Is it wrong to ask for more than rough sex?

[Sa****]

That sounds delicious, tbh.

[Do****]

You are not wrong at all. That is exactly the way it should be.
The problem is that with the exploding interest in BDSM a lot of newcomers are totally clueless and regard BDSM, and Kink in general, as rough sex only. The truth is that power dynamics don't happen overnight, they demand a level of intimacy, confidence and trust that demands a longer period of conversation that is not compatible with the s***dy fast-sex most people are looking for.
Just be clear with your desires and needs with the people you consider getting involved with, and don't be afraid to send most of them down the road. After all it is all about clear communication, clear boundaries and limits, and of course consent.

[In****]

The way you put it in this post is quite perfect, so maybe use a similar explanation when conversing with a potential partner about your needs?

Understanding and meeting your submissive's desires is part of the "role description" for a Dominant, and part of the submissive's role is vetting their potential Dominant's words and behavior, which is understandably, and unfortunately, more than what people usually want to put effort toward. You could even say that those role efforts I described work for both parties involved.

On my side, I usually make it abundantly clear what I can easily maintain and what would be more difficult for me to achieve on a submissive's behalf. Also, there is nothing wrong with either party wanting to review/adjust the dynamic later, as long as it is clear that is what you are asking for.

[Ky****]

This is my experience also - no one reads profiles, wants to know me etc. but quick to send pics and expect my complete submission. This app feels like tinder with a slightly more kink-aware group of men. I want a LT partner to explore kink with but keep getting offers for fleeting orgasms and ONS instead. 🤷‍♀️

[In****]

25 minutes ago, Kylee614 said:

This is my experience also - no one reads profiles, wants to know me etc. but quick to send pics and expect my complete submission. This app feels like tinder with a slightly more kink-aware group of men. I want a LT partner to explore kink with but keep getting offers for fleeting orgasms and ONS instead. 🤷‍♀️

That, unfortunately, sounds like the general market no matter where you go 😔

FL seems to have the same issue and it is also well established. I seen countless complaints where guys have a false impression where submission should be instant, and that is a good hint to avoid those encounters. Nothing good or lasting will come from them. Good luck!