Female Orgasm

[Ja****]

It’s communication. Should be clearly outlined in first talks (consent, boundaries, limits (both salt and hard), wants, and needs. Knowing the difference between the last two is crucial.

[Mr****]

Teach them. Show them. Its ok to expect that from a partner. Don't pretend, don't lie about it to spare their feelings. If they're too insecure or impatient and they don't make it a priority then you know how uninterested they really are.

Set them up for success. Encourage what they're doing right and guide them. If you're left unsatisfied, consider finishing yourself right then and there, demonstrating what it looks and sounds like when you find release.

A lot of men are still trying to find some kind of one size fits all method to making women cum. They dont understand that everyone is unique and what has worked for them before may not work for you.

Whatever you do, find a way that you're safe and comfortable communicating that there's a need. Some people are just less observant, intuitive or conscientious, and may surprise you with their commitment to improvement once they're aware there's an issue. 🤷‍♂️

[si****]

Well from a girl, I’ve never unless it’s by myself. Idk if that on the guy or just us women in general not being able to as easily

[cu****]

My ex was usually good about getting me to orgasm at least once. Unless I got him off first, then he didn’t bother to make sure I orgasmed. Or he would stop in the middle of an orgasm and not let me finish and i would have to finish myself.

[ok****]

Most guys don't really care, at least not with a hookup.

[Ja****]

My experience is that women need to be in a state of receptive emotional relaxation and it us important to recognise that what works on one woman does not necessarily work on another. It is important to listen, take time and learn what works. It certainly helps to get encouragement and guidance. Men are not psychic and are more likely to respond to positive encouragement . Mostly, we want to get a woman to that point ( there are inevitably some who are not bothered). It is essential to recognise that a woman’s physical and emotional state in sex bears little resemblance to a man’s so starting out with’what you know’ based on your own experience will not work for everyone and often won’t get you over the line. I’ve certainly benefitted from a guiding hand on one or two occasions. Remember: we are all wired differently…

[Deleted Member]

The problem is lack of SENSUALITY, most guys just care about them pounding you because they think it’s the manly thing to do but in actual reality it’s not, it’s about the slow sensual movement that makes a woman’s body react, most guys don’t pay attention to the woman’s body language during their effort to get her to climax. It’s in her movement and her breathing. It just takes a guy to actually pay attention to these signs and it should be no problem at all. Slow and deep is a good way to start.

[no****]

She’s probably faked it bud

[Fr****]

lol... What a ridiculous topic for a guy to post.
I've always been able to make the person I'm with orgasm before myself.
It takes extra effort and focus for me to orgasm, but I still enjoy inflicting that ecstasy upon the one I'm with.

[Sp****]

I hear a lot of women with disdain because they feel that a partner did not please them properly , bringing them to orgasm. As a guy , who has been with quite a few women, I have to say that it's not a one-size-fits-all deal. One person requires a lot of external foreplay, another needs a finger or something hooked around rubbing the G-Spot just right, another only gets it from doggy style , well another but as you go and discuss things. Lack of orgasm can't be held just on one person because anatomy is different. Now I get it there are going to be guys that are one pump and done. Guys that don't care.

[ma****]

They guy needs to learn what turns the woman on and what makes her orgasm the most. My husband tells me that he knows exactly how to make me orgasm and it would be hard for anyone else to figure it out because of the way my pelvic sits.

[Ma****]

Its the mental aspect for me. If I'm stress and all in my head, not emotionally present, a man can spend and hour on me and I wont cum. And other times, I'll easily cum 3 times in row. Age plays a factor. When I just losing my virginity it took 2 yeras before I had a real orgsm, my body didn't know how to let it go. Now I have control issues so sometimes I wont let it go. It can certainly be a mindset thing for woman

[Ir****]

I also run into this a lot with speaking to women about past relationships and fwb. Which is a double edged sword for me when I am inevitably the one to make them cum. Most women think they’re difficult but they’re just in their own head. It’s your duty to take them out and make the present and make them feel safe and sexy and wanted. The rest comes naturally with patience and communication and understanding the body and body language. The double edged sword is sometimes the attachment can be very visceral and intense. Which is a great feeling but it can make things messy, if I’m not reciprocating 100% of those feelings. Anyways thanks for coming to my TedTalk

[xl****]

I’m so glad you asked this. I am also curious. Like, is it that most men can’t get someone off or is it something more? I feel like I haven’t really had a whole lot of “I didn’t get mine” situations. But I also don’t tend to leave things with me being the only satisfied partner.

[Sl****]

I wish I could provide that for every woman I meet who’s become jaded about men not focusing their attention on women. I’ve chirped here and on Fetlife for men to step up and be present whether they’re worn out or not. To be mindful of the woman who’s sharing her precious time and her priceless body and soul. There are many women who slowly wither inside and others who swiftly become traumatized. I’ve become friends and have been supporting one who can’t escape her addiction while another is ***ful of returning to hers - and to the guy that cast her aside.

I’d give all of my joy away if it could help others. I wish I could admit that my thoughts are trolling but my god. The stories of neglect and sheer misogyny keep percolating. It has to stop, men. Y’all - why do you just not care enough to show a modicum of attention?

[B_****]

You’re either able to listen to the person you’re trying to give them to or they’re just stupid and their listening skills need some work because it’s not always the same with everyone some women do get them easy sometimes depending on their mood and mindset but sometimes you’ve got to put more effort in than just using two fingers and your dick but sometimes it’s good to feel around gently when inside as well

[Deleted Member]

Fun fact there are women who don’t know how to make themselves climax. There are may factors that can go into why a woman doesn’t achieve the big O. Does she know herself? Is she comfortable? Does he know female anatomy? Is he comfortable?
I can say that once you learn about yourself and are comfortable with a partner you can for sure get there. That means you can tell them when it just isn’t working or not.

[Odd-1086]

I agree, but from man's perspective that means that a woman would have to speak her mind and tell her partner, in straight terms, what it is that zctually gets her off. Until eomsn open up to their partners then yhere is nothing a man can do about it except flop about.

[Ir****]

1 hour ago, IrishPride9 said:

I also run into this a lot with speaking to women about past relationships and fwb. Which is a double edged sword for me when I am inevitably the one to make them cum. Most women think they’re difficult but they’re just in their own head. It’s your duty to take them out and make the present and make them feel safe and sexy and wanted. The rest comes naturally with patience and communication and understanding the body and body language. The double edged sword is sometimes the attachment can be very visceral and intense. Which is a great feeling but it can make things messy, if I’m not reciprocating 100% of those feelings. Anyways thanks for coming to my TedTalk

💯👏 yes!!!!

[ma****]

I never orgasmed with my x husband because of all the *** he put me through. So now its hard for me to orgasm but at times I let go and its the best feeling

[Hi****]

Apart from my ex wife, I have never had a partner complain

[Fo****]

Mason133600 could I provide you release via my voice????

[Fo****]

I have a music degree and am a baritone

[Fo****]

It's like shibarii but vocally

[pe****]

As a guy it can be an immense amount of pressure to feel inadequate, but again most guys that I know are not exactly great at taking pointers and girls are also not great at communicating.

The blind leading the blind.

And I'd say most of it is caused by men in general and their ego, you try once or twice but he's so full of himself that he takes it the wrong way and then you feel uneasiness in expressing what brings you to the O.

.I'm generalizing but that's one pattern I've seen come back in my experiences.