Sleep sex

[DirtyDaddyx]

What’s your experience of sleep sex ? 
 

Is it pretending to be asleep? 
Or really asleep? 
 

If really asleep … is that actually legal since one could argue if you’re asleep you can’t give consent? Or what level of consent is required? 

[puppymeows]

It’s like fading in and out of sleep

[puppymeows]

And it’s something that requires pre planned or otherwise standing consent

[Deleted Member]

NO, sexsomnia isn't pretending.. lest it isn't "sleep sex."
In the area of kink, some find it arousing/appealing to be engaged sexually whilst asleep, woken to/by sexual activity and such. Those events are Not sexsomnia.
There are recorded cases involving legal issues regarding these matters.
A general Don't be a creep needs be said here, also, me thinks.

case by case. players beware. players be Aware. 🤷‍♀️

[Ge****]

Maybe I'm odd but I love to be awakened by a good BJ. I think every sub should be a good lil alarm clock.

[Mo****]

Sounds terrifying, but I have heard of this kink and the people who like it. Consent is usually prior to activities.

[Sm****]

I swear every girl I dated until I was like 23 let me fuck them awake. They were really slutty and never asked I just did it, then they woke up and we were both into it.

It wasn’t until I dated a girl when I was around 23-24 and I tried that and she was like “what are you doing?” And when I tell you I felt like the smallest piece of shit once I realized what that does to someone not into that. I was lucky she was understanding and we just set a boundary after that. I’d been fuckin since I was like a ***, and the way the previous relationships played out had me genuinely thinking if she your girlfriend then that is the consent. I imagined SA as only being something violent. 

[DirtyDaddyx]

35 minutes ago, NexumSange said:

A general Don't be a creep needs be said here, also, me thinks.

As well as “be respectful” , “don’t be a creep” has to be one of those golden rules ! 

[Ke****]

I would like to speak on this. It is actually a discussion I have with potentials. I feel if its not talked about and shes sleeping yea thats pretty ***y and naa that shit dont fly with me. I will ask their opinion on it, if it's ok and to what extent.
And it can lead to great times. Some aren't down, some say "just dont wake me up" so then it becomes like a mission impossible game. How stripped can you get her without waking her up. Then some will play "what did you do to me last night?" The next morning they would guess what i did by where they were sore.
But the concent and more-so the trust is key.
I've almost clocked a woman upside the head cause we had never talked about it, she took and followed orders well, but taking initiative that was new and unexpected . I woke up 3/4 in her mouth Im drawn back ready to bust someone up side the head. But I put the pieces together rather quickly and just ended up busting her in the mouth and a little on her tits.

[ChocolateRopeBunny]

So are you asking about somnophilia or sexsomnia? One is a fetish and the other is a sleep disorder

[x-****]

As long as trust has been built over time, thorough discussions have been conducted, and consent is given prior, or revoked at any time, I believe sleep sex kink could be an amazing addition to your relationship/dynamic.  I would also suggest following up with your Dom/sub afterwards, always, to discuss their feelings, making sure the two of you are enjoying your new kink.

[Deleted Member]

My ex, did that to me once (probably not legal since a sleeping person can't consent) Then it became a fetish for me going forward.

[Po****]

Its great ist like live and practise this kind of fetish

[wb****]

The ability to sleep through sex is possible. However in this is an instance of size absolutely matters.

Many many years ago I was dating a guy who the creator did not bless. There were mornings he would comment on my “lack of participation” the night before. To my knowledge there was nothing to participate with the night before, I was out cold.

Would I consider that none consensual, yes. If he had not brought it up I never would have known.
Except for the positive pregnancy test a month after I left him.

[Fo****]

In a previous life, my wife and I, for a couple years had a really bad habit of staying awake for multiple days at a time which then would lead to of course extreme tiredness and in a cycle of three days a week awake one day sleep, three days awake, one day asleep, you find yourself in these moments of like twilight feeling half awake and half asleep and its absolutely awesome. I’d would “come too” half asleep and my wife would be riding me and it was great thinking she was totally using me for my tool.

[Sw****]

I give consent before I fall asleep. I've had two separate men who've asked if they could touch me when I'm sleeping and it's always a yes. There's nothing like having my boobs sucked on while barely lucid.

[Fo****]

And for me without being my wife, it’s my belief that in marriage our bodies are not our owns but also belong to the other so as far as I’m concerned that certificate says she has the right to do whatever the heck she wants to do it whenever she wants because halfway belongs to her?

[DD0001]

I once had a sub come from America to Australia for a Sleep CNC session. I have in depth discussions with clients (i organise fantasy and gangbang sessions for ladies and couples) prior to their session and I keep meticulous records of our conversations.
And there are also physical steps to confirm our conversations and acceptance of our agreement. Things such as leaving the hotel room key in a very specific location, her leaving her shoes in a specific arrangement and her taking the sleeping pills all together form a final consent.
Unfortunately, in this instance, she got a room in a hotel with security lifts, so instead of taking her sleeping pills before I got there, she had to come downstairs to let me up, and then only take her sleeping pills. This kind of ruined the sleep CNC fantasy as we started playing before she fell asleep. We did have a second go after she fell asleep but it didnt feel like a stranger CNC anymore.

[DY****]

Without prior consent, it’s ***

[DY****]

Without prior consent, it’s something you should be sent down for

[Si****]

Aka. "Norwegian Bonus Prince"

[Fi****]

My sub loves it. We've each given full consent for both giving and receiving.

[DirtyDaddyx]

20 hours ago, DD0001 said:

I once had a sub come from America to Australia for a Sleep CNC session. I have in depth discussions with clients (i organise fantasy and gangbang sessions for ladies and couples) prior to their session and I keep meticulous records of our conversations.
And there are also physical steps to confirm our conversations and acceptance of our agreement. Things such as leaving the hotel room key in a very specific location, her leaving her shoes in a specific arrangement and her taking the sleeping pills all together form a final consent.
Unfortunately, in this instance, she got a room in a hotel with security lifts, so instead of taking her sleeping pills before I got there, she had to come downstairs to let me up, and then only take her sleeping pills. This kind of ruined the sleep CNC fantasy as we started playing before she fell asleep. We did have a second go after she fell asleep but it didnt feel like a stranger CNC anymore.

The idea sounds really hot ! 
Tbh I’m in 2 minds about it though.  
On the first hand the idea is sleep sex with a stranger sounds really exciting and you only get that opportunity without having met them before. Once you do meet, it’s gone.  
 

On the other hand , if you have never met, I would be hesitant concerning the level of consent that could be given.  As you say, keys, shoes etc left in a specific place assist but I would have that niggling at me.  
 

Besides that - a question. 
Do you just message in advance of the arrangement or hold video calls since I guess that could also potential spoil the whole “stranger” aspect ? 

[DD0001]

27 minutes ago, DirtyDaddyx said:

The idea sounds really hot ! 
Tbh I’m in 2 minds about it though.  
On the first hand the idea is sleep sex with a stranger sounds really exciting and you only get that opportunity without having met them before. Once you do meet, it’s gone.  
 

On the other hand , if you have never met, I would be hesitant concerning the level of consent that could be given.  As you say, keys, shoes etc left in a specific place assist but I would have that niggling at me.  
 

Besides that - a question. 
Do you just message in advance of the arrangement or hold video calls since I guess that could also potential spoil the whole “stranger” aspect ? 

No. We didnt have video calls. For 2 reasons,
1. To be safe, everything had to be in writing, and
2. I have never sent out pictures or gotten on video calls prior to the meet. It especially so if the fantasy was to have CNC sex with a stranger creeping into your room, having had a video call will remove that feeling of being taken advantage of by a stranger.

[DirtyDaddyx]

1 hour ago, DD0001 said:

 

No. We didnt have video calls. For 2 reasons,
1. To be safe, everything had to be in writing, and
2. I have never sent out pictures or gotten on video calls prior to the meet. It especially so if the fantasy was to have CNC sex with a stranger creeping into your room, having had a video call will remove that feeling of being taken advantage of by a stranger.

Thanks for the additional clarification !