AKA_Copper Posted 8 hours ago A sub without a Dom is a tragic creature, wandering the emotional plains clutching a metaphorical lead that goes nowhere. The lead drags uselessly behind them, light enough to ignore in the main, but heavy enough to feel its mocking. The sadness is real. It settles in the chest like a weighted blanket that's forgotten its purpose and decided to stick around anyway. It presses down day after day, until breathing feels alot like effort rather than instinct. . Decisions become impossible. Should I go to bed now? Should I drink water? Am I allowed to buy Ben and Jerry? The questions circle endlessly with no answer and no permission. No one is there to say the things that would make everything stop spinning. The silence is not peaceful, it makes the longing louder. . What breaks them is the absence of praise. No "good job". No approving hum or growl that somehow turns any task into a life time achievement. The sub could literally find the cure for a disease and still feel hollow because no one noticed in "that" way. Compliments from friends fall flat. “You’re doing great” means absolutely nothing unless it carries a hint of ownership and warmth. Without praise, motivation wilts. Plants may get watered, but the soul does not. . Then there’s the absence of impact, not just ***, but its punctuation. Without it, emotions bleed into one another, unchecked and exhausting. There’s no moment of clarity, no quiet when the brain finally stops. The sub doesn’t even crave the sting anymore, just the interruption, the relief of being momentarily still. Now they just stew, trapped in their own head, drowning in feelings with nowhere to put them. . The sub makes their own rules just to feel something then promptly breaks them out of spite. Staying up too late. Ignoring alarms. "If no one’s telling me what to do, I simply won’t". It’s not rebellion, it’s exhaustion disguised as defiance. . The sub sighs dramatically while doing completely ordinary things. Folding laundry feels insulting. Spotify playlists spiral into emotional chaos. Friends ask, “Are you okay?” and the answer is always, “yes,” because explaining would take too long, and no one is asking in the right way and without the right tone. No one has said "I’m proud of you" with enough weight to matter in far too long. . Beneath the despair, the humour and the bratty edge, there is a raw truth the sub can’t escape...this isn’t just about *** or praise alone. It’s about connection, being seen deliberately, not accidentally. The lead may be imaginary, the praise silent, the place where impact should live completely abandoned but the want remains relentless, and unbearable. So the sub waits. Dramatically. Quietly terrified that nothing will ever arrive. Until then, they remain here, starved of affirmation, emotionally unanchored, trying to survive on irony and self-control, drinking water only because they told themselves to do so. . Which, honestly, deserves praise. Even if they’d roll their eyes when they got it.
Lo**** Posted 1 hour ago Very well written. I thoroughly enjoyed this. Thank you. As a Dom I feel the same, just backwards. You sound awesome. This made me smile, and gave me hope for a better tomorrow. Well done! I do need to complain about one thing. You are so dang cute, I needed to see more pictures! lol. Thank you again!
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