Learning your partner’s fantasies&fetishes

[xx****]

Have you ever had a partner want you to do something that you weren’t comfortable with or just didn’t appeal to you?
Did you deal with it in a way that satisfied their needs?
Please share your experiences with things that were outside your desire? Did it grow on you? Or did you draw a line and what did that look like and what happened?

[Ba****]

First, it’s important to clarify whether this action would go against my own limits, which will have been discussed (along with theirs). If it does, I don’t do it and reassess the relationship.
Assuming it doesn’t cross any limits, I would ask for time to consider it. I’d research and try to place what my issue with it is. Once I have a firm understanding of my own stance, I’d ask to discuss it with them. I’d want to know what they like about it, what they get from it, etc.
Then we discuss until we reach a conclusion everyone accepts. Also discuss any extra aftercare that would be needed, assuming it’s relevant.
To be clear, i have been in this situation and have both refused and done the act. Understanding and communication is essential.

[ra****]

You should listen to Dan Savages Good Giving and Game podcast. A couple different couples told me I was GGG and I didn’t understand that and the one couple told me to look up this podcast.

As long as it doesn’t hurt your psyche, is not a hard limit, may not turn you on what is the harm in trying it for them? I like to try things a few times… to know where i really am at with it and to get my partners off. I want them as fulfilled as i am or more.

[mo****]

I had a bloke once who wanted me to kick him hard in the balls and say to him you will never have ***! Now I know some men like this but he wanted the kicks to be as hard as I could kick. I did it a few times but he was younger than me and every time I kicked I felt sick so I left!

[cl****]

This is about enforcing your own boundaries with yourself.

[cl****]

Youre under no obligation to bend your limits