Is this a kink?

[jj****]

I have a hard time explaining this because it doesn’t really make sense… but I guess my kink is more like… being bound and helpl@ss and nothing actually happening to me. Like being rendered totally helpl@ss at which point then someone reads to me while I pass out. But it’s so hard to explain that the rush is being in a position where I have no choice and still having my personal boundaries respected 😂

Like sort of cnc with a sudden wholesome turn.

Whenever I’ve tried to explain it, it sounds silly. Some partners get it, some don’t (and it doesn’t last long). Does it even count as kink if the “kink” is just regular intimacy?

[SE****]

If you want to go by the spirit of the community, a kink is something “non-vanilla” that you have a strong response to. So I think this qualifies just fine haha Also, “standard” kinks defeats the whole definition of a kink ;)

Play on.

[Ph****]

100% counts as a kink.

[Jo****]

I mean, a lot of people like being bound or tied up without any sexual aspect, you’re kinda effectively describing shibari/rope kink. And yes it absolutely still counts as kink.

[Ko****]

Genuinely I get it I kinda feel the same way but on the other side of it. Having full ability to do something rough but choosing to be gentle has something to it. Not that I don’t also enjoy the other side of that choice though

[BeatHazard]

A girl wants to be swaddled and 'rocked' to sleep but in this instance it's books and head kisses. Nothing weird about that.

[GypsySudaka]

This post is Heaven to me. I literally feel the same thing the feel of ***ness and the fact you are there and anything can happen to you knowing they can easily hurt you but them choosing not to and the feeling of you knowing that there is no escape yet " you are respected" is mad for me at least. It will get me more wet than laying a finger on me. Like you mention, not everyone gets it. I am also very cnc play and that is very hard for others to take because they feel you are "rejecting" them or that you do not like them or feel aroused by them is very frustrating. I just need you to fight me a lil bit thats all.

[BeatHazard]

2 minutes ago, GypsySudaka said:

This post is Heaven to me. I literally feel the same thing the feel of ***ness and the fact you are there and anything can happen to you knowing they can easily hurt you but them choosing not to and the feeling of you knowing that there is no escape yet " you are respected" is mad for me at least. It will get me more wet than laying a finger on me. Like you mention, not everyone gets it. I am also very cnc play and that is very hard for others to take because they feel you are "rejecting" them or that you do not like them or feel aroused by them is very frustrating. I just need you to fight me a lil bit thats all.

That fight is logical brain death for me. The first salvos of push back just make every nerve ending light up.

[jj****]

10 minutes ago, GypsySudaka said:

This post is Heaven to me. I literally feel the same thing the feel of ***ness and the fact you are there and anything can happen to you knowing they can easily hurt you but them choosing not to and the feeling of you knowing that there is no escape yet " you are respected" is mad for me at least. It will get me more wet than laying a finger on me. Like you mention, not everyone gets it. I am also very cnc play and that is very hard for others to take because they feel you are "rejecting" them or that you do not like them or feel aroused by them is very frustrating. I just need you to fight me a lil bit thats all.

Yessss! omg it is legit enough to make me actually climax. I have some …issues with the wiring, so to speak. Sometimes, it *happens* without me meaning to, so the feeling of like overwhelming …safeness?? Is like a slow buildup to eruption. Incredibly satisfying and it makes the sensation of intercourse so much more intense later. The trouble is, especially with a lot of men, there’s too much impatience. I very rarely get to enjoy the full range of it.

[GypsySudaka]

9 minutes ago, BeatHazard said:

That fight is logical brain death for me. The first salvos of push back just make every nerve ending light up.

i also enjoy that very much like whatever sparks on the other side on the first sign of resistance is very primal

[BeatHazard]

6 minutes ago, jjbeanbun said:

Yessss! omg it is legit enough to make me actually climax. I have some …issues with the wiring, so to speak. Sometimes, it *happens* without me meaning to, so the feeling of like overwhelming …safeness?? Is like a slow buildup to eruption. Incredibly satisfying and it makes the sensation of intercourse so much more intense later. The trouble is, especially with a lot of men, there’s too much impatience. I very rarely get to enjoy the full range of it.

I think if you were to look for partners in spaces that offer required cuddle sessions with clothing options agreed upon, you might have a good shot finding what you're looking for or at least exploring the feeling more in a slightly more controlled environment. That way you can swaddle up yourself, and find someone you feel truly safe with.

[BeatHazard]

That offer cuddle sessions*

[GypsySudaka]

9 minutes ago, jjbeanbun said:

Yessss! omg it is legit enough to make me actually climax. I have some …issues with the wiring, so to speak. Sometimes, it *happens* without me meaning to, so the feeling of like overwhelming …safeness?? Is like a slow buildup to eruption. Incredibly satisfying and it makes the sensation of intercourse so much more intense later. The trouble is, especially with a lot of men, there’s too much impatience. I very rarely get to enjoy the full range of it.

you said it! a lot of impatience I that what you and I are finding to be a turn and this type of play if the patien maybe?

[BeatHazard]

8 minutes ago, GypsySudaka said:

i also enjoy that very much like whatever sparks on the other side on the first sign of resistance is very primal

It kinda knocked the window out of me the first time. All the talking before hand really allowed me to go for it. When the time finally came and when that first shock of resistance hit me I shuddered for a second before I started letting that fucking *** bubble up.

[jj****]

4 minutes ago, BeatHazard said:

I think if you were to look for partners in spaces that offer required cuddle sessions with clothing options agreed upon, you might have a good shot finding what you're looking for or at least exploring the feeling more in a slightly more controlled environment. That way you can swaddle up yourself, and find someone you feel truly safe with.

That’s not what I’m looking for.

[BeatHazard]

4 minutes ago, jjbeanbun said:

That’s not what I’m looking for.

My apologies. I just have a feeling that you might find someone who is attracted to the idea of the waiting game during a CNC encounter such as you're describing if you're looking for partners in a space that offers that level of patience.

[GypsySudaka]

9 minutes ago, BeatHazard said:

I think if you were to look for partners in spaces that offer required cuddle sessions with clothing options agreed upon, you might have a good shot finding what you're looking for or at least exploring the feeling more in a slightly more controlled environment. That way you can swaddle up yourself, and find someone you feel truly safe with.

haha cuddle sessions I live in a country with no kink culture whatsoever I think that one will be very hard to find!

[jj****]

Just now, BeatHazard said:

My apologies. I just have a feeling that you might find someone who is attracted to the idea of the waiting game during a CNC encounter such as you're describing if you're looking for partners in a space that offers that level of patience.

I’m not looking for suggestions of where to look. I’m just talking about the thing I’m into on a kink site.

[BeatHazard]

Sure. 🤙🤙 I didn't mean to intrude.

[ey****]

yes, that's totally a kink (by definition and extension)

it doesn't seem that unusal also

[in****]

100% legit kink. Lots of people get into being bound, *** and powerless but also feeling safe and cared for without sex being part of the mix.

[aj****]

💯

[jj****]

Thanks for those of you who gave thoughtful responses. I feel like I’m onto something these days 😂 better late than never.

[De****]

It doesn’t sound like a good time to me but as I understand the definition of “kink”, it’s the use of non-traditional methods to reach climax or pleasure. So if that brings you pleasure I’d say it classifies as kink. I’d be so mad if my dom tied me up just to read to me until I fell asleep out of boredom 🫠

[jj****]

22 minutes ago, DearGemma said:

It doesn’t sound like a good time to me but as I understand the definition of “kink”, it’s the use of non-traditional methods to reach climax or pleasure. So if that brings you pleasure I’d say it classifies as kink. I’d be so mad if my dom tied me up just to read to me until I fell asleep out of boredom 🫠

I would absolutely climax faster and harder than from actual sex 😂