One sentence ladies….

[Si****]

1 minute ago, Lady_Char said:

Wowsers. The comments on this post 🤣 I make very good ***. You do not have to earn equal to me to earn my respect; you do have to have your shit together and be able to fund and organize your own life, because I already have two kids and I'm not looking to parent any more.

Well said!

[Si****]

2 hours ago, sonofthunder777 said:

Also, women tend to not respect men who earn less than them. So high earning professional career women are actually at a disadvantage in terms of finding a husband. They'll want a man who makes equal to or more than them. So the more they make, the shallower the pool of potential mates becomes😋

My wife earn much more than me. I’m not bothered at all. We both respect each other equally on how we treat each other and for who we are. She is a very professional woman in a high payed role and I adore her strength.I find it very sexy and attractive. When she hand over full control to me with confidence and trust, I know her submission is the ultimate gift. Am I threatened? Not in the slightest. Once I earned more than her, but it’s not how much one earns that dictates who we are. 

[Si****]

25 minutes ago, Lady_Char said:

Wowsers. The comments on this post 🤣 I make very good ***. You do not have to earn equal to me to earn my respect; you do have to have your shit together and be able to fund and organize your own life, because I already have two kids and I'm not looking to parent any more.

I agree, the amount of *** you have is irrelevant, it’s how good you are with the *** you do have. So many people complain about there being more month left than pay check, but they alway find the *** for things they don’t need. Drinking at the bar but not paying their rent/ mortgages,, bills or tax. Men (or women) who don’t have their own house in order cannot ( should not) take control of someone else. I know of some littles ( not all I hasten to add) use being little to shy away from growing up and taking responsibility for their own lives. 

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Ladies keep on rocking it. We know our worth😘💖

[Psuedom]

4 hours ago, CopperKnob said:

You mean like the above sweeping statement?

Exactly like it. <pats her on the head for being so clever. You're the best. 🤭>

[AKA_Copper]

26 minutes ago, Psuedom said:

Exactly like it. <pats her on the head for being so clever. You're the best. 🤭>

Like a dog? I'd rather icecream

[Ar****]

On 10/26/2021 at 1:03 AM, eyemblacksheep said:

three trains of thought

The first ties in with something I've said before that men then don't know what they can offer.  Anything like status or security she already has - and with dick being of low value and abundant - he doesn't really know how to stand out and be someone she wants to be with

The second is sometimes tied with misogyny - whether intended or not and whether from the guy himself or ***r groups - that he might be seen as 'below' her which has gone against things he knows

The third is about control and it's more difficult to control someone who is financially independent, it's more difficult for some to create a structure where she is dependent on him making it more difficult for her to leave. This could also ward anyone off who is insecure in themselves.

I believe this was the perfect answer to this topic. 

 

Men are generally insecure so when you depend on them in some form or the other helps boost their ego. Maybe you should look for a secure man to build a relationship with.

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17 hours ago, lil-monster said:

I'm not married or got any kids and I'm nearly 40!!!!! And guess what!!!? I'M HAPPY lol I have a decent job where I get my pay check every month, I can look after myself even though I have my Sir he doesn't keep me so to speak. I earn my own *** and spend it how I like but again I say I'm happy as Larry. I agree with @Leisa it's a very sexist comment you've made 

One person is part of a demographic, not the entire demographic ;)

[Cu****]

Wow. I'm 40s single and earn 6 figures. My marriage was the most miserable time of my life living with an abusive narcissistic asshole drunken bastard who felt that he should be kept in style while destroying everything I was. 

 

Now as a successful single mother of 3, I'm getting on my feet. I contribute a lot to my Dom however there's no way I can physically accept financial assistance from him. 

 

Why are strong self sufficient people a challenge to others? What is the thought pattern behind tearing down those that have worked hard to get somewhere?  Why the inability to accept a rejection whether it is blunt or not. 

 

[Psuedom]

11 hours ago, CopperKnob said:

Like a dog? I'd rather icecream

What flavour/style? Should I get sprinkles or even a flake to put with it... Hang on, how the hell did I get convinced to get ice-cream after posting a book recommendation?!?! I have got to toughen up. 

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41 minutes ago, Gidorra said:

One person is part of a demographic, not the entire demographic

Erm....why have you quoted me but none of the other females here who have pretty much said the same as me on here??

[Deleted Member]

1 minute ago, lil-monster said:

Erm....why have you quoted me but none of the other females here who have pretty much said the same as me on here??

Because I like you the most

[Ju****]

Well... this post is a mixed bag of 'ehh.. erm..eek..nope..gtfo.. gaw..' and so on. 

 

I am glad to read those doing well despite some bizarre 'expectations' or 'facts' . 👏💙

[Sir-Taz]

19 hours ago, sonofthunder777 said:

Also, women tend to not respect men who earn less than them. So high earning professional career women are actually at a disadvantage in terms of finding a husband. They'll want a man who makes equal to or more than them. So the more they make, the shallower the pool of potential mates becomes😋

What a crock of crap hahaha

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I must add that I once watched "The Devil Wears Prada" so that makes me uniquely qualified to comment on such matters. Sigourney Weaver was SUCH a miserable bitch in that movie, and I think that can be offered in evidence to support the OP. We all know that the movie industry reflects the real world accurately, so perhaps we have been a little harsh here. 

[AKA_Copper]

1 hour ago, TheScribe said:

I must add that I once watched "The Devil Wears Prada" so that makes me uniquely qualified to comment on such matters. Sigourney Weaver was SUCH a miserable bitch in that movie, and I think that can be offered in evidence to support the OP. We all know that the movie industry reflects the real world accurately, so perhaps we have been a little harsh here. 

Do you mean Meryl Streep?

[AKA_Copper]

3 hours ago, Psuedom said:

What flavour/style? Should I get sprinkles or even a flake to put with it... Hang on, how the hell did I get convinced to get ice-cream after posting a book recommendation?!?! I have got to toughen up. 

Phish food please or the ever elusive cherry garcia plus sprinkles, maybe some marshmallows too?

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🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣Brilliant! 💖

[Deleted Member]

35 minutes ago, CopperKnob said:

Do you mean Meryl Streep?

You may well be right, CK, I have slept since I watch the film. x

[Deleted Member]

3 hours ago, Psuedom said:

What flavour/style? Should I get sprinkles or even a flake to put with it... Hang on, how the hell did I get convinced to get ice-cream after posting a book recommendation?!?! I have got to toughen up. 

Just get the ice cream and pipe down.

I also like Phish food...

[ey****]

On 10/28/2021 at 3:16 PM, sonofthunder777 said:

However, the happiest female demographic are stay at home moms who may or may not work, but who are married & have lots of family time. Sources & references can be provided if you want. These studies are fascinating & needless to say the feminist community was in an uproar over them lo

It depends on which studies you cite

So I've got one called The Demographics of Happiness from 2016 which looks at Temkin Groups 2016 consumer benchmark study analysing 10,000 and looking at their backgrounds on how they answered the question "I am typically happy" - that one concluded that happiness rises with age, education, income and marriage/family

Which probably backs up what you're saying.

However.

I've also got one from 2019.   Paul Dolan who is a behavioural scientist at the London School of Economics - he wrote a book called 'Happy Ever After' which looks at evidence from the American Time Use Survey.

This has a slightly different conclusion.

It found men were happier and healthier after marriage.  But women - unmarried and childless were the happiest  group overall.

One thing he did conclude however is that there was a stigma which would lead to unhappiness in women - as marriage and *** is often used as a benchmark for "success" and so stigma there did lead to some unhappiness in those groups.   I guess also the assumption that she is unhappy/desperate/etc which leads to more male chancers pushing themselves.   I remember years ago on this forum there was a short-lived member who basically was looking for a woman who was "older and overweight" because "she couldn't afford to be picky" and, well, says who? Him it seems.

(I actually hope that guy is back on this forum or another with a new username and a more positive attitude)

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The conclusion I draw.  Which ever study you decide to cite or look at.  If it's all so easy for women - why do we never see these unhappy women come to forums and take her pick of all the prime quality men that are just waiting for their opportunity to prove themselves?  With all the high quality male specimens some seem to think exist then surely she could cure her unhappiness in minutes.   

[Leisa]

5 hours ago, eyemblacksheep said:

It depends on which studies you cite

So I've got one called The Demographics of Happiness from 2016 which looks at Temkin Groups 2016 consumer benchmark study analysing 10,000 and looking at their backgrounds on how they answered the question "I am typically happy" - that one concluded that happiness rises with age, education, income and marriage/family

Which probably backs up what you're saying.

However.

I've also got one from 2019.   Paul Dolan who is a behavioural scientist at the London School of Economics - he wrote a book called 'Happy Ever After' which looks at evidence from the American Time Use Survey.

This has a slightly different conclusion.

It found men were happier and healthier after marriage.  But women - unmarried and childless were the happiest  group overall.

One thing he did conclude however is that there was a stigma which would lead to unhappiness in women - as marriage and *** is often used as a benchmark for "success" and so stigma there did lead to some unhappiness in those groups.   I guess also the assumption that she is unhappy/desperate/etc which leads to more male chancers pushing themselves.   I remember years ago on this forum there was a short-lived member who basically was looking for a woman who was "older and overweight" because "she couldn't afford to be picky" and, well, says who? Him it seems.

(I actually hope that guy is back on this forum or another with a new username and a more positive attitude)

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The conclusion I draw.  Which ever study you decide to cite or look at.  If it's all so easy for women - why do we never see these unhappy women come to forums and take her pick of all the prime quality men that are just waiting for their opportunity to prove themselves?  With all the high quality male specimens some seem to think exist then surely she could cure her unhappiness in minutes.   

Being single again I don’t recall a time when I was more at peace or content. Yes, it sucks my *** live in another state with their father, but it was a miserable marriage all around. I’m free, I’m financially stable, I live my life according to standards whereby I can look in the mirror in the morning and smile because I’m now living my dreams of attaining that which will only be a bonus to an already full life. I’m not rushing to find a Dom because I don’t need one who takes care of me financially. I want one who allows me that freedom to finish my education and expand my career without being threatened by those goals. His posts were machismo. If that’s the type of sub he wants he’ll probably find it but I’ll wait for the one who gives me the respect to know I am self aware and capable of doing it all whether with him or alone.

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On 10/26/2021 at 1:11 PM, nols said:

Lmao I literally sent you a message being *only nice* to you and you very rudely replied “this kinkster is not interested”. Who said I was? I was being polite, that’s it. You’re an asshole, get off your pedestal

Yes you can be polite but us ladies don't owe you anything, so yes we can send a no thanks and hide that's our choice and yeah you maybe only being polite and being nice but try having 50 odd messages a day from guys.........that will range from the good, the bad and the damn right ugly!!!!!! No we don't have to answer every message we get because you know what I have a life and don't have time to answer every single message..........

[VoyagerX]

Well as a male I can honestly say I don't wake up to 50 messages a day!

In fact imagine tumbleweed!

 

I do take your point though...

It must be very tedious once the novelties warn off.

Fortunately I'm not at that stage yet! 👍😁