TimtheMerciless Posted October 28, 2023 Posted October 28, 2023 Being dommed generally frees one of feeling the responsibility at one can surrender to the sexual or romantic atmosphere your dom or partner has created. Perhaps also being humiliated activates the lizard brain and makes us feel at a gut level that we are being given attention by someone much more important than us . We may love our respect our partner or Dom with our higher brain and self. But *** makes our most primitive and strange brain areas feel that respect too. So all layers of our self are feeling that gratitude and excitement.
kitty63 Posted October 30, 2023 Posted October 30, 2023 Why subs enjoy *** will vary from sub to sub. Some might not like it at all
Ky**** Posted October 30, 2023 Posted October 30, 2023 2 minutes ago, kitty63 said: Why subs enjoy *** will vary from sub to sub. Some might not like it at all is it possible for a sub not to enjoy ***, it might be my lack of imagination but I can't think of anything that a sub endures that is not a form of ***, the scenarios and the level might vary but I'd say everything we suffer is humiliating to some degree
kitty63 Posted October 30, 2023 Posted October 30, 2023 9 minutes ago, Kymi said: is it possible for a sub not to enjoy ***, it might be my lack of imagination but I can't think of anything that a sub endures that is not a form of ***, the scenarios and the level might vary but I'd say everything we suffer is humiliating to some degree Semantically, yes, I suppose it could be argued that there is an inherent element of “***” in any Dom/sub relationship, but it might not be a primary source of enjoyment or requirement for a male sub. i was thinking more in terms of a sub for whom restraint or *** might be their need. You could argue that there is an element of *** in accepting bondage or punishment, but i don’t think it’s the same as the “***” that a sub like me “enjoys”
Ky**** Posted October 30, 2023 Posted October 30, 2023 1 minute ago, kitty63 said: Semantically, yes, I suppose it could be argued that there is an inherent element of “***” in any Dom/sub relationship, but it might not be a primary source of enjoyment or requirement for a male sub. i was thinking more in terms of a sub for whom restraint or *** might be their need. You could argue that there is an element of *** in accepting bondage or punishment, but i don’t think it’s the same as the “***” that a sub like me “enjoys” understand now, u were thinking of say humiliating behaviour rather than necessarily the *** that is an aspect of other discipline, ty for the thoughts
ey**** Posted October 30, 2023 Posted October 30, 2023 I don't entirely agree. It's not humiliating to be submissive.
kitty63 Posted October 30, 2023 Posted October 30, 2023 2 hours ago, eyemblacksheep said: I don't entirely agree. It's not humiliating to be submissive. And yet, a sense of being “humiliated” can be an essential part of a sub’s make-up. i think it’s probably best to differentiate between vanilla *** and Dom/sub ***
ey**** Posted October 30, 2023 Posted October 30, 2023 17 minutes ago, kitty63 said: And yet, a sense of being “humiliated” can be an essential part of a sub’s make-up. i think it’s probably best to differentiate between vanilla *** and Dom/sub *** there's a lot of subtle but important differences. But... the concept of being submissive shouldn't be humiliating. However, of course, there's this problem - especially in F/m as this thread is about where some still feel women are weak and so the concept of submitting to a woman is "taboo" or humiliating - and - that's actually misogyny - and a big problem. It's often no wonder those with that attitude often struggle for play/relationships *** as a form of play or within a dynamic is completely different.
kitty63 Posted October 30, 2023 Posted October 30, 2023 16 minutes ago, eyemblacksheep said: there's a lot of subtle but important differences. But... the concept of being submissive shouldn't be humiliating. However, of course, there's this problem - especially in F/m as this thread is about where some still feel women are weak and so the concept of submitting to a woman is "taboo" or humiliating - and - that's actually misogyny - and a big problem. It's often no wonder those with that attitude often struggle for play/relationships *** as a form of play or within a dynamic is completely different. i agree with You completely there. It is a complex subject with untold subtleties. If i were to publicly announce one of my kinks or fetishes, there would certainly be a few Men who wouldn’t dream of doing something so humiliating, whereas i might regard it as a “reward.” As for Fem Dom (and i would also include ***d feminisation) there is a valid argument to be made that any feeling of *** a male sub might feel by being belittled by a Woman could be considered worrying. Complex with subtleties
kitty63 Posted October 30, 2023 Posted October 30, 2023 The op asked what a male sub gets out of being humiliated (and i’m talking about *** as a fetish in itself). i’ve sometimes asked myself what i enjoy about it, and i’m still not entirely sure. i do remember that one frequent early fantasy for me was bring ***d to date the least popular girls in our school and suffering humiliating ridicule as a result. That was back in my naive, less enlightened boyhood, of course. It wasn’t that i was a particularly disliked kid in school, and i had girlfriends throughout who i found attractive. Who knows why i enjoy that feeling of humiliating inferiority? Strict mum? Passive dad? Nature? Nurture? A bit of both?
ey**** Posted October 31, 2023 Posted October 31, 2023 it's a fairly old post and the OP hasn't logged in for over 2 years but, a lot ***-wise is very personal - and some is, sadly, rooted in prejudices (be it the aforementioned "submitting to a woman is humiliating" - or also - things like feminisation 'because being a woman is humiliating' or ***d-bi 'because being gay is humiliating' - etc) and also what one person finds humiliating another would not. I did foot worship with my Mistress in the middle of a (fetish) club - and my mindset was it was an honour to be paraded as hers so publicly, but for others this would be a humiliating experience A lot of people like the "rejected by hot girls" kinda thing - in some cases, because they're used to getting what they want and here is someone saying 'no' - or in other cases it can be a reclamation - for example how mean people can be if you approach them when younger and they're not interested Orgasm based *** also - where stuff is so centred around the male orgasm and it's then denied, ruined, or fed back -- but, the top and bottom is there's no blanket reason and overanalysing why you might be into something can be a distraction from just enjoying being into it.
megan-9454 Posted November 4, 2023 Posted November 4, 2023 Sometimes a person just needs told what to do!!! Even doms, not just subs!!!Its life, we all need direction and we all need to give direction, and sometimes its a big turn on to just be bossed around and sometimes its a turn off!! Either way, if your already feeling down about yourself and life, having someone that is super sexy telling you the things you already feel, is exactly what you need!!!
dook Posted November 7, 2023 Posted November 7, 2023 I find that having a mistress do and call me things that I am not supposed to like is a huge turn on. I love exposed poses, being called names, being controlled sexually, or being ***d to say Mercy and totally succomb to my mistress.
MicahSPH-1221 Posted December 15, 2023 Posted December 15, 2023 I am wanting to explore female domination
Ki**** Posted December 23, 2023 Posted December 23, 2023 I think no one likes to be humiliated infront of others. But when it's in a scene it's part of a play, there is a distinct difference between *** and sexual ***, when it's sexual there is an intriguing pleasure of the feeling that comes over us, just enjoy it.
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