Empty profiles are a red flag

[Bi****]

Are we talking about empty description sections or absolutely nothing filled out?

[cellofello]

7 hours ago, AnthonySunrise said:

I am new here and tying to get my profile going. But ibam have a bit of a time navigating this app. It was not letting properly search my phone for photos. Any suggestions of ways I can improve my profile to show the reality of being a save person? I am not here to loke "live out my porn preferences" I am here to explore my sexuality with other humans who can meet me where I am at.

If you're having trouble adding a photo through the app, you might have better luck with the website version. While a photo certainly helps, you tell people much more about yourself through your words. And I see you are doing that. You have the BDSM profile filled out, and while your profile is lean, your participation in this and other discussions shows up when your profile is viewed. Showing yourself in that way to be a thoughtful person who makes constructive comments can also contribute a lot to achieving the goal.

[da****]

I find this infuriating too! Another thing is when you can tell by looking at their profile that all they’ve seen of yours is your pics. I have clear stated limits and a description, plus all the other stuff, I expect for that to be filled for the people I message or message me. I will just say pass if they don’t. I’m not worried about what your d*c size is, tell me more than ask me, because I’m not great at social interaction. Having ask me makes me believe it is a spam account.

[Da****]

Thanks, inspired me to fill mine out!

[St****]

Hoping more will read this!

[Ja****]

Honestly I agree. Whenever I see a blank profile I usually just assume it's a scammer phishing for info. Empty profile, no pic, or one pic with a celebrity or a meme = no chat. Why should I be expected to make myself *** or hold a conversation and connect with you if you refuse to reveal anything about yourself or share that vulnerability as well.

[ey****]

15 hours ago, AnthonySunrise said:

I am new here and tying to get my profile going. But ibam have a bit of a time navigating this app. It was not letting properly search my phone for photos. Any suggestions of ways I can improve my profile to show the reality of being a save person? I am not here to loke "live out my porn preferences" I am here to explore my sexuality with other humans who can meet me where I am at.

I guess one thing is you don't get to decide or declare yourself 'safe' - this is for others to decide.  If they feel safe engaging with you or playing.  

However, I guess - without writing "I am safe" on your profile - you could write things about you which is what makes you think you are safe.   

I do actually like the last line in your post just there - that is a line you could consider including. But possibly also expanding on where you currently are.

There is no shame in saying you are new, I think some of the problems is in people who are new who are "I am new so it's everyone else's responsibility to teach me" rather than an "I am new, these are areas I'm looking to explore, here's some info what I'm like as a person" 

[ph****]

I completely agree , profiles with not enough information, no limits , and profiles that have 100% dom or sub just means someone hasn't really been in the community enough or had enough experience to understand that everything is a spectrum and you must at least have a basic understanding of certain things before initiating or suggesting something with anyone. BDSM is based on honestly, trust and consent, not shooting an arrow in the darkness and hoping it hits something.

[Ne****]

I don't think you are, I've noticed the same on the ladies' side of things.

[la****]

Definitely not alone. If I see a profile isn't filled out I don't bother interacting at all

[ke****]

Yesterday at 01:26 AM, SmokeyJ said:

Seriously, go find another platform to be on. You're part of the problem.

Or you could quit being sexist and agree that women do it too! How about quit being rude before you get reported

[ke****]

Yesterday at 01:27 AM, SmokeyJ said:

One hundred percent they are.

And another thing just like someone else said. Some people aint here for a romance they just here for a meet up so why waste time

[Chainedsilk]

Agreed but yes it's a 2 way street. Everyone sound have something in their profile besides ask me.
Limits? Sure but post them but have some answers when asked about them.

[wa****]

Wow what a conversation. So many judmental people with very low perception of realitie and simple physcolgy. 1 what if there shy 2 what if there low confidence 3 what if there private or conserved person. 4 so many blk mailers scammers on these sites. so many reasons why somone may not fully filled in there profile sad see so many people judmental people. So sad guess just try else were eventually meet somone.

[ja****]

Sunday at 04:33 PM, cellofello said:

Actually, when a woman whose profile has been up long enough for the stats to be valid has a low response rate, it is a positive sign for me. Scammers tend to answer at a high rate. A low response rate tells me there's a good chance she's a genuine woman who simply has standards, and it makes me more likely to message if I think there''s a chance. Yes, often my message doesn't get an answer after I see it has been read, kind of confirming my impression. But I am upfront in my profile about a common dealbreaker (existing partners), so it's not a big surprise, especially if she hasn't said anything about monogamy in her own profile. Both of us have invested a minimal amount of time discovering we're not each other's cup of spiced chai latte. That's a win-win in my book.

Lol

[da****]

7 hours ago, wagga-wagga51330 said:

Wow what a conversation. So many judmental people with very low perception of realitie and simple physcolgy. 1 what if there shy 2 what if there low confidence 3 what if there private or conserved person. 4 so many blk mailers scammers on these sites. so many reasons why somone may not fully filled in there profile sad see so many people judmental people. So sad guess just try else were eventually meet somone.

This is not very applicable. I’m introverted and on the spectrum but my profile is still complete. It is not the best and is very basic but it gives some context to me. Online profiles are actually more comfortable for shy people because it allows the other person to start the conversation

[ey****]

8 hours ago, wagga-wagga51330 said:

Wow what a conversation. So many judmental people with very low perception of realitie and simple physcolgy. 1 what if there shy 2 what if there low confidence 3 what if there private or conserved person. 4 so many blk mailers scammers on these sites. so many reasons why somone may not fully filled in there profile sad see so many people judmental people. So sad guess just try else were eventually meet somone.

All sound like excuses.

If someone is too shy to fill out a profile, then they're also too shy to reach out to others. Therefore anyone who has been here a length of time and has not filled out a profile but is reaching out to others is not shy.

Low Confidence. Sucks. It really does. But if you can pluck up the confidence to reach out to someone you can pluck up the confidence for a couple of lines in your profile

Privacy, maybe. So you reach out to someone and they go  "so tell me about yourself" do you now not cos, y'know. Privacy. They could be anyone. 

Blackmailers and Scammers. If you genuinely think sites like this are unsafe then LEAVE. There is ZERO reason to be on here. Better still, disconnect your internet. Just don't be an idiot and put all your personal info on your profile. It's not hard.

[Ki****]

This is a summary what my profile says. It’s not super long, but it gives a good definition of
who am I.
What kinky shit I’m into.
What am I looking for.
generally where I live.
It doesn’t need to be seven pages long, but it needs to have some content for the regular person to get a grasp of who they’re looking at and if they come across as attractive to you so you can make a justification of if you want to reach out to them.
If you’re not comfortable doing that, you should not be on dating sites
 

[cellofello]

Saturday at 04:46 PM, Pueblodaddy said:

Most ppl are here for kinks and for desires not here to find a good healthy relationship go to a different site if thats what ur looking for smh women cant be serious lookin for there forever here not saying it cant happen or its not there but be realistic

Even if all you're looking for is a kinky play partner, not a soulmate, it still makes sense to fill out the BDSM profile and kink interests so that the rope bunnies and riggers can more easily recognize each other, ditto the spankers and spankees, etc.

[ma****]

Meh, getting to know the person with relinquish more about the person than reading a long bio....

[Ki****]

1 hour ago, madison73554 said:

Meh, getting to know the person with relinquish more about the person than reading a long bio....

I don’t think we’re talking about having a long bio
I think we’re just talking about a basic bio
Maybe a couple of paragraphs to give us a quick summary of the person that we’re looking at something to create more interest than a picture likes and dislikes and you know the sort of thing but just a blank profile feels like the person just doesn’t want to put forth any effort and it’s the person doesn’t wanna put any effort into their profile. It feels like they’re not going to put any effort into a relationship.

[ey****]

9 hours ago, madison73554 said:

Meh, getting to know the person with relinquish more about the person than reading a long bio....

it doesn't need to be a long bio though.

Like, I dunno - imagine going into a book store, or to pick a TV show or film to watch and the only thing you have to go by is one pic (at most) an ambigious title and no synopsis.  Do you pick that one "just in case" or do you go to the one which has a couple of lines which sounds like it might be interesting

It might NOT be interesting, but there's at least a description to give you an idea.  

[oa****]

You have a point, but don't close the door fully or you could miss out on something good, you dont want all the fishes in your tank at once or do you???

[ey****]

3 hours ago, oakland84776 said:

You have a point, but don't close the door fully or you could miss out on something good, you dont want all the fishes in your tank at once or do you???

the kinda FOMO notion is not without its flaws.  I mean, yes, it absolutely COULD be something good. But odds are it won't be. 

[cellofello]

4 hours ago, oakland84776 said:

You have a point, but don't close the door fully or you could miss out on something good, you dont want all the fishes in your tank at once or do you???

The problem frequently voiced by women is that too many male fishes jump into the tank whether wanted or not - even when there's an explicit statement about exactly which kind is wanted. Since fish - um, sorry, I mean people - have only a limited amount of time, having to do extensive research to check out each fish is also likely to miss out on something good simply due to lack of time. At the very least, the fishes that clearly identify themselves as the wanted type go to the front of the line.