Attachment styles

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9 minutes ago, roseburg734059 said:

I definitely used to bottle things up and that eventually led to self medication (alcohol) and that led to a attempt at not being around anymore got diagnosed with bipolar decided I was ready to stop self medicating put myself through rehab, realized my first love would be happier in life if she had a partner she was able to trust so I let her go because I really did/do love her and that means I wanted her to be the happiest version of herself and I knew that me being her partner was no longer the best for her.
Took 4 years off of trying to date and random hookups, became a manager of a adult foster home for the mentally disabled, went to school to become a behavior health specialist, found people I can trust to help me process my emotions and talk with and got comfortable enough with the support I had, the work I’ve done, and who I am to understand I can’t ever control the universe or the people who live amungst me in it. I can only control how I react to those things. I am no better than anyone else, as there is no absolute right way to live life or process emotions. There is only the way that works for each person.
So how I choose to be a little tougher on myself and what I want to bring to my relationships and friendships isn’t what is best or good for everyone just works for me.
I am a open book if anyone of my partners wants to hear my worries or ***s I am more than willing to let them in but I don’t have any expectations on others to do so I just appreciate when they do spend time on me, with me or for me

And I’m not saying don’t communicate, absolutely communicate it’s what your other half is for partners are a team, I’m saying try and calm self and don’t let the anxiety get you worked up enough to only communicate and not listen to your partner as well. I used to be very bad at this and never realized until my therapist pointed it out to me

[Bi****]

I used to have a girlfriend who had an extreme anxious attachment style... DM me if you want to chat about it