LTR - exploring kink

[Pr****]

Ive always had strong sub leanings, which were developed in my first marriage. When that ended, I had to stand up for myself and blocked that part of me for a long time. I remarried nearly 20 years ago and although the feelings came back, I wasnt confident enough to express them for a very long time, through no fault of his.

Now the kids are adults, the urge to submit has increased massively, made stronger by me being an alpha sub - Im the main earner in a fairly high powered, managerial role.

We explored it and he is open to being dominant. We tried a few scenes, which were great, but Ive found that I tend to have to ask for a kink session and he worries about the kids ( who still live at home) hearing.

Yet my feelings are getting more intense and Im frustrated. I love my husband and dont want to leave him but how the hell do I manage this?

Anyone else been in this situation and found a solution?

[do****]

Maybe suggest once a month or so you get child care or visit an hotel to get your kink craving scratched

[tr****]

Unfortunately I have put myself in similar situations and it's one of those we should have just been completely honest with areselfs to begin with but that's the problem we felt like it was a problem or it made us worry what someone might think of us being that way I see it like. We are all human life sucks it's a beautiful escape into I realm of perversion what take you and your mind over like that nothing! you gotta do what you want you shouldn't have to ask for something you desire it should be known and explored. In my experiences constantly mentioning thing like that to a partner not only is a turn off for you but it can make them feel not good enough or they just don't care.

[Wh****]

Hi. Parent of 5 kids here. So 1 ur kids are adults and are not oblivious to the fact u to are intimate with each other my 15 yr old has made jokes with me when he knew what I was doing. 2 you can explore and talk about exploring boundaries that you can do around the kids. It's ganna be difficult at first but start small with daily conversations. Patience, trust and communication will be especially Important. So examples of the dominance could be he tells you to do stuff that u already do but in a boss like tone(like go to the store pick up these items and come back home immediately). He could assign you tasks where u purposely mess up making him come show you "how to do it correctly". You could start rough housing in front of kids allowing him to playfully show dominance(good game for this is called the one sock game). 3 date night/ roleplay nights. This option i explored as the dominance kink became more intense after I dated a sub. We would get a baby sitter and do like a meet and greet. She would go out 15 min before I did either at home or if we rode together she would enter before I did. I would find her and flirt like we just meet at a bar or something then have a good time. After get a hotel for the night and bring any toys and etc. You would like to use. Those are the ideas that worked for my relationship involving the life around kids. U need to try things and see what works for you though. If u have any further questions please feel free to message me

[Am****]

I think he just want to respect is ***age /young adult kids.

[al****]

Have you tried planking a date night and having your kink sessions outside the home. Like in a Airbnb? He can dominate you at home in different ways that are noisy but for more intense scenes.. have a date night.

[al****]

Sorry.. typos^

Have you tried planning a date night and having your kink sessions outside the home. Like in a Airbnb? He can dominate you at home in different ways that are NOT noisy but for more intense scenes.. have a date night.