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9 hours ago, Barthold said:

Wait so according to most replies so far “service” seems to be either near blind obedience or a lot of the things a sub does intentionally and primarily for the dom that would be called “care” when a dom does equivalent things primarily for the sub??

If you read my comment directly over yours, I avoided the use of Dom and sub deliberately. It's putting the needs of another before your own and by doing so, having your own needs met...that works for a Dom or a sub

It means to me, being of use, putting my needs and desires as secondary and catering to those of my mistress. Making her life easier and better, regardless of what that means for me.

I enjoy doing things for my guy. Getting him a glass of tea. Making dinner. Bringing him snack, being his snack

Serving any real man that emasculate me into their personal toy and make me there little sissy cumslut 

To be part of my furniture, when I call you come willingly and actively wanting to please, then once I’m satisfied you return to be a piece of my ownership

yesterday i massaged the shoulder of my SO for over 45 min, she has some sort of frozen shoulder and she actually zoned out and started sleeping – reward without reward. It was a beautiful moment. 

I don't believe in the pop psych definition, it's incomplete. Showing you care about them by doing something that makes them happy by putting their needs first is what any company can tell you. How one provides service is often as important as the service itself. That feeling of accomplishment, or pride in your ability to service others, whether mundane or intimate, is something a lot of people look for in a relationship, friendship, casual partners, etc...

Service, to me, is about care. I’m drawn to service that carries formality, structure, and intention. When I present tea or coffee, it’s done ritualistically. When I help my D-types dress, it follows a deliberate rhythm. When I bathe them, the same care and structure apply.

Everything I do has intention behind it. It either follows a clear structure or is performed in a way that is beautiful to witness. The way I move, the way I hold my body, the way I look at them while serving, all of it is purposeful. Everything carries the intention of being pleasing.

When I am serving my community, I do so knowing I am representing my D-types. Everything I do reflects upon my owners. So those I serve may say, "That is So and So's girl." They have her well-trained. Or they may report back to my owners on how well I have pleased them. 

15 hours ago, aurydesclos said:

If you read my comment directly over yours, I avoided the use of Dom and sub deliberately. It's putting the needs of another before your own and by doing so, having your own needs met...that works for a Dom or a sub

Oh i did
And if you read all above yours you might see what i meant

Ps my general agreement you statement about it being a state of mind is most of the reason i don’t see myself as serving anyone
Don’t get me wrong, i’ll still be doing a lot of the things in the other examples pretty much inline with the rest of your initial comment, i just wouldn’t call that “service” but something like “attentiveness, care, favor or just part of preparation” depending on the thing and the situation

Getting a drink the moment they lick their lips. Cleaning their glasses prior to handing them over. Rubbing feet after a long day. Slipping secret notes into your lunch I’ve made for your day. Sending spicy photos during long meetings… the list is endless depending on the person. I’m eager to please, incredibly so when my partner keeps me allows me to be nothing less than my authentic self <3

Service to me is silently doing for others because it’s the right thing to do, even if you get condemned or castigated. It’s stepping up for strangers no matter whether you’re jaded. It’s performing without expectation. Sharing joy and attention to those who feel under appreciated. Easing someone’s trauma.

When it comes to being in a relationship? Resisting any temptation to take things personally. Being present and inquisitive. Using empathy to make the extra trip. Walk the extra mile. Add one more thing for her to soften any hard day that she’s had. To be genuinely compersive when she loves praise to live out her inhibitions.

As I awaken is how I also want to retire at night: to think of all those whom I’ve encountered throughout my day and feeling that I’ve helped their day become better and not worse. I can’t stand thinking that I’ve ever made someone’s experience worse, or that I’ve disappointed anyone.

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