First Time… do I have to be bi?

[Qu****]

You can have a beer without being an alcoholic, or a cigarette without being a smoker. One thing does not change your identity per se unless you want it to

[cy****]

Nothing makes u bi except u. It just makes u open to new adventures. U r a str8 man who has done things

[ar****]

Bi, straight are sexual orientations. They describe the people you are *sexuality ATTRACTED* to. If you don't feel sexually attracted to men, then you would still be straight. He can suck you off, and you may enjoy the feeling. But if there's no desire for you towards having sex with him, you're straight. Or, if you don't even have sexual attraction at all, you could be asexual. Makes no difference for being able to enjoy sexual acts.

[Bi****]

5 hours ago, IrishPride9 said:

Labels ain’t all that easy or that great man. I have fucked a few men. And been blown by more than that. Had a cuck three way with him involved. I walk away viewing myself as just a dominant alpha. Nothing else. I’m not romantically attracted to men. Or men at all really. If they have a penis like femboys or some trans women, I like that. I like feminine energy and bodies. Is that bi? Gay? Soemthing else? Who cares. Am I having fun and is everything honest and consensual ? Yes. Then idc about labels. You’re good bro. Go have your kinky fun!! And be safe!

Thank you. I’m starting to feel like this. Divorced at 46 and boy I see some interesting times ahead. Monster steps

[Ga****]

Why does it matter? It doesn’t make you any less of a man, so why are you hung up on a label you clearly don’t want, and that is nothing but a limitation? You’re just a human, and who you have sex with or get sucked off by doesn’t change who you are in the least. I look forward to the day when we stop letting sexual preferences define us. We don’t have to be straight, bi, gay, lesbian, or whatever else. It’s nobody’s business, first and foremost, and it just limits us. And I do realise I’m saying this whilst having “straight” as a label on my profile, but aside from when I’m on the prowl, and it’s actually useful, I don’t use a label. If people ask, I’ll ask them why it should matter.
Here, you can just leave it on straight unless you choose to pursue sexual encounters with males as well.
Eating a croissant doesn’t make you a baker, nor does it make you French. You’re still just you 😊

[it****]

Pitching or catching is still playing baseball right?

[it****]

Man card gone. IYKYK

[Ga****]

6 minutes ago, itsme_isityou said:

Man card gone. IYKYK

That’s close minded, ridiculous, and homophobic- and you managed it in very few words. I’m impressed.

[Sa****]

Don't worry about labeling it. Just take in the experience without judgement.

[Ra****]

Biphobia and sexism detected. IYKYK.

[Sa****]

27 minutes ago, itsme_isityou said:

Man card gone. IYKYK

I'm sorry to hear that this is the way you think

[Bi****]

10 minutes ago, Railings said:

Biphobia and sexism detected. IYKYK.

From me? I’m not biphobic. I just know how much people ask and they do have issues. I had “interested In women, couples, guys… in my profile and I had females contact me and then say oh you like guys never mind. So if someone asks if I’m Bi I think I’ll say no simply because I don’t want to be alone with a guy. But I will let a guy enjoy me with his wife. No phobia just don’t want to send the wrong vibes.

[Ga****]

5 hours ago, jess79882 said:

What I’m gathering here is they have been asking this a lot, and from what I’m reading it sounds like they’re pressuring you because you used the words “giving in” and “I’m only doing this for them” “perfectly content just performing without his involvement.”

Always check the acronym F.R.I.E.S. when it comes to consent:

Freely given: Consenting is a choice you make without pressure, manipulation, or under the influence of *** or alcohol.

Reversible: Anyone can change their mind about what they feel like doing, anytime. Even if you’ve done it before, and even if you’re both naked in bed.

Informed: You can only consent to something if you have the full story. For example, if someone says they’ll use a condom and then they don’t, there isn’t full consent.

Enthusiastic: When it comes to sex, you should only do stuff you WANT to do, not things that you feel you’re expected to do.

Specific: Saying yes to one thing (like going to the bedroom to make out) doesn’t mean you’ve said yes to others (like having sex).

Can you say you can check off every letter? ❤️

That’s a very good point. I felt it was more about distancing himself from it, but you are absolutely right and it was awesome of you to point it out.
If you don’t want to do it you don’t have to do it. But if you’re curious to try it is perfectly fine and any decent person will not use that to challenge or redefine your sexuality.

[Ra****]

7 minutes ago, BigChanges said:

From me? I’m not biphobic. I just know how much people ask and they do have issues. I had “interested In women, couples, guys… in my profile and I had females contact me and then say oh you like guys never mind. So if someone asks if I’m Bi I think I’ll say no simply because I don’t want to be alone with a guy. But I will let a guy enjoy me with his wife. No phobia just don’t want to send the wrong vibes.

It wasn’t in response to the post - it was in response to the first comment. 🫶❤️

[Br****]

There is nothing wrong with simply enjoying pleasure and being in the moment you aren't automatically bi just cuz a guy sucks you off lol the way you asked is kinda cute haha and the openess is very hot. Let yourself enjoy it without letting yourself get caught up in worrying what other people think about it its your body. Explore and find your limits. It's nothing to be embarrassed about if you enjoy it you enjoy it and if you don't then that's a thing you know now and who knows maybe he is really good at it? Good head is good head 😆

[Be****]

You could consider yourself heteroflexible. I deal with couples myself it’s what I generally prefer. I have fucked men and allowed me to give me head, but I am not attracted to men romantically at all. I have no desire to kiss a man at all or cuddle or hold hands with men in any way and I won’t bottom for a man. So I don’t consider myself to be bi per se, just heteroflexible

[Fi****]

😄 dear lord… Sexual orientation isn’t defined by a single act but by your own attraction and internal desire. Allowing a man to touch or pleasure you doesn’t automatically make you bi… it simply means you consented to an experience

[ra****]

As long as you don’t make eye contact your fine bro, it’s not gay.

[Ga****]

4 hours ago, BigChanges said:

From me? I’m not biphobic. I just know how much people ask and they do have issues. I had “interested In women, couples, guys… in my profile and I had females contact me and then say oh you like guys never mind. So if someone asks if I’m Bi I think I’ll say no simply because I don’t want to be alone with a guy. But I will let a guy enjoy me with his wife. No phobia just don’t want to send the wrong vibes.

I think she meant “itsme_isityou” 😊 but honestly.. we’re on Fet. If a woman can’t handle that sexuality is multifaceted and a guy can have experiences with a cock, as well… maybe she’s a little behind in opening her mind, and you can do without. I don’t see you as having limited options- so long as geography assists 😉

[mr****]

If you’re not attracted to men I don’t see how you could agree to this. I have turned down several threesomes because the guy wanted to give me head to. I have even had men tell me I can fuck there wife but I have to let them suck me off. That sounds like the same thing but very different just by how the presented it. I also can’t understand how some men can say they’re not attracted to men but have fucked them or let them suck them off. I just can’t understand how you could let that happen.

[Bi****]

23 minutes ago, mrwindell said:

If you’re not attracted to men I don’t see how you could agree to this. I have turned down several threesomes because the guy wanted to give me head to. I have even had men tell me I can fuck there wife but I have to let them suck me off. That sounds like the same thing but very different just by how the presented it. I also can’t understand how some men can say they’re not attracted to men but have fucked them or let them suck them off. I just can’t understand how you could let that happen.

Well. Let’s just say I’m receiving more. So it’s worth it to me. And he’s watched me twice. And his wife is in to it. I’m very into being the focus. I’m not attracted to him like oooo I wanna fuck him. But if he wants to work on me with his wife. So be it.

The kind of *** you’re talking about might mean you are in fact attracted to it. Since I’m not it literally is no big deal.

[mr****]

That’s the dumbest thing I ever heard. The fact that I won’t have sex with someone I’m not attracted to isn’t *** that’s standards. Let’s face it you’re gonna have sex with a man so you can continue to fuck his wife.

[li****]

If you agreed under pressure you aren't bi and this isn't super healthy. Be careful cause couples can be very toxic.

[Mc****]

I mean, when it really comes down to it, who really cares? I've fucked a few guys before because I was horny, not because I was really attracted to them.

Nothing really changes when a dude puts his mouth on you.

I'd say go for it, but that's just me.

[AV****]

Sexuality is who you're into, if you try it and it's not for you then you're not bi. Pretty simple. Nobody but you can say what you are when it comes to sexuality, it is what you feel, not what you've done.