Empty profiles are a red flag

[hot-springs206194]

I call BS on anyone defending these worthless empty profiles.
They are a waste of time and space.

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4 hours ago, Pueblodaddy said:

Most ppl are here for kinks and for desires not here to find a good healthy relationship go to a different site if thats what ur looking for smh women cant be serious lookin for there forever here not saying it cant happen or its not there but be realistic

You have got to be kidding me. So in your mind most women here are just looking to screw and there is no one looking to find their kinky soulmate... You sir are a big part of the problem on here. If that's the way you look at the people actually contributing here then i would say YOU need to find another app to prowl around on.

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2 hours ago, kennedale94845 said:

Or we are men and dont feel like filling out pointless questions that yall women can ask or are gonna ask anyway because some dont read profiles they just message

Seriously, go find another platform to be on. You're part of the problem.

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2 hours ago, OB-1 said:

90% of the women dont have bios on here either so are they time wasters too?

One hundred percent they are.

[ja****]

Do people just wake up and say I think I'm going to go to a website dedicated to Kink and fetishes and bitch about men? Like there are so many sh**ty behaviors on both sides of the aisle here I just I don't see how productive it is to complain. Women would never date any sniveling **** that agrees with this man-hating bullsh*t but I'll say this much. As a guy that's been on and off of online dating for decades frankly doesn't matter how much effort you put into your profile or emails or messages, you will be summarily judged and you'll never be allowed to make your case. And if you complain about it they throw around words like entitled

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2 hours ago, oak-ridge362 said:

i mean to be fair ask me is as straightforward as it gets in a great way to start the conversation. What do you wanna know?
ask me is really all you need.

I want to know if i should even bother messaging you, which i can't when you can't bother filling out your profile. Ergo, no message, move on to the next. It's really simple and just shows laziness if you can't bother.

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5 hours ago, Devin712 said:

Youre literally saying its a red flag and that their "immature".

Yep. I say it because it is true 99% of the time.

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5 hours ago, T38222 said:

Blocked for replying to this post. 🤣🤣some people save you a headache

You weren't blocked for replying. You were blocked because every dating app shows me people I have swiped left on over and over. Immediately blocking the ones who aren't what I am looking for cuts my time wasted on babysitting fragile egos.

[Le****]

They aren't wasting your "time on purpose", they are playing their own game. You said it yourself: They are telling you what they think you want to hear. Are they liars? Sure, but they are hunting, and some hunters use guile.
Smart prey avoids them.
Women have their own equivalents.

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6 hours ago, asheville512909 said:

Some of us don't post pictures because of our jobs.

I specifically said descriptions, not photos.

[Rainydaye88]

6 hours ago, OB-1 said:

90% of the women dont have bios on here either so are they time wasters too?

The op already disclosed that she is seeking men so the profiles that get shown to her are men. Also that ANYONE who has zero information in their profile are time wasters.

[cellofello]

8 hours ago, oak-ridge362 said:

i mean to be fair ask me is as straightforward as it gets in a great way to start the conversation. What do you wanna know?
ask me is really all you need.

The way I see it, my having a detailed profile (including the possible deal-breakers up front) isn't just about respecting the time of the women reading my profile. It helps avoid wasting MY OWN time. I don't want to type in answers to the same obvious questions over and over again, nor get into conversations with women who want something I'm not, or who are something I'm not looking for. And if I get a question that's already answered in my profile, that tells me the other person didn't read it. I take that as a warning sign.

[Co****]

Most limits are best to negotiate on an individual basis. You have very specific limits which I agree with but I prefer to focus on what I enjoy rather than what I don't because the filtering process is the same without me having to think or care about what disinterests me.

[ey****]

Some of the whataboutisms on this thread are wild

But here goes... I can understand when someone first sets up a profile they might not know what to write - especially due to any uncertainities and that actually there is this mental block a lot of people have on dating sites in feeling they're wrong to be here.  

I think however after a while, there needs to become a time to fill something out.   Which can be in line with what you feel comfortable with sharing and what is appropriate for the site.  If nothing else, if you're reaching out to people with nothing really 'about you' it is off-putting to most people.
 

The whole "ask me" thing is also more of a turn off than a conversation starter as it tells the person messaging they'll be carrying the conversation and there's an increased chance you won't be compatible

All of this is regardless of gender.  Like, guys moan about women with nothing on their profile and that is valid... but then message them anyway.... like, why?!  Maybe they don't mind wasting their own time or being like catnip to scammers.

And yeah, there are some guys who limit their profile who if they do reach out or end up talking to someone they can pretend to like the same things in the hope it gets them what they want (which, for the sake of balance, is the same trick scammers use.) mind, if you're stupid enough to fall for a scammer, the worst happens that you lose a few quid.  Meeting someone under deception really goes against the basis of consent. 

[ma****]

Newp. Not even remotely alone. Blank profiles and "no limits" are both very obvious flags of the red persuasion.

[iL****]

Agreed

[HO****]

I just downloaded this not to long ago

[xl****]

Hey, so ive had a go at doing my profile as best I feel i can... if anyone wants to have a read id welcome feedback

[xl****]

Just to add to the above im not asking for a "rate me" im just asking if anyone thinks ive missed something big... new to this

[le****]

You’ll be glad to know my profile is nearly complete

[Ec****]

Oh empty profiles are always a red flag. It says "I don't actually care about this"

[Ne****]

16 hours ago, OB-1 said:

90% of the women dont have bios on here either so are they time wasters too?

Yes, if they don't have content, the same goes. Just like guys, it doesn't reflect well on those who are authentic.

[An****]

I am new here and tying to get my profile going. But ibam have a bit of a time navigating this app. It was not letting properly search my phone for photos. Any suggestions of ways I can improve my profile to show the reality of being a save person? I am not here to loke "live out my porn preferences" I am here to explore my sexuality with other humans who can meet me where I am at.

[cellofello]

19 hours ago, Housecat76 said:

Or anyone who has a low response rate

Actually, when a woman whose profile has been up long enough for the stats to be valid has a low response rate, it is a positive sign for me. Scammers tend to answer at a high rate. A low response rate tells me there's a good chance she's a genuine woman who simply has standards, and it makes me more likely to message if I think there''s a chance. Yes, often my message doesn't get an answer after I see it has been read, kind of confirming my impression. But I am upfront in my profile about a common dealbreaker (existing partners), so it's not a big surprise, especially if she hasn't said anything about monogamy in her own profile. Both of us have invested a minimal amount of time discovering we're not each other's cup of spiced chai latte. That's a win-win in my book.

[cellofello]

BuT mY mAgIc PeNis WiLl MaKe YoU SeE wHaT yOu'Ve BeEn MiSsInG! :) :)

Edited Sunday at 04:40 PM by cellofello