What is online play like and is it worth the time?

[Deleted Member]

I’ve been curious of what online play is like. Since I’ve never done it before and don’t know what to expect, I always stay away from them because I don’t want to waste anyones time. Yet a lot of people seem to be into them and so I’m wondering what is the play like/involve? And in your opinion is it worth it?

[ge****]

It can be whatever you and the other person want it to be - for some it'll be effectively sexting, sending an interactive story back and forth as to what is imagined would be happening if you were together.
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For others it may involve video, or a dominant providing instructions for a submissive to follow, or tasks for them to fulfill and provide "proof" and various other things besides.
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Be wary though as it could also be an elaborate scam designed to draw you in and hand *** over - so have your guard up to that possibility - if you're approached to get involved in it, and it seems too good to be true, it usually is.

[ge****]

As to whether it's worth the time - between two consenting and aligned individuals it can be very intense - though pick the wrong partner and it can be toe curlingly bad.

[pa****]

Depends of the other person. It can be extremely fun or can be extremely borimg

[Attaboy4u]

The advent of remote controlled toys like vibrators and estim take it to another level

[Darren-wm]

Im currently doing one now of THE CNC teacher & student dynamic

[Lord_Talion]

From my experience it's hardly worth the time when you can be doing it IRL

[Deleted Member]

Even the best online play cannot replace the intimacy and experience of live play. Without the intimacy, it’s all artificial to me, including the mental connection. I’ve tried it many times. I just end up frustrated.

[Deleted Member]

33 minutes ago, Attaboy4u said:

The advent of remote controlled toys like vibrators and estim take it to another level

That’s mainly why I’m curious. I have some remote control toys but I don’t trust the online dynamic haha 😅.

[Deleted Member]

24 minutes ago, nycgentledaddy said:

Even the best online play cannot replace the intimacy and experience of live play. Without the intimacy, it’s all artificial to me, including the mental connection. I’ve tried it many times. I just end up frustrated.

Yea I feel like I’m on the same page as you. I require that intimacy and connection.

[ey****]

a big factor also is what do you mean by 'online play' because like any other forms of play it can have many facets

there's a Domme friend who lives far from me, who I do swap messages with most days - this is worth my while because we are chatting.  we don't, however, do any form of play.    

If she suddenly message me tomorrow and asked me to be in role when I message her, and do tasks, then it could be fun and worthwhile - but then we've met and know each other.   Not that I necessarily want that from her.  But, I dunno. 

[CJ****]

here’s how I see it. Online play is a good way to get a quick fix, but it’s by no means a good option for long term

[Dp****]

It can be great I've done online roleplay and have had times that it went for hours. I always think of it like a script or a scene from a book. Lots of descriptive words and phrases. But some people like webcam play just depends on what you agree on.

[Deleted Member]

It can be fun to try out some new ideas to see if you like them, research how you’d like people to respond to your ideas, figure out vocabulary etc.

[Th****]

I Play with a dominant online - he's in Italy, I'm in Australia. We have 'Obedient Sessions' where I have my camera set up and I follow his orders. It is hot as hell for me. Whilst I'm working towards finding a real-life Play Partner, this type of online play is a really good substitute.

[sW****]

I have had online partners. There is an element of safety to it, but it can also be distancing...having to slap yourself or beat your own a** isn't exactly the same. But, it can be very exciting, very private, and a very good way to experiment with limits while being physically removed from possible ***. Be careful. Have fun!!

[BadDesires]

Online play can be awesome if you manage to find the right partner.

There are risks so trust between you is important, establish clear boundaries and don't rush into anything which makes you feel uncomfortable.

Be aware complex feelings can grow and evolve the more you connect. Like any relationship you need to respect the other person and make sure you're always on the same page.

Unlike some I think it's possible to experience intimacy in an online relationship, especially with technology and if you're both open and honest with each other.

A lack of physical contact can be a frustrating challenge but there are ways round it with modern toys and it may be possible to consider additional play partners in the dynamic.

Just be aware one of you may get clingy, eventually expect real time meets, the other may feel suffocated and ghost. This will make you both feel awful so you both need to be clear on expectations and try and avoid any misunderstandings.

[ma****]

Ive found online can be complementary to and not instead of in person encounters.

[ja****]

I mostly use online play to write about crazy/wild fantasies. Could be sex while skydiving kind of crazy or writing about the other person's fantasies to turn them on. I.e. they have a shower r**e fantasy but don't know how to initiate that so I'll present a scenario for them. It's a safe way to flirt and role play. I don't think you're leading anyone on because this already is an online forum.