, and discipline within themselves before they can even begin to understand how to dole it out. Nowadays they're scrolling Reddit, combing their hair, and calling themselves DomDaddies or whatever the term they've chosen this fiscal quarter is.

[Vi****]

4 minutes ago, BlondageDoll said:

I used to have the same problem. I'd brat to get a guy's attention but the attention always turned negative because they were irritated by the bratting. Even so called "brat-tamers".

 

That's because they were A brat-tamer, not YOUR brat=-amer. acting this way with literally anybody except your partner, whether it's husband, wife, scene partner etc) is just poor behavior as an adult. As somebody else said, some people take this as just how they are supposed to act all the time, and that's perfectly fine, but it generally won't get you the results you're after.

[ki****]

6 minutes ago, BruiseWayne said:

It's not the tone really even. It's how are you supposed to know a total stranger isn't just being an asshole to you or not. That's the problem, lol. 

 

Like @BlondageDoll pointed out, it's actually a playstyle agreed upon by two consenting parties. Not a free pass for someone to just be rude and insulting to anyone they feel like. 

I totally understand that and will take it into consideration for the future. Consent is important to me, so I'll just keep that side of me to myself until there's an agreed upon dynamic.

[BruiseWayne]

1 minute ago, VirginiaGuy77 said:

That's because they were A brat-tamer, not YOUR brat=-amer. acting this way with literally anybody except your partner, whether it's husband, wife, scene partner etc) is just poor behavior as an adult. As somebody else said, some people take this as just how they are supposed to act all the time, and that's perfectly fine, but it generally won't get you the results you're after.

Yeah and I don't know how things got like this or why all these brats think that kind of behavior would be perfectly okay to engage in with a total stranger, lol.

 

You'd think it would be common sense, but eh.  

 

Though TBF the one who posted that comment seems to have come to understand how to enter into a brat/tamer relationship the right way now and that it's supposed to be between two consenting parties who have decided to play that way.

[BruiseWayne]

2 minutes ago, kingofpeach said:

I totally understand that and will take it into consideration for the future. Consent is important to me, so I'll just keep that side of me to myself until there's an agreed upon dynamic.

Yeah I mean look a little light teasing in either direction is probably NBD, but anything beyond that yeah don't do until both parties have agreed that's the way they want to play and engage with one another.

[Le****]

World is full of brat and not the kinks I mean. Just plain brat like a 15 years old girl who wants everything and knows nothing. So yeah that's pretty annoying

[Le****]

Uts literally the same as doms opening the communications by describing how they will punish you. You should take your time to establish at least a personal connection

[th****]

You can be a brat around me. I'll tame you nice and easily 😉