Sleep sex

[Ba****]

I haven't done it yet, but I do want to try. So, for me it would be either or. Pretending to be asleep would be fun, trying to stay quiet, trying to keep my eyes closed, and not moving. But, being woken up to being used would be amazing, too. Getting used like a toy. As for consent, I mean, if I give my consent before falling asleep, I don't see a problem with it. Idk about legality about it, though.

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On 3/14/2026 at 1:56 PM, BabyBoyNate said:

 

I haven't done it yet, but I do want to try

 

When it happens - Please come back and share your experience ! 

[Sk****]

Im always split on this topic. when someone says a sleeping person cant consent, If i imagine my partner is the sleeper, my intuition is to play it safe and avoid this kink. I dont want to be guilty of doing it if its wrong (even with their consent). But then if i imagine im the sleeper, i think it'd be hot so long as i gave permission, and I'm literally 100% offended that someone else is trying to assert authority over when i can or cant give consent. Thats not ok, its completely up to me, and no one else. So obviously i have some dissonence to work out. That said, imo if someone is going to do this, then imo, the sleeper should be informed at bed time the night of, and only specific acts prediscussed should be performed. you cannot break out some new random activity, or even something youve done before randomly out of the blue just because they agreed to sleep sex in a conversation many years or even days ago. I would agree to hj/bj while asleep, but no you cant try pegging me while im snoring. I promise if i'd ever be into it, that aint the moment, LMAO. Controversial question: if you cant trust someone enough to have consensual sex with you while youre asleep...how can you can trust sleeping next to them at all? if your worried they would not respect boundaries while youre ***, then what would stop them, regardless if you gave consent or not? If there isnt enough trust, you shouldnt sleep next to them period.

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11 hours ago, SkipperVa said:

Im always split on this topic. when someone says a sleeping person cant consent, If i imagine my partner is the sleeper, my intuition is to play it safe and avoid this kink. I dont want to be guilty of doing it if its wrong (even with their consent). But then if i imagine im the sleeper, i think it'd be hot so long as i gave permission, and I'm literally 100% offended that someone else is trying to assert authority over when i can or cant give consent. Thats not ok, its completely up to me, and no one else. So obviously i have some dissonence to work out. That said, imo if someone is going to do this, then imo, the sleeper should be informed at bed time the night of, and only specific acts prediscussed should be performed. you cannot break out some new random activity, or even something youve done before randomly out of the blue just because they agreed to sleep sex in a conversation many years or even days ago. I would agree to hj/bj while asleep, but no you cant try pegging me while im snoring. I promise if i'd ever be into it, that aint the moment, LMAO. Controversial question: if you cant trust someone enough to have consensual sex with you while youre asleep...how can you can trust sleeping next to them at all? if your worried they would not respect boundaries while youre ***, then what would stop them, regardless if you gave consent or not? If there isnt enough trust, you shouldnt sleep next to them period.

Hi. Some interesting thoughts and views. The pegging example is particularly relevant and I as always prior communication and agreement is key.  It certainly would not be the time to randomly introduce something new and hardcore just because the recipient is asleep.  Boundaries and respect must remain and that is where the keyword “trust” comes in.