Fem Domme or just confident?

[Rhuie]

Thursday at 11:34 PM, london980698 said:

And what were the punishments for these infractions?

This question has had me thinking and I would like to offer a different view on it. It was not as much a punishment as it was rewards. It begs the question, if someone likes ‘punishment’ does it encourage bad behavior? In my case, I wanted to please her and when I did I was rewarded. As a masochist, typical “punishments” are rewards. My ultimate goal was for her to use me as she wished in a way that made her happy. Her punishment was to take that away.

[Sa****]

My ex submissive desired to be punished. He needed it. I held back, because I cared for him. If our dynamic had been able to continue, the punishments would have continued to be more aggressive. I want to release my Dominant side fully. Because I need to.

[Deleted Member]

i love to be punished and use by my Domme xxx part of my submission and total service and control xxx

[Deleted Member]

3 hours ago, Rhuie said:

This question has had me thinking and I would like to offer a different view on it. It was not as much a punishment as it was rewards. It begs the question, if someone likes ‘punishment’ does it encourage bad behavior? In my case, I wanted to please her and when I did I was rewarded. As a masochist, typical “punishments” are rewards. My ultimate goal was for her to use me as she wished in a way that made her happy. Her punishment was to take that away.

I agree, what would be considered punishments aren’t for some subs. Removing access to herself or stating her displeasure at her sub are more in line with feeling like a punishment

[Rhuie]

7 minutes ago, london980698 said:

I agree, what would be considered punishments aren’t for some subs. Removing access to herself or stating her displeasure at her sub are more in line with feeling like a punishment

Also. is it punishment if we like it? for instance spanking. If a sub loves getting spanked, can that be considered punishment ?

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3 minutes ago, Rhuie said:

Also. is it punishment if we like it? for instance spanking. If a sub loves getting spanked, can that be considered punishment ?

No. I love spanking my subs a lot. It’s part of the fun in the dynamic for both of us. Anything *** related is not a punishment. More emotional/ psychological forms of punishment I suggest would work better, depending on the sub x

[do****]

March 24, london980698 said:

So it seems that a less sadistic style would be welcomed by a lot of subs which is reassuring to hear. Labels can fuck off, it’s about mutual enjoyment and satisfaction whatever form that takes 👌🏽😊

yes and for many reasons. considering that submission with man are still looked at weird by many others, so many man don’t explore because scared of judgement. then as u get more into it the amount of people that are interested decreases even less experienced it.

i have found 2 things out since i have started exploring, 1st that most man have a submissive side. just most don’t consider it submissive or dominant and scared when labeled. second most that do have a submissive side tend to be surprised about what they like and dislike it’s normally not what they expect.

with that being said both sides being comfortable is key everything else will happen naturally ask ur partner how they feel about things you do. because if others are like me i have a wide range of likes but each partner did differently and some kinks i didn’t like doing with some partners because that. maybe can relate this way every man has a dick but doesn’t mean you enjoyed every man sex style. build comfort and trust is key