Rejection…

[ja****]

I'm curious how you see this? Are people telling you this? Or are you making assumptions based on female stories?

[Ra****]

Thank you!!!!

[Ar****]

Yes! I'm constantly amazed by the 'demanding to know why' when I don't feel a good match. Almost telling me I'm wrong.

[da****]

Skill issue...pro tip try out exercising your approach on people you personally don't find attractive but you think would find YOU attractive give yourself a little bit of an advantage walking into situations in order to get yourself comfortable approaching people correctly you will still face rejection on some level especially once you try and take this approach to your desired person but at the very least you will have the best version of that approach prepared and practiced!

[yo****]

So. Well. Said!

[di****]

Never been rejected

[ey****]

it does constantly dumbfound me how many people moan about rejection (and then how counterproductive that actually is!) whether that is not getting replies, being blocked, told no, etc.  Like, it sucks, but boo hoo.  And even if that person had continued chatting, had agreed to meet, there is likely to be some point they put down a boundary or tell you no and if you can't hack that then they were right not to respond. 

[wo****]

As a newbie thank you for the information 🙏

[Ca****]

1 hour ago, eyemblacksheep said:

it does constantly dumbfound me how many people moan about rejection (and then how counterproductive that actually is!) whether that is not getting replies, being blocked, told no, etc.  Like, it sucks, but boo hoo.  And even if that person had continued chatting, had agreed to meet, there is likely to be some point they put down a boundary or tell you no and if you can't hack that then they were right not to respond. 

THIS!!! Sometimes I wonder if these type of people throw a full on tantrum in the grocery store if they see their favorite cookie flavor is out of stock or discontinued. Like, bruh, there's a gazillion other cookies out there (pun intended). I personally see any type of no (be it in DMs, out of stock products, the opposite of the weather I was expecting/hoping for, etc) as making way to find a new/different yes, tenfold when it comes to people on any sort of meeting/dating site. 

[As****]

Dude I WISH guys would just flat out reject me like that instead of trying to play the “nice guy” and drag it out and lie about what’s happening to try and spare feelings lol THAT is what ***es me off.

[el****]

This is one of the reasons why I’m so guarded on this app. How do I trust a rando if they can’t handle non-sexual consent and boundaries. To me this shows who are true safe! BDSM practitioners, and those who use BDSM as a guise to be borderline abusive. Its disgusting.

[cu****]

I’ve been gaslit into situations

[ty****]

Many people see BDSM as a sexual fantasy, when in fact it is a lifestyle, and in that lifestyle you must respect everyone’s and your own boundaries. If someone is uncomfortable about a line of conversation then the other person should respect that, try to resolve the problem and if you can’t then just move along. Not all people are comfortable with each others kinks and mindsets, you must have respect

[wi****]

Its actually so unbecoming for either sex. And unfortunately ive already encountered many tantrums! A little something i like to call "this is the internet" to cope and stay sane.

[Sassyquanch]

It is just so perplexing to throw a temper tantrum, jump up and down, and yell they want "their" sex time. As if being loud and demanding will suddenly hypnotize you into suddenly wanting them.

Probably the same type of person who's a regular at a restaurant and always trieds to get shit for free, and will complain, bitch, and threaten to never come back since the food is gross and ugly anyway... to then return next week to repeat it all over again.

[wo****]

In a previous comment I believe that I generally agreed with the op , particularly on how to handle rejection like an adult. My views on that haven’t changed.
I want to revisit the topic to add perspective on something conveyed in the op, which I have also seen expressed by others in this thread and/or other threads. I think it’s worth considering.
It’s the notion that “you are not entitled to anyone’s time, attention, or interest.”
If I remember correctly I have acknowledged that this is true. I still believe that. But…
Asserting this as a legitimate position to hold is setting a precedent for everyone else to also use this rule for themselves. There may come a time when a person finds themselves in situations where they want or need the time, attention, or interest of someone else.
Adopting a position may be beneficial now, but I hope that people who assert the position don’t ever find themselves in a situation where they are “not entitled to another’s time, attention, or interest” when they really want or need it.
Sometimes people don’t think through a position to see the potential negative consequences of asserting it as valid.
I chose to share this perspective even though no one is entitled to it. People are obviously able to consider it or dismiss it as they see fit.

[wa****]

You’re absolutely right

[me****]

Most definitely no need get salty if there’s no reply there’s no interest 😉

[ea****]

Exactly how many people have you rejected in this pattern you speak of? Save some for the rest of us boss

[Ma****]

Never has it been said better.

[Bl****]

I don’t do either of these things and I’m neurodivergent with RSD. Just don’t be a crappy person.

[Fr****]

I cant speak for everyone but me personally if I dont get a response I just walk away

[Ru****]

I like the ones who end up knowing someone mutually. So they go and ask the mutual friend about you and that person runs your name in the ground lije they have talked to you recently. Its like hey I haven't spoken to or seen you in 15 almost 20 years thanks for acting like you know who I am anymore. So then this person I have been speaking to just up and ghosts me and just dosent say anything. The way I look at it is, be an adult and just say I dont want to speak to you anymore or something along those lines instead of being a child and not saying anything. People just dont have respect anymore and want to complain about people continuing to contact them. Just put words to how you feel and tell them to stop contacting them. Simple to the point.

[wo****]

6 hours ago, Freakydeaky92 said:

I cant speak for everyone but me personally if I dont get a response I just walk away

This is the way I handle it too. A very brief follow up 2-3 weeks later like “don’t know if you read my earlier message, still interested” isn’t particularly offensive in my opinion, but the odds of the woman both missing the original message AND ALSO being interested is extremely low. It makes me question a guys ability to perceive and incorporate feedback and self awareness. How many unsuccessful second attempts in reaching out to women does it take before realizing it’s much better to ‘take the hint’ so to speak?