Is this a kink?

[Mr****]

This is absolutely a kink and I think it falls under power dynamics. Being restrained and *** with your partner who can do anything to you, chooses not to, or treats you as you want to be treated by being left alone or cuddled is very kinky. Requires a large amount of trust. Sounds incredible.

[Si****]

I fully get you. It makes me think of being edged, the lack of orgasm at the end sometimes is better than the release.

Nothing happened but something did. Yeah, that’s an amazing rush even if its short lived or infrequent. That alone makes is a special kind of kink 😉

[jj****]

11 minutes ago, SilkLover66 said:

I fully get you. It makes me think of being edged, the lack of orgasm at the end sometimes is better than the release.

Nothing happened but something did. Yeah, that’s an amazing rush even if its short lived or infrequent. That alone makes is a special kind of kink 😉

I’d rather it be infrequent than short-lived. I want the full body of the experience, not just a taste. But you get it.

[Hypnocurious]

A Kink is what you do that makes you feel complete. It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. Kink is personal to you. DM me to learn more about that feeling of being bound while your boundaries are respected.

[Si****]

19 minutes ago, jjbeanbun said:

I’d rather it be infrequent than short-lived. I want the full body of the experience, not just a taste. But you get it.

Do you feel its an aspect of our anticipation? The slow burn is just one aspect most focus on, but the pauses, the long waits, just as you described in your experience. It has a very tantric quality if not an outright aspect.

[jj****]

16 minutes ago, SilkLover66 said:

Do you feel its an aspect of our anticipation? The slow burn is just one aspect most focus on, but the pauses, the long waits, just as you described in your experience. It has a very tantric quality if not an outright aspect.

Well, the part where this sort of gets lost on you normies (I’m totally kidding) is that my relationship with intimacy is a little unique because of just my biology and my “emotional baggage”. I don’t know if one causes the other, I only know that I experienced both a lot of physical danger and an intense reaction to physical stimulus.

I didn’t experience too much sexual ***, so that area was already a little “safer” by comparison. But, I did grow up in an environment where you had to be extremely careful about where you physically placed yourself because a punch could be flying your way at literally any time.

So I developed this habit that I still have where I physically put distance between myself and other people. I have a large bubble because in the back of my mind, I have to be ready in case you’re crazy.

Being physically *** around people is unacceptable to me lol I can’t fall asleep near someone, I can’t even fully experience the effects of marijuana or shrooms if someone else is around. DEEP trust issues.

At the same time though, maybe it was just a result of the constant tension I was carrying in my body, but I would sometimes spontaneously orgasm. NOW I realize it had to do with my heart rate - when I exercised, if I was already very emotionally worked up, etc. But my physical reaction to certain feelings was completely overwhelming - my entire body would start to sweat, my knees would shake, and then boom orgasm.

It would happen in public, which was horrible because I didn’t understand what was happening and I couldn’t control it. So, as a result of all of that, I became very good at controlling my feelings and situations to ensure that never happens again.

Orgasming is so easy for me to do that I spend more time trying to NOT do it. Orgasm denial sounds like a fucking vacation to me.

Whenever a new partner finds this out, we have a LOT of sex. Which is great and plenty of fun and all of that, but like, for ME… I chafe after a while. I’m sore. And it’s not new for ME. I’ve always been like this. It gets boring pretty fast for me.

So things that just aren’t super logical I guess break my brain a little. Seizing control only to do what I wanted anyway? Like what?! It’s exciting and safe in a way no one I’ve ever dated has ever thought of before. I’ve never had that and I would like to some day.

[Si****]

I do understand a great deal of what you are saying, especially about your environment growing up. We have a commonality there.

The “fight or flight” mechanism in us is mental and physical. The adrenaline affects our brain chemistry. The exposure to the F or F response will rewire our brains in a physical way.

Our vagus nerve can and will respond in different ways also. A physical blow can knock us out. A mental overload can cause other physical reactions. Some faint, some get physically ill, some of us CUM.

The first two sound bad, the latter sounds fun 🤩

Message me if you like. I’d like to discuss more with you 👍

[ch****]

I think it’s valid. Someone once told me she had a kink where her husband would tie her to a St. Andrew’s Cross and then fold all the laundry in front of her the wrong way. Very masochistic lol

[jj****]

1 minute ago, chicago2228203 said:

I think it’s valid. Someone once told me she had a kink where her husband would tie her to a St. Andrew’s Cross and then fold all the laundry in front of her the wrong way. Very masochistic lol

That’s kind of adorable 🧐

[Pr****]

If I had to put a name to it, it would be “wholesome bounded sexual deprivation”

[Sk****]

Anything can be a kink if it turns you on or excites you in some kind of sexual way.

[cl****]

Awww 🥰 this is so sweet

[Stallingfoot]

def is

[an****]

Sounds a bit like swaddling. Sounds really nice. Kink is a key to a lock to a door we have shut for some reason. We don't have to know the reason. We don't have to seek the reason. Sometimes it's good enough to know what we like and to let it be. Your kink is valid.