Fiance is new to BDSM

[Su****]

I'm new to the whole BDSM scene but I've been polyamorous for a while. My fiance is monogamous and he only wants me to play with other women. What do I do if I pique the interest of a man? 

[at****]

Do what FEELS right intrinsically.

[ti****]

Well then I guess you need to seriously consider if you are going to commit to no other men ever for the rest of your life. If he is okay with you being with other women that sort of makes it sound like an ego thing. Like a dog not wanting another dog to touch his bone. In the end you will have to decide what is more important for you personally because forever is a really long time.

[at****]

Kinda have to agree with her on this one

[mn****]

it feels like… the answer is none of what any of us say, and all of what is agreed upon between you and fiance.
wild you got this far without knowing, but it’s important.

[do****]

Doesn’t sound like he takes women on women relationships seriously since he doesn’t see it as a ‘threat’ some men are like that just be careful knowing he sees it as giving you permission when it’s your right to be Poly however you want (as long as it’s separate from him because cheating is wrong).

[ey****]

of interest.... who does your partner play with?

is he limited only to other men?

[ra****]

Immediately this sounds like you don’t want that. So, maybe rethink your plans to marry. I would adjust expectations because if they already said this they don’t understand the lifestyle.

[do****]

2 minutes ago, eyemblacksheep said:

of interest.... who does your partner play with?

is he limited only to other men?

OOOOOOOO ASKING THE REAL QUESTIONS 👀

[Ne****]

I’m sorry it should be open either way can’t have your dessert and eat it too

[Su****]

13 minutes ago, eyemblacksheep said:

of interest.... who does your partner play with?

is he limited only to other men?

That's just it. He doesn't want anyone else but me. I honestly think he's just being possessive.

[Ne****]

Get out while you can being possessive is not a good in a relationship

[ey****]

yeah, this is not great

google "one penis policy" and there'll be a few articles about it and the issues it causes - it's insecure, controlling and also a misogynistic 

[ra****]

10 minutes ago, Sukuna98 said:

That's just it. He doesn't want anyone else but me. I honestly think he's just being possessive.

He is monogamous with the thought that a woman won’t challenge the relationship. She won’t rock the boat. You already know what you should do and you already know what you are going to do… no one that is really poly is going to be for your fiancee. If you do you are going to end up monogamous and unhappiness? to be seen but foreseen.. good luck.

[Pr****]

It’s just another kink. You have to figure out if you want to play with those parameters. If you dont, cut him loose. If you do, love him for what he is.

[le****]

I would say because that’s what I am looking for introducing him to each other build a friendship and go from ther

[Gi****]

Make sure you inly do what you’re comfortable with. Communicate, communicate,communicate! Don’t let this man tell you who to sleep with when you want something else. Think about you and your desire first.

[Ty****]

You deserve to enjoy yourself. If he isn't committed to your pleasure and happiness he's not the one. If communicating with him your needs doesn't help him to understand then take matters into your own hands.

[Lo****]

Has the relationship been this way since the beginning? Or is this a new boundary that he has set? If it's something new, then COMMUNICATE and ask why he feels this way now!

[Me****]

If you're fine with his boundary and aren't interested in men, then let that man who's interested that you and your partner both agreed on that boundary.