LTR - exploring kink

[ey****]

3 hours ago, PrincessDawnStar said:

 

They dont have the income for that at the moment. Two are autistic and need increased support, although one is capable of living alone with support. The other is likely to be with us forever...

I'm sorry to hear that.

I think realistically speaking - you do have to prioritise them; especially if they need support.    This may involve reduced play times, or, rather, not as much as you'd like.   I guess if there's any options for any form of respite care or similar that could free up time.  Or if they could look after each other either away from the house, or while you have a night away 

[Pr****]

24 minutes ago, eyemblacksheep said:

I'm sorry to hear that.

I think realistically speaking - you do have to prioritise them; especially if they need support.    This may involve reduced play times, or, rather, not as much as you'd like.   I guess if there's any options for any form of respite care or similar that could free up time.  Or if they could look after each other either away from the house, or while you have a night away 

What tends to happen is the more capable one looks after the other one. They aren't severely autistic, just need a bit more support than others. We do go away fairly often, we just never seem to have been particularly kinky whilst away.

[Sa****]

15 hours ago, PrincessDawnStar said:

They dont have the income for that at the moment. Two are autistic and need increased support, although one is capable of living alone with support. The other is likely to be with us forever...

Same here actually. Lol

[Kr****]

A possible solution could be telling your kids you're going on a date night and will start doing so on a regular basis, they don't need to know more than that and if they are older as you say they should be able to take care of themselves.
Then the two of you can go to a hotel or maybe a local kink club and do all the nasty sinful things you would like there.
A lot of kinky clubs have semi or fully private rooms where you can be on your own if you prefer that.
Though I do understand if you would prefer your dynamic to be expressed at home, maybe even outside sex as well, that gets a little more tricky and requires some more subtlety with kids around.

[Pr****]

12 hours ago, Kris1712 said:

A possible solution could be telling your kids you're going on a date night and will start doing so on a regular basis, they don't need to know more than that and if they are older as you say they should be able to take care of themselves.
Then the two of you can go to a hotel or maybe a local kink club and do all the nasty sinful things you would like there.
A lot of kinky clubs have semi or fully private rooms where you can be on your own if you prefer that.
Though I do understand if you would prefer your dynamic to be expressed at home, maybe even outside sex as well, that gets a little more tricky and requires some more subtlety with kids around.

I learned something here as Ive never been to a kink club and didnt expect there be private rooms! Im intrigued, although whether Id ever get up the confidence to go to one is another question!

[Kr****]

It depends a lot on the individual club obviously and the theme of the club itself.
I've been to several myself and some are big open rooms which welcomes others to come and watch or play with or next to you. Some have doors or curtains that can be closed so others won't watch or interfere. Some have chains or rope at the doorway which lets people stand at the door and watch inside but not enter.

Many clubs have websites with pictures of the rooms so you know what to expect, but you can always call a club and ask all the questions you want.
All the clubs I've visited always take newbies on a tour of the place and go over all the rules and expected behaviour.
I'd recommend atleast giving it a try, at worst you'll spend an evening learning it wasn't for you.