What upgraded your DOMming

[Si****]

What sort of things did you learn or discover that really took being a Dom to the next level? I want to expand more, learn what I can and just be better for others.

[Si****]

Finding someone neutral to
You to do test runs on the different ideas you have, and being able to explain things well enough to have someone implement those ideas on you so you can work the bugs out of the process to find any binding points to be aware of , and to make sure there is an acceptable level of comfort throughout the experience, after all.
The style of sex we pursue should be stimulating and pleasurable for all who are involved, it’s the only way to reach a higher level of gratification in all aspects

[th****]

Cnc and just really using her to her limits. We set a safe word but she didn’t use it and all night long I did whatever I wanted to her and she loved it

[laura90]

Hey, I can totally understand your desire to learn more and be a better dom. It is definitely a learning process. But what I can also say is that the Sub REALLY matters. One could almost say that the "quality" of the Sub decides to a large extent how good you as a Dom are. Because I noticed that there are Subs where I have zero problems being a good dominant part and there are some that try to basically dominate me and so on. So if your post stems from a session that made you rather insecure, look into the dynamic between you and the Sub. Maybe there are things that you just don't want in a Sub. I personally stopped any interaction with people who cannot be reliable, consistent and offer me 24/7 respect. And no, this isn't to much to ask for. 😄

[laura90]

19 minutes ago, thick_daddy_6969 said:

Cnc and just really using her to her limits. We set a safe word but she didn’t use it and all night long I did whatever I wanted to her and she loved it

That is really cool and a good indicator.

[laura90]

I think for me the best moments have been when I was with the right Sub. What can I say. I do many things the same way first, and some like it immediately, some probably never will.