Curious about fetish for married/taken men !

[mg****]

Hi Everyone ! Over the course of sometime I have come across a few kinksters who have fetish for married or taken men. I am curious to understand and know more about this. What is the fascination ? Why married men and not unattached single men ? Is this the husband equivalent of a hotwife scenario ?

[oh****]

The kink for me is you're choosing me over the person you chose to spend your life with. She doesn't know, maybe it's spiteful, I like being used by men and when their taken it just shows me they don't get it how they like it at home. Makes me feel better. It's like indirect praise for me.

[to****]

1 of many reasons they are usually more cautious, calm,and they go the fuck home when they're done with you they don't want to be caught by wifey works out great I live alone don't want anyone hanging around I'm a loner and like it that way 😉

[Th****]

That already happened to me, with a woman I was sleeping with here and there while I was married, she lost a lot of interest when I got divorced

Idk. The kink or the adrenaline or something

[Lo****]

It's usually either the taboo of being caught/breaking the "rules", or, it's ENM and it's due to the mental idea that "this is a proven sexual partner". The fact that you're married is the biological indicator of a good partner, something to be desired.

[in****]

I have known some people with this kink, in some cases known intimately. For some, it’s the taboo. For others, it feels emotionally safer, they or the other person is less likely to catch feelings. Sometimes it’s an ego boost or an achievement to have someone violate their vows or whatever to be with them. There are likely a gazillion other motives, but those are ones I’ve encountered often.

[mg****]

Being on the receiving end of it, it’s kinda very hot and exciting 🥵

Liking the different perspectives here ! Appreciate all your comments.

[Ma****]

As a married man, I’ve found it harder to find a woman that is comfortable having fun with a married man.

[mg****]

6 minutes ago, MarriedMan2UseYou said:

As a married man, I’ve found it harder to find a woman that is comfortable having fun with a married man.

Absolutely ! I agree. But I have come across a few who want a married man. Although they have always been hundreds of miles away. Lol.

[Ma****]

A warning:
Have a friend where she later used it as a power move, to hold something over him. He went through a lot of crap, to get away from her.

So be wise.

[Kb****]

Because some women are dumb and think he will leave for her. Some men need that validation.

[Kf****]

It’s the idea of winning. Knowing that I can have what someone has. Also, it’s soooooo much less drama. The whole thing is just a hot fantasy not bills, work, kids… you know real world stuff.

[sp****]

I am a married man and it just makes things more interesting trying to sneak around. It's the fun of not getting caught

[Sl****]

Lots of reasons people like others that are taken.

If it’s a guy then he’s desirable to other women as shown by having a wife in the first place.

Probably not a psycho on the fringes of society, suggests that he’s somewhat got he’s shit together and he’s probably discreet.

In general, it’s hot being with somebody who can get what they want from home, but they have more desire to travel to you to please your needs, they desire you to the point that they are risking their marriage. That’s especially hot if you are a guy and she has a doting husband at home that will do anything for her but she’s more turned on by coming to you, getting on her knees and doing what she can to please you and your needs instead. It’s taboo, people get excited by the sneaking around, and then if the husband gets wind of it and finds it a turn on then you can really notch up the excitement.

[Kf****]

6 hours ago, Kbug0485 said:

Because some women are dumb and think he will leave for her. Some men need that validation.

That’s a very simplistic, incorrect assumption. Once you start calling names, you’ve run out of arguments therefore you void the point you’re trying to make. So much of the kink is about the LACK of emotion and the LACK of catching feelings. I’m competitive and I like the challenge, I like winning, it’s such a turn on. The sneaking around and no strings attached is fun. Calling women dumb for liking something you’re not into isn’t a very good look.

[mg****]

6 hours ago, Kbug0485 said:

Because some women are dumb and think he will leave for her. Some men need that validation.

That is just rude and judgemental to declare someone’s fantasies dumb. Just because you think you don’t like something or doesn’t align with your values doesn’t make you the moral police. Thanks. Appreciate your insight here. Wish you luck

[ok****]

I am one of those "Taken Men". For me, I enjoy the flavor. Yes my wife is my favorite Flavor, but I like verity, of coarse my wife is OK with it, and also has her on different flavors.

[Go****]

You don’t have to be kinky for this to apply. It’s a relatively simple but prevalent psychological paradigm - a bit of the forbidden fruit, a bit of Percocet scarcity, a bit of perceived value, a bit of natural female competitiveness…

Women are often attracted to men who have status and wealth and power and options. If he’s good enough to be another woman’s wife he’s worth being with. And maybe worth competing for (on a more base and ***istic level).

Now,
If we want to get into more elaborate abstractions there’s all
Kinds of others things to be said..

In the realm of kink there’s probably a decent percentage of women who want to join a man and his wife in a more mindful and consensual manner.

There’s always going to be some easily identifiable general variables in any rules of attraction situation - but then there’s the more nuanced and individual variables that you can o ly really understand by looking at individuals and their unique personal lives to understand their desires and proclivities.

[Os****]

He is already a catch cause someone wants him, so he already has the approval of a woman. Could be validation.
If I was a less ethical person, I'd probably go bar hopping with a ring on 😂

[gr****]

Sometimes it's as simple as you always want what you can't have. Sometimes.