sissy_petra_uk_slut Posted February 17, 2022 Ive been reading from other members, and from my own experinces, just how little, if at all people actually take the time to read the persons profile. How many times do you get asked for information on your profile, then ssked what you are looking for. I had a thought to help weed this out and eliminate some of the time wasting. Its not 100% foolproof, but it may reduce some of the messages, after all we are all busy people. Before contacting a person for the first time, we should tick a box to confirm we have read the persons profile. If you dont tick you cant message. Like i say, some people will just tick regardless, but it may reduce the numbers, and at least some of the people would have identifed what the member is here for, and its a good starter to actually communicate with that person on their likes and dislikes, even hobbies etc.
Deleted Member Posted February 17, 2022 A Questionnaire for them to answer before messaging would be nice too
sissy_petra_uk_slut Posted February 17, 2022 Author I was thinking of that also, would mean they have to read it then.
Du**** Posted February 17, 2022 My method is foolproof. Anyone who attempts to start a conversation with me by saying “Hey” has not read my profile and can be safely ignored: a) they’re clearly not the kind of person who bothers to read a profile; and b) they have no manners.
sissy_petra_uk_slut Posted February 17, 2022 Author That is another way, but you would still get a number of messages you need to open in your mail box
Du**** Posted February 17, 2022 1 minute ago, pappaman said: That is another way, but you would still get a number of messages you need to open in your mail box I just hide them without reading. Done.
ge**** Posted February 17, 2022 I think unfortunately the kind of person you are trying to weed out is the kind of person that would tick the box regardless and therefore what you are suggesting wouldn't make any difference. . Having been around sites like this one for some time now there is no foolproof way to eliminate those you don't want from messaging you - other than the one that DuchessFeuille uses. . It comes down to using your own instincts and judgement ultimately - I can usually tell from a first message received whether someone is someone I would want to get to know or not.
sissy_petra_uk_slut Posted February 17, 2022 Author I agree to some extent, as i mentioned it is not foolproof, but may reduce some numbers, others also engage in normal conversation then after some messages in, relate to something clearly in the profile which you oppose too.
Cimky Posted February 17, 2022 I would love it if the 1st contact 1st message ***d them to type more then a god dam "hi" minimum words required lol after that one word answer is ok if it answers the question asked but I refuse to respond to hi only
sissy_petra_uk_slut Posted February 17, 2022 Author Possibly a minimum of so many words, like that idea.
Bctazz Posted February 17, 2022 Agree but there are many on here that the profile is fake so you waste time talking only to find out this information. Just saying
sissy_petra_uk_slut Posted February 17, 2022 Author You may find that if they are fake, they wont bother ticking the boxes, and if a question was imported they wouldnt bother at all.
Ki**** Posted February 17, 2022 There's already an option to set a minimum number of characters for someone's first message to you. You explore the settings. I would personally like to see it if you could not message someone who hasn't written anything in their bio. This would dramatically reduce the number of new accounts that get hassled.
Deleted Member Posted February 17, 2022 I think there is a setting for you to set the minimum amount of words a person must send in there message unless it's been removed. You can also put things in there like start your message by saying blah blah and then you know they read your profile
ey**** Posted February 17, 2022 I think there is a thing where... just because someone has sent you a message - doesn't even mean you need to read it
Cimky Posted February 17, 2022 40 minutes ago, Bctazz said: Agree but there are many on here that the profile is fake so you waste time talking only to find out this information. Just saying Sadly fake profiles you will find everywhere non even everyone you meet in person will be true but reading through the profile gives you an idea and someone that use a fake profile does not always pay attention to small details or they pay to much attention to the small details so when looking at a profiles trust your gut and look for those that just a little too much to either side of the scale
Firefox_ Posted February 17, 2022 As my profile states I'm uninterested in any current new relationships and to find me in the chat if they'd like to say hello as a friend, I just ignore the messages from those that clearly ignored this.
Cimky Posted February 17, 2022 6 minutes ago, eyemblacksheep said: I think there is a thing where... just because someone has sent you a message - doesn't even mean you need to read it True but gosh the number of fools in your inbox can drive anyone insane somedays lol time of the week also plays a role from today till sat afternoon the fools comes out to play more actively then earlier in the week its like they have nothing better to do
Cimky Posted February 17, 2022 36 minutes ago, KinkyKy said: There's already an option to set a minimum number of characters for someone's first message to you. You explore the settings. I would personally like to see it if you could not message someone who hasn't written anything in their bio. This would dramatically reduce the number of new accounts that get hassled. I need to find that setting
sissy_petra_uk_slut Posted February 17, 2022 Author My point exactly, quality not quantity of messages
Deleted Member Posted February 17, 2022 9 hours ago, Cimky said: I need to find that setting In the browser/pc site it’s better on getting all the things you want the person to have before the message you. It’s under Settings and then message filters. I have a lot of check box so it would be hard for a person to message me, well the unwanted ones lol, and even with more than 500 words and other things, they still able to message me with only a hi. Unfortunately a few people found out how to override it, go around it, and don’t have to met does requirements which sucks. I do get fewer messages than I used to be for.
Cimky Posted February 18, 2022 4 hours ago, Amy4U said: In the browser/pc site it’s better on getting all the things you want the person to have before the message you. It’s under Settings and then message filters. I have a lot of check box so it would be hard for a person to message me, well the unwanted ones lol, and even with more than 500 words and other things, they still able to message me with only a hi. Unfortunately a few people found out how to override it, go around it, and don’t have to met does requirements which sucks. I do get fewer messages than I used to be for. I found the settings thanks. Will see how it goes
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