Showing vulnerability as a Male Dom

[Deleted Member]

I guess this comes from nearly 2 decades of not having someone that appreocated or indeed ever took much notice of me, but now, finding my feet as a dom, im also discovering that I've developed a bit of a praise kink. Well, im calling it praise but its also appreciation, being wanted, having someone excited that you're there.

In my limited knowledge and understanding, I currently identify as a pleasure dom... but is that right?

[wh****]

It’s not a kink to want to be wanted buddy

[be****]

So, it does not matter what type of dom you are. Not every sub is the same and not every situation is cookie cutter. You have to allow yourself to be *** and be able to read between the lines because a sub might be being a brat for the sake of being a brat or they might be being a brat for a much deeper reason and it is on you to be able to tell which of those situations you’re facing. So yes, you do have to allow yourself to be *** from time to time.

[Go****]

I believe those are two, maybe even three, separate things. 
 

Feeling wanted and appreciated etc can be rooted in many different things, but is essentially a fundamental human desire, generally.
 

That, in my opinion, is separate to both a praise kink, where you’re turned on by the praise you receive from your partner, and you being a Pleasure Dom. There is no right or wrong in terms of labels, because we’re all individuals, but to my knowledge, generally a Pleasure Dom is someone who both enjoys giving pleasure and uses pleasure as their method of control, discipline etc. 

[yo****]

Knowing your worth is so important. It sounds like you're realising it's ok to take as well as give 🩷

[wb****]

I have also been in relationships where I wasn’t appreciated. I don’t think recognizing finally being seen / appreciated / wanted is a kink. I think it’s more sign of finding a healthy relationship.

A Dom having a praise kink, I think it is possible and just as justified as a sub having a praise kink. When I receive praise for something I’ve done, not done I feel appreciated.

I personally need to I show how much I appreciate my Dom. I love letting him know how much he’s appreciated in little ways, and big ways too.